Passing by a courtyard in the countryside, I saw a child crying loudly, and my mother comforted her with pain.
The mother lovingly put her arms around the child with one hand, slapped the floor hard with the other, and said to the child:
"Oops! It's all this dirt foot uneven, harmful baby boy servant fall, mother for you to shoot dirt feet, oops! ”
The mother's action of slapping the ground was very funny and exaggerated, so that the crying child could not help but burst into laughter.
As I stood and watched this scene, I felt very warm in my heart, thinking that my mother had comforted me in the past. Not only my mother, but also the parents in the countryside used to comfort their children in this way.
When he was tripped by a branch while running, he broke the branch and said, "Bad branch!" How can I trip up my good boy. When he accidentally fell while walking, he scolded the land and said, "How can I harm my obedient child from falling?" Even if there was no reason to fall, he couldn't find anything to blame, so he scolded the wind and said, "It's the wind that makes my heart and liver fall." ”
When we are young, we will believe that the fall is because of the wind, the land or the branches, and we will also find excuses to comfort ourselves like our parents, but we do not realize that we are not careful to walk.
I remember once, I was running in front of the doorway, and I accidentally fell and my head was broken and bleeding. Mom ran out of the stove, looked left and right, and couldn't find anything to scold, because the ground in front of the court was very flat, with no branches or small pebbles.
Mom had been shy for a long time, and I had already stood up, and she was still there, with a spatula in her hand, looking a little funny.
My mother looked at me and looked at her, thinking that I was going to cry out loud, and suddenly scolded the heavens loudly: "It's all such a vicious wind, blowing Ah Xuanzai down!" ”
I stroked the wound on my head and said to my mother, "Mom, it wasn't because of the wind, it was me who accidentally fell down." ”
At that time, there was really only sunlight in front of the court, and there was no wind at all.
Mom smiled as brightly as the sun, came over to examine my wounds, and said happily, "You're a big man!" ”
What my mother meant was that when I grew up, I could bear my mistakes and failures. When we find that any form of fall is due to our own carelessness, rather than making excuses, then we are like when we fall emotionally and in marriage, just like when we were children... Even uneven ground, thorny roads, winds and rainstorms should not be an excuse for us to fall. The most important things to examine are errors and failures.
The child's fall is at best a flesh and skin injury, and the marriage setback is at best a cone of the bone, and will not hurt the essence of emotion. Therefore, a person should not be hurt in love, and he should lose the courage to love; nor should a person suffer, he should lose the heart to bear. There can be no excuse for finding the innermost essence of life. When we still have excuses, the essence is not revealed.
I have no excuse for the hurt of my past feelings and the frustration of my marriage, which is the inevitable path of my life. I am also willing to take on any criticism and treat it as a stone step, going to a higher position to look back at my own life.
If we can learn a broader mind in every journey, and we can not lose the courage of true love and the pursuit of beauty, don't all setbacks also have profound significance? I stood and looked at the image of the mother who slapped the land to comfort the child, and while recalling the past, I thought that there may never be a peaceful day in our lives, but we must make our hearts peaceful, only in the moment.
Anchor | Zhao Ru
Article Source: Lee Eun Miscellaneous
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Editor: Du Qiangqiang
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