Yesterday held a day meeting, so "Wang Lihong divorce" this hot melon knows a little late, open WeChat early this morning, found that the relevant news instantly overwhelmed.
In today's society, marriage feels like a double heaven of ice and fire.
The state side is desperately encouraging people to get married and have children, while the star side seems to be running away from divorce with all their strength.
Couples divorced in the entertainment industry in 2021 are estimated to be able to make up a nine-palace grid. Even netizens also sighed: new melons are every year, and this year is particularly many!
For many people, marriage is no longer a necessity in life, and even many people have begun to avoid it.
When the news of Wang Lihong's official divorce came out, the Internet exploded, and many people still did not believe that Wang Lihong, who had once been a spoiled wife demon and a gentle and humble gentleman, could divorce him.
But the facts are already in front of me, and my official announcement has been written very clearly:
Now we have different ideas and plans for the way we live in the future, so we decided to live separately. Although an application has been made, we will always be a family.
It can be said that this statement is very "Wang Lihong's taste".
Taking the blame into his own body, he gently gave his wife the last piece of tranquility.
For celebrity divorces, the major news never skimps on their own front-page content, competing to report as if everyone is divorcing on this day.
Undoubtedly, this has become a carnival of people who sing about marriage.
Today we will talk about why Wang Lihong's divorce, I advise you to calm down.
What keeps the marriage alive is the long-term interest, and divorce is inseparable from the interest.
For celebrities, there may be no shortage of money, so in terms of attitude to marriage, they can do more elegant, but have to admit that this is what ordinary people can't afford.
A marriage is enough to hollow out all the savings of an ordinary family, perhaps even for generations, and divorce often means that everything can be wasted.
More people don't divorce, not necessarily how much they love each other, it may be because they "can't afford to leave"!
Perhaps many people can criticize my views from the perspective of a "person who has come over", or even a moral high ground, but only by going to the bottom of society to really look at it will you find that most people's marriages are actually chicken feathers.
But if we deny marriage because of this, I think it is still too early, although everyone's marriage is "not so", but the tenderness hidden in the details cannot be easily covered up.
You can admire the courage of those stars to give up the past and marriage, but I advise you not to follow them easily, otherwise what can be called "courage" in them can only be called "impulse" in you.
For ordinary people, when we are in a muddy marriage and can't extricate ourselves, what we have to do is not to press the restart button and start all over again, we should actually look at our current situation and find a way to save ourselves.
Stars have enough capital, enough talent, to support them and let them start all over again, but we can't, more often than not, we can't afford to lose.
Marriage is a war that must be won for us, so for ordinary people, it is a test of our wisdom and courage even more.
The star said: The daughter does not have the age to marry, only the person who should get married;
That's because they have a wider circle, they have a better chance of meeting the "person who should get married", and even if they don't, they have the same capital to live better.
But you don't, you are past that prosperous age, the people you meet may be far from meeting your "standards", and you have no capital to make yourself and your family happy.
Stars can live in ideals, and ironically, we have to face reality.
Anyone's marriage is bitter with a little sweetness, so that we are reluctant to give up, and we can't taste it once.
So you see, many people are willing to fall in love all the time, but when it comes to marriage, they will hesitate, because love and marriage are completely different states.
How sweet it is to be in love, when you get to marriage, you will feel how bitter it really is.
In Wang Lihong's marriage, the backgrounds of both families and the strong mother-in-law became the focus of this divorce incident.
Many people say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest obstacle to a marriage relationship, which is actually not false at all, whether it is a star or an ordinary person, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many times determine the direction of a marriage.
In the common disease of marriage, the marriage of celebrities and ordinary people is not fundamentally different.
Therefore, you will find that in the marriage of the entertainment industry, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is relatively harmonious, the married life is often relatively happier, and vice versa, it is full of gunpowder.
Of course, as the most important protagonist in the marriage, the relationship between husband and wife is also extremely important, and in Wang Lihong's official statement, he attributed the end of the marriage to "different ideas and plans for lifestyles."
I think that the reason why many marriages can't go on is probably the same.
In the marriage of ordinary people, there are couples who suffer together, but there are not many who can still keep their original intentions after success, and the reason for this situation is most likely caused by the withdrawal of one party after success.
Many people like to let their lover retreat behind the scenes after becoming famous, and the name is to let her enjoy happiness, but after a long time, you will find that such a marriage cannot last long.
When we suffer together, we have empathy for each other, because everyone is suffering the same; but when we enjoy it together, this empathy is lost, and the marriage loses its balance.
When divorced, men shouted: You eat me, use mine, I have raised you all these years, what else do you want? A single sentence exposes the evil of human nature.
Marriage is all self-redemption after a chicken feather, and at this point, it's fairer that we and the stars experience the same.
Dong Qing said in "Readers":
Farewell is not forgetting, but turning around. Saying goodbye is not giving up, but starting.
In marriage, divorce is like a farewell, we are trying to get off to a better start, not to deny our past selves.
Perhaps this is also the biggest difference between celebrities and ordinary people, because celebrities have the ability to reconcile with the past, but ordinary people can't do it, so we will find that the vast majority of people, after divorce, will be completely separated from the previous relationship, old and dead, even if they have children, they may not be able to sit down and talk calmly.
To put it bluntly, we are still obsessed with the past.
Divorce doesn't make us better align with tomorrow, but why are there still so many people who can't let go of the past, in fact, in the end, they are still unwilling.
How willing we are when we are together, and how unwilling we are when we are apart.
Therefore, I will always advise those friends who want to divorce to think carefully and carefully about their marriage, and whether they have the strength and courage to start again after we are separated.
I think most people will hesitate, divorce is a kind of redemption for a painful marriage, but for ordinary people, it also requires great courage and determination, because it is not an easy task in itself.
Without enough financial strength and determination, divorce may not make itself successful, but on the contrary, it may destroy three families: yours, the other's, and yours.
There is a question on Zhihu: "Why do I think that the marriage of no one around me is happy?"
Here's a guy who replied:
Because it's hard for most people to live a happy life. But it is blamed on the marriage.
I think that for us ordinary people, whether marriage is happy or not, we can't find the answer in other people's marriages.
Divorce is not the only way to save a marriage.