The class teacher who has been teaching for ten years tells you that when a child buys these three things, he must be "early love"
Early love is not a problem
The key is how parents handle it
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Not long ago, several old friends gathered, and the topic of children's "early love" was talked about during the banquet
As a result, one of my friends, who works in the hospital, told us such a story
Xiaoli, a 16-year-old high school girl, has been well-behaved and obedient since she was a child
It can be said that it is the "daughter of someone else' family" in the minds of many parents.
But when the kid went to high school, it was like a changed person
Not only did he learn to make up and dress up, but he often skipped school and skipped class, and his grades were getting backwards day by day
At this time, the parents were called to the school and learned through communication with the teacher
The reason why children are like this is because of early love with the same table
So the parents reprimanded Xiaoli and asked the two to break up quickly
At school, students are also talking about this
For a time, this girl was blocked and opposed by everyone, and even ridiculed
Under the huge mental pressure, the girl finally could not bear it, she began to hate school, disgusted with school, locked herself in the room all day, either crying or laughing, and did not eat
At this point, the parents were completely stupid, so they had to take their children to the hospital to see a doctor, and it turned out that the degree of depression and anxiety of the children was already very serious
Listening to this friend's words, several parents with children were naturally terrified
Especially the parents of girls, they have said that "early love is not advisable" and "early love is too terrible"
At this time, another friend who had been teaching for decades and had been a class teacher for ten years told us
In fact, children's early love is a sign, and there is no need to be so afraid, or to observe the child more
We hurried to ask what the signs were, and he said the following
I share these words here today, and I hope to help you
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In life, I often hear some parents complaining
Today's children fall in love early and are very good at underground work
Many times when you find out, it's too late
I have a friend whose daughter was in love for three years in high school
The couple was stunned that they did not find out until before the college entrance examination, and the daughter muttered that her menstruation had not come
When I asked, I learned that she and her table had been in love for several years, and some time ago the two finally couldn't help but taste the forbidden fruit, and they were recruited
The friend and the couple were confused on the spot, and the two people were almost angry to death
In fact, according to my experience as a class teacher for so many years
I've found that children who fall in love early are generally more unusual than usual, especially when you find that children buy these three things
In general, the child is definitely "early love" no doubt
Couple shoes
The children who go to school wear almost all of their uniforms every day, and they look no different from each other
When one of the children is "in early love", they will find ways to become different from the surroundings
At this time, buying couple shoes is a good choice
That is, it is secret and can express the heart well, which is a good way to express the heart of the teenager
So when you find out, children have the situation of buying couple shoes
Just pay attention, maybe your child is "early love" with someone else
Couples bags
To say that students use the most, I think backpacks must be in the top three
Especially for children who do not live in school, they need to carry a backpack every day to and from school
At this time, a pair of early love students will choose the same color or the same type of backpack to show love
As a parent, if you notice that your child is always walking side by side with a classmate
And the backpack on the back is also similar, then there is a good chance that these two children are in early love
Couples table
Whether it is a couple's shoes or a couple's backpack, it is actually easy to find
Therefore, some more cautious students will choose a couple watch, not only high privacy, but also the watch has a metaphor of "a table of love"
For couples and children in love, it is undoubtedly a good choice
Of course, if you want to prevent your child from falling in love early, you want to prevent your child from getting hurt
In fact, parents still need to pay more attention to their children, accompany their children more, and strive to talk to their children often
When your child treats you as a friend, then you will naturally learn about it for the first time
Also, if your child confesses to telling you that you like someone or want to be with someone, don't suppress your child
Be calm and carefully guided
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In fact, many truths are understood by everyone, but once they fall on their own children
Parents are prone to care and chaos, and are overly nervous
We often see some parents who wantonly invade their children's privacy in order to prevent their children from "early love"
The diary should be read, the mobile phone should be turned over, and even if you go to play with your classmates, you will ask your child to report the itinerary
As a result, the child is becoming more and more distant from you, even full of vigilance
Not only will I not tell you my heart and secrets, but even the circle of friends will not let you see it
So, when you find that children may be in "early love", what should you do, according to my more than ten years of experience in leading classes
I think as long as parents do these two things, there will be no problem
Don't casually button your child's hat
Many times, the child may simply appreciate and like, or just be more compatible
As a result, the parents did not say a word, and they decided that the child was in early love
At this time, the children will deliberately walk together because of rebellion
The reason why this situation occurs is because adolescent children, their mental development is not yet complete, it is easy to get angry
As parents, we should treat and guide our children with a peaceful attitude
When you find that your child has a crush on a member of the opposite sex, or is curious, remember to tell him that this is a normal and beautiful thing
At this time, the child will open up to you because of your respect and understanding
Then the next thing you have to do is to guide the child well
It is better to block than to unblock
Many times, the more you object, the more nervous you become
The more rebellious the child, or even a careless, it will also lead to psychological problems in the child, and even endanger life
I saw such a news story not long ago
A mother forced the two to break up because of her daughter's early love, and then repeatedly ridiculed and humiliated the boy as "a toad wants to eat swan meat"
As a result, he was stabbed to death by an extreme boy
Teenagers' emotions are very sensitive and paranoid, as parents must first calm down, remember "blocking is not as good as slacking"
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Professor Li Meijin, a famous educator, once said such a passage
"When you find that your child is in love early, you must not stalemate with your child, do not reprimand, do not scold."
You can write a letter to your child, tell your child that when you know that someone loves her, you are very happy and proud of him, and then help your child analyze the pros and cons and guide your child to recognize his heart and reality."
This means that we are dealing with the problem of early love in our children
Don't help your child make decisions, but give your child advice and let him judge for himself
In the best years, I can meet the people I like
It is a very fortunate thing, but the child is still young after all, and parents should pay more attention to this matter of early love
The only thing to note is that
Pay attention to communication skills, and don't turn luck into misfortune because of a momentary rush!
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