Many parents often say to their children, "You look at who is who, you look at you again", the implication is that other people's children are better than their own children, and parents are very envious. There is no doubt that all parents want their children to be the best.
However, many parents do not know that children have the same expectations as their parents, and they also want to have good parents. From the original work of "Xiao MinJia", Jin Jiajun's emotional change towards his stepfather Chen Zhuo reflects this.
Speaking of Jin Jiajun's stepfather, Chen Zhuo, he has to say that his biological father, Jin Bo, "A man who is mixed in the state-owned enterprise security section of a small city, has a big belly and poops, and knows how to play mahjong and push card nine." This is jin jiajun's own father.
In the eyes of Jin Jiajun, Jin Bo is a poor person abandoned by the times. Jin Jiajun didn't even want to communicate too much with Jin Bo, because Jin Bo said that he would just say a few words.
But because Jin Bo is his father, Jin Jiajun also takes good care of Jin Bo and does not dislike him.
When Jin Jiajun knew that his mother Liu Xiaomin was going to marry his stepfather Chen Zhuo, Jin Jiajun did not know Chen Zhuo at that time, although he did not object, he still felt that he could not integrate into the new family, so he returned to his hometown.
The relationship between Jin Jiajun and Chen Zhuo improved after Chen Zhuo invited Jin Jiajun to start a business together, and Jin Jiajun was slowly conquered by Chen Zhuo's personality charm through long-term relationship with Chen Zhuo.
Here, he reacquaints and examines the middle-aged man his mother has chosen in front of him—a type completely different from his father, Jimbo. After understanding Chen Zhuo's dilemmas, ideals and ambitions, Jia Jun slowly felt that he did not seem so annoying. ”
"All this time, he has treated Chen Zhuo like a complete friend. Chen Zhuo is calm, calm, tenacious and optimistic. It is a completely different type of man from his father Jin Bo, a man who has cultivated in life and has special charm. ”
Jin Jiajun started a business with Chen Zhuo, and he felt Chen Zhuo's ideals and ambitions.
The same middle-aged man, after his own father was laid off, has completely failed to keep up with the trend of the times, doing nothing, getting by, while the stepfather Chen Zhuo has not collapsed after experiencing unemployment, and is still fighting for ideals, family and lovers.
Chen Zhuo did not regard Jin Bo as an enemy at all, because in Chen Zhuo's subconscious, Jin Bo was no longer worthy to be his enemy.
However, Jin Bo had to compete with Chen Zhuo, and he forced his son Jin Jiajun to ask him and Chen Zhuo who was the "Great Sage of Qi Tian", Jin Jiajun obviously did not like this illogical comparison, but he also had to perfunctory Jin Bo to say that he was the real Monkey King.
In fact, letting children admit that their parents are inferior to others is as difficult and painful as admitting that they are inferior to others.
But a mature child with the ability to think independently, he can already analyze the gap between his parents and other people's parents, but he will not be like his parents comparing themselves with other people's children, to the face of their parents to say that their parents are inferior to others, he knows that his parents will be sad, so he would rather lie to satisfy the vanity of his parents.
Although Jin Jiajun's biological father, Jin Bo, repeatedly smeared Chen Zhuo in front of Jin Jiajun, and even nicknamed Chen Zhuo a "dog", in Jin Jiajun's eyes, his father was a completely weak and pitiful person, and no amount of smearing could stop his heart from slowly moving closer to Chen Zhuo.
Chen Zhuo's mind occasionally had a thought: How good would JiaJun be if he were his own son. He is happy for Xiaomin, the marriage is bumpy, but he has a good son. Coincidentally, in the middle of the night, Jin Jiajun was lying on the dormitory bed, and he had a similar thought in his head: How good would Chen Zhuo be if he were his own father. Then there would be no mustard, no estrangement, and a complete and complete battle of father and son soldiers. “
The proudest of Jin Bo's failed life is his son Jin Jiajun. Jin Bo would not have thought that his son would not be proud of him, and his son would even wish he had a better father.
Many parents are similar to Jin Bo, they live a good life, blindly asking their children to be self-motivated, and when the children have a job, they show off everywhere and become complacent; if the children are also a mediocre person, they blindly demean the children, and envy and hate other people's children every day.
Everyone should take responsibility for their own lives, rather than pinning their hopes on others, including their own children.
Parents want excellent children, in fact, children also want excellent parents, who does not want to be surrounded by excellent people? Who doesn't want to enjoy glory without getting too tired?
Why don't parents try to live their lives well? But think of your child's success as your own?
As a parent, have you ever thought that you deserve a successful child?