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Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life" can be called "the rich flower in the world", her husband Chen Junsheng is a young talent, with an annual salary of one million, what was Luo Zijun's life before he was divorced? Although she doesn't have a job, she doesn't have to take care of her children herself, but spends most of her time shopping, afternoon tea and beauty.
After all, as soon as he graduated from college, he got married, married a good man, and then he could be Mrs. Kuo, what a beautiful life, the husband is golden, the children are well-behaved, and life is not to mention how happy it is.
Luo Zijun is very well married, but is marriage her eternal haven?
We also know the later plot development, Chen Junsheng is still cheating, Luo Zijun how can not think of a divorced old woman can also seduce her husband. Is Luo Zijun wrong? Wrong, she is wrong in not knowing how to grow up after marriage, she has been living a life of drunken gold fans, enjoying the glory and wealth brought to her by Chen Junsheng, but she ignores a reality: love is not a lifetime? Even if you are married, you can't live a lifetime, and men will change their hearts.
So when she loses Chen Junsheng's love, it means that someone else has to take her place.
Luo Zijun eventually divorced Chen Junsheng, without Chen Junsheng's protection, her life became difficult, and everything had to start from scratch. I think she also graduated from the same university as Tang Jing, but one was desperate in the workplace, and the other was walking around her husband, and as a result, Luo Zijun and Tang Jing could be said to be very different after being divorced. Become a canary raised in a deep boudoir, and over time, you will lose the ability to survive.
After Luo Zijun's divorce, everything had to start from scratch. She also understands that marriage is not her eternal safe haven, only when she is strong can she become her eternal safe haven. The mountain will fall, the water will flow, everyone will run, only they are the most reliable, and they will never fail themselves.
What about the rich flowers that were originally in the world?
After marriage, I was still a little three or four little five, and as a result, my husband was still pried away by others, and then he was beaten back to his original form, or he had to rely on himself. Luo Zijun in the TV series has the help of Tang Jing and He Han, and his life is not very sad; but what about Luo Zijun in reality? They are not so lucky, and there are good friends and male girlfriends who can help.
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Let's talk about Gu Jia in "Thirty Only", she is also a "rich flower in the world".
Gu Jia is very capable, she is a good hand at taking care of her husband's children in life, she can also help her husband in business, and she is also a rich wife with eight exquisite faces. How rich and interesting her life is, morning running and practicing yoga, then telling her husband and children to get up, and then bringing breakfast to them, sending the children to kindergarten, husband also went to work, she began to open her own life again. She learned baking and was a skillful mother; she also went to help her husband talk about business, and she let him get through the difficulties many times. They also moved to the most luxurious area in Shanghai, and she was also actively squeezing into the group of Shanghai celebrities Mrs. Kuo.
On Gu Jia's thirtieth birthday, her husband Xu Huanshan held a big party for her, their husband and wife were so affectionate and kissed under the cheers of everyone, gu Jia at that time should be the happiest woman in the world. But who expected that the good times would not last long, and Xu Huanshan still derailed.
When the cornerstone of trust in marriage was destroyed, Gu Jia was also deeply devastated.
Those who marry well and are rich flowers in the world, is their marriage their eternal safe haven?
Gu Jia did not give up on herself after getting married, but what can she do? She still couldn't keep her marriage. However, Gu Jia did not give up on herself, so it would be much easier for her to climb up than Luo Zijun. A woman is very strong herself, even if you are crushed for a while, but you can still easily stand up.
Gu Jia divorced Xu Huanshan, she took her son alone to fight for her career, the prosperity of the past is no longer there, fortunately she did not lose herself. Therefore, sometimes those glories and riches are just clouds, you may be very rich for a while, and in a few years, your hard days are still ahead. If you have the ability to keep yourself comfortable for a lifetime, but if you are overthrown by others, then your fate must also be determined by others.
Whether it is Luo Zijun or Gu Jia, they all tell us a truth: women you still have to be strong, you have to have your own career, men and marriage are not your lifelong backers. Although you marry a rich man and enjoy a moment of glory and wealth, if your marriage changes, you can easily be beaten back to its original form. Only you have your own talent is really there, don't let yourself be too comfortable, to convert men's resources into your own resources, this is your own, others can not take away.
We often envy girls who marry well, in the eyes of most people, what is a good marriage? It is nothing more than that the husband is very capable and rich, and then he can give her a very good life. When others are still worried about the mortgage, she buys designer bags without blinking, and the skin care products are all sets of aquamarine mystery and Helena, all big brands. She dressed herself very delicately, ten fingers did not stick to the spring water, and invited several nannies.
The rich wives who sunbathe their own rich lives on a certain sound can always attract the envy of many girls, after all, who does not want to live a rich life? But those rich flowers in the world, is life really good after marriage?
Alain in the circle of friends is married to a rich husband, her life is indeed quite famous, before the epidemic is often out of various places to travel, often go abroad; after the epidemic, she will still fly to Sanya for a vacation, or it is the surrounding five-star hotel. Anyway, when you go to see her circle of friends, it is completely a look of not eating fireworks in the world, the years are quiet, the husband and wife love, and an extremely good life. She originally had a job, but since she got married, she has returned home to be a kotai.
I still talked to her a lot before, but then I felt that my life was too far away from her, and I gradually became estranged. She later contacted me again and said she was divorcing, which surprised me. After that, she rarely sent a circle of friends, I learned through friends that she was divorced, and then after the divorce, her life was all on her own, she also sold the brand-name bags she bought before, without a rich husband, life was almost beaten back to its original shape almost overnight.
Of course, she still got some money, but without the cash cow, you always feel that your life is in jeopardy.
Therefore, no one can be your eternal safe haven, marry well is a moment, the real good marriage is that you do not give up on yourself, there is a career that can let you survive. Don't settle down once and for all in a comfortable life, otherwise if you are divorced one day, can you live on your own?
The rich and noble flowers in the world are like fairies who do not eat fireworks in the world, but by relying on people to raise them, can they raise you for a lifetime?
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Before talking to a friend about "rich flowers in the world", the friend said: If my husband is rich, I don't care if he cheats or not? Every month, just give me the money and let him cheat. Isn't that cheating? How big is the matter?
Listening to her talk like this, I laughed, and I said, you don't care if he cheats or not, but what if he wants to change people? Or do the women out there want to take their place?
When you put the hope of survival on others, then your fate is naturally controlled by him, the rich husband is the face and son of those broad wives, the husband loves her well, but if you don't love, you will be beaten back to the original shape in minutes. But those women who have money themselves are another matter, they are very good and have money and their own careers, even if they are divorced, they can still live well.
Those who marry well in the world, their marriage is certainly not their eternal safe haven, but they can live an extremely good life, if they want to keep their marriage, tie up their men, to constantly enrich and improve themselves, but also to fight with the little three and four, they also have to turn themselves into "fertility machines", to have a few more children, as long as the children are born, there is always the right to inherit.
Maybe they have their own grievances.
But it's all your own choice, what I want to tell women is: marriage is not your eternal safe haven, no matter who you marry, never give up on yourself, if you are lucky enough to marry a rich man, please use his resources to transform into your own resources. If you have grain in your hand, you will not panic, or you must take the initiative into your own hands.
Today's topic: Do you have any rich flowers around you, and are their marriages okay? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.