The road of love is never smooth sailing. Just now, a wedding video circulating on the Internet has once again sparked heated discussions about the traditional customs of marriage.
This video records the experience of a couple who almost have a stillbirth at the wedding on their wedding day because of a seemingly innocuous trivial. The source of everything is because the amount of "divorced meat" prepared by the groom when receiving relatives did not meet the expectations of his mother's family.
This is an ancient local custom that originates from the ancient local custom, when the groom marries the bride, he needs to bring a few catties of pork as a gift, symbolizing that the daughter will "leave her mother's house and marry into her husband's family". Traditionally, the choice of Liniang meat is very particular, mostly fresh and fatty pork chops or hind leg meat.
However, at the wedding scene of the couple, a dispute about the number of "divorced meat" suddenly broke out, stirring up the originally joyful scene.
At the beginning of the picture, a middle-aged woman in a red shirt stood at the scene with an excited expression and complained loudly: "You didn't give me that box of meat, when did I try it, do you look down on people?" She kept repeating the words "look down on people", and her tone was full of anger and injustice.
On closer inspection, the middle-aged woman turned out to be the bride's aunt. I saw her pointing to the meat in the box, and continued to reprimand: "We didn't say that we should eat for a daughter, he looks down on people!"
There was a helpless silence at one point. At this moment, a voice interjected from the side: "Okay, okay, don't talk about it, on the big day, get a step down."
The bride's aunt had no intention of giving up. She immediately retorted excitedly: "If you don't make up for it now, how can you expect to correct it in the future?" I don't want to think about that anymore! I hope you can get together the 30,000 yuan as soon as possible, and then we can hold the wedding! If you can't pay, we'll have to wait. However, please remember that this wedding is on hold, as a sign of respect for our family's honor!
The aunt repeatedly reiterated that unless the groom made up 30,000 yuan on the spot for the "divorced meat" fee, she would not agree to continue the wedding. Her expression was extremely resolute, and she didn't seem to be willing to give in at all!
"On this day of great joy, you had to do that shameful thing." My aunt's words were filled with grief and disappointment.
When the atmosphere became more and more tense and the newlyweds felt at a loss, my aunt's emotions had boiled to the peak: "Please use your mobile phone for transfer operations!" 30,000 yuan is too little, at least 50,000 yuan have to be paid! Please tell me about the mother who has been supporting her all the time.
During the whole process, no one from the other mother's family stepped forward to stop it, silently listening to the aunt's anger bursting out again and again, as if there was another hidden meaning behind this request of "leaving the mother's meat".
Faced with such a tense situation, the groom's family seemed to have no other way but to compromise and be forced to pay money to "make up". But in this way, the marriage event has buried a suspicion, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be an invisible sword, hanging above the heads of both parties forever.
If the groom insists on not bowing his head, the wedding is forced to be canceled, and the two parties break up, then it is not only the two of them who are divorced, but also the two families. In the countryside where traditional beliefs are deeply entrenched, such failed marriages are often seen as a great disgrace, and the bride's future may be reversed.
It is true that the marriage customs of each place are not blindly followed, and have their own unique local characteristics. Although "divorced meat" is a seemingly outdated custom, it more reflects a blessing and reluctance to give up on her daughter. It's just that in modern society, some people misinterpret this feeling as a way and reason to ask for money in disguise.
The conflict of interest brought about by money is the root cause of the loss of the inner core of many marriage ritual cultures. Tracing back to the roots, how to properly deal with the contradiction between the customs that have been inherited for thousands of years and modern life is a question that each of us needs to think about carefully.
The essence of marriage is a solemn commitment of two people to each other's future. A couple of newcomers should throw away their prejudices, treat each other with an equal and respectful attitude, and cherish this fate. Only by abandoning the old bad habits and jointly carrying forward the excellent marriage culture of the Chinese nation can the meaning of marriage shine on the road of life in the future.
Fellow travelers, what do you think about this? Welcome to leave your insights in the comment area and discuss how marriage customs should be passed on in contemporary times?