Falling in love is a matter between two people, as long as the two are happy with each other. But marriage is not so simple, marriage involves a lot of people and many things, every seemingly inadvertent detail, may lead to unhappy marriage.
Therefore, when the girl is looking for a partner, she must not only look at the young man's personality, but also look at the situation in his family. When a girl marries, she is not just marrying a man, but marrying a family.
If the in-laws are upright, the in-laws are upright and kind-hearted, the young men are of good character, and they love the girl deeply, then even if the material conditions of the in-laws are worse, the girl will be happy after marriage. On the contrary, it is difficult to be happy, and even a very bad life.
Of all the family relationships, the mother-in-law relationship is the most difficult to get along with. When the girl observes the situation of the in-laws' family, she should especially see what kind of person the mother-in-law is, and sometimes the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will directly determine the marriage relationship.
The girl did not care about her in-laws, but after marriage, she divorced because of her in-laws
Xiao Qi is a city girl, very beautiful, and has a good job. There are many young men who pursue Xiao Qi, and there are many elders who introduce objects to Xiao Qi, and the conditions of these objects are very good. But Xiao Qi fell in love with Ginger, Ginger came from the countryside, and the two soon fell in love.
At that time, Xiao Qi did not know the specific situation of Ginger's family, only that Ginger had an older sister, who was married, and her parents were in the countryside. Xiao Qi imagined the situation in Ginger's family with common sense, and she assumed that Ginger's parents were also working.
After dating for more than a year, when she was ready to get married, Xiao Qi found that Neither of Ginger's parents had a job. Therefore, they didn't care about their son's marriage at all, and Ginger's mother also said with vigor and words: "If you want your parents to pay for the marriage, what about the son named Hanako?" ”
Ginger and her sister were raised by grandparents, their parents had been nibbling on the old age, they didn't work at all, and the house was bought by their grandparents when they got married. After Ginger and his sister grew up, their grandparents died one after another, and their parents rented out the house where their grandparents lived, and the couple lived on rent.
After learning the real situation of Ginger's family, Xiao Qi's parents did not agree to this marriage, but Xiao Qi is a girl with single-minded feelings, and her feelings have been overwhelmed. She thought that she was married to Ginger anyway, not to his parents, what kind of people his parents were, it had nothing to do with her.
Because Xiao Qi insisted on marrying Ginger, her parents had no choice but to compromise in the end. In order not to let her daughter suffer hardships, her parents gave Xiao Qi a marriage room and also handled the marriage. After marriage, Xiao Qi wanted to live a good life with Ginger, but her in-laws were always haunted by their marriage.
The mother-in-law will come to her son's house every three to five minutes, and every time she comes, she asks Ginger for money, for various reasons. For example, if she has a toothache and wants to go to the doctor; for example, if a relative wants to do a happy event, they have to give gifts; for example, she has no clothes to wear and wants to buy new clothes...
But in fact, after the mother-in-law took the money, she used it for her father-in-law to play mahjong. Previously, the income of the old couple was mainly based on rent, and there was a need to ask their daughter for it. Now that the son is married, and the daughter-in-law is still a city girl, they ask the son's family for money, so the bet on playing mahjong is getting bigger and bigger.
Although Ginger is not satisfied with his parents, his parents are parents after all, and he can only meet their parents' requirements again and again. If he gives less money at any time, not only will his parents mess with him, but his sister will also put pressure on him. Because he paid the money, his sister did not have to come out, so the sister also forced him very strongly.
As a result, Ginger's salary was almost all given to his parents, and the family's expenses all depended on Xiao Qi alone. Xiao Qi has a lot of opinions, they still want children, they don't have some savings in hand, how can they do it? Because of her in-laws and eldest sister, and because of money, Xiao Qi and Ginger always quarreled.
After two years of marriage, Xiao Qi became pregnant, and she thought that her husband would not give all the money to her in-laws. But the in-laws treated their son as an ATM machine, or constantly asked their son for money, Ginger was also helpless, he could not get rid of his parents, he could only compromise again and again.
Later, when the mother-in-law came to ask for money again, Xiao Qi quarreled with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law is very strong, saying that if they give birth to a son, the son will have to give them a pension and send them to the end, and they must bear their living expenses. Xiao Qi was very angry, saying that this house was hers, and she drove her mother-in-law out, and her mother-in-law pushed her hard.
After Xiao Qi was pushed to the ground, her lower body bled, and she immediately called Ginger and her parents. After Xiao Qi was sent to the hospital, Ginger did not have the money to pay the hospital deposit, and Xiao Qi's parents rushed to pay.
Finally, the child was drained. When the couple was feeling sad, his father-in-law called and said that he had lost 5,000 yuan in mahjong and asked Ginger to help him pay off his debts. Ginger had no money and could only ask Xiao Qi for help, but Xiao Qi refused and filed for divorce.
After being discharged from the hospital, Xiao Qi insisted on divorcing Ginger, and she regretted that she did not listen to her parents.
Marriage must depend on the person of the in-laws
When many girls get married, they have the same idea as Xiao Qi, thinking that they are married to this man, and how his family is, it has nothing to do with themselves. But in fact, how can it not matter? The man you marry is the son of your in-laws, and the relationship between the son and his parents is always and continuously cut.
If there is no in-laws, Xiao Qi and Ginger will also live a very happy life, and they will be like many small couples, relying on their own efforts to build a small family. If the father-in-law is not good at gambling, and the in-laws are all people who live a good life, Xiao Qi and Ginger will also be very happy.
But because the in-laws kept asking their son for money, they used their son as an ATM machine, which eventually led to Xiao Qi and Ginger divorcing. Therefore, what kind of person the in-laws are will directly affect the marriage of the little couple, and the girls must not be naïve enough to think that the in-laws have nothing to do with themselves.
When choosing a lifelong partner, girls should listen to the opinions of their parents. After all, parents are people who have come over, have experienced more things, and seen more people, and their vision will be more accurate. At that time, if Xiao Qi listened to her parents and stopped the loss in time, she would not have today's ending.
When a person gets married and starts a family, he must focus on a small family
Gambling is a bottomless pit, in fact, Ginger should resolutely reject his parents, filial piety to parents is not so filial piety. Parents must first have the appearance of parents, if parents are gambling and want to ask their son for gambling funds, then the son should resolutely refuse.
The son's blind satisfaction of his parents out of filial piety will only make his parents' desire to gamble more and more, because they do not have to worry about gambling funds.
Ginger's mother doesn't gamble, but she is very supportive of her husband's gambling, which is similar to her own gambling. If she opposes her husband's gambling and does not let her children gamble with her husband, perhaps her husband will not gamble. Therefore, in the face of her husband's gambling, whether the wife supports or opposes, the result is completely different.
When a man gets married and has a family, he should put a small family first and properly filial piety to his parents. If Ginger can adhere to this principle, no matter how his parents and sister force him, he will protect the interests of his small family, Xiao Qi will not divorce him.
The family is a husband and wife, and it must be jointly worked together. The husband only cares about the people in his original family, ignores his wife, and does not contribute to the small family, then this small family will certainly not be able to maintain it for a long time.
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