Generally speaking, the vast majority of girls who marry late and fall in love late are relatively good in personal conditions, and when they do not find their ideal "Prince Charming", they are not willing to "marry" people; and girls with relatively bad personal conditions have a relatively peaceful and low-key mentality, and the full tolerance of mate selection standards also determines the great improvement of their chances of marriage and love success.
In my opinion, an unmarried woman, no matter how good she is and how good her personal comprehensive conditions are, her marriage index will always be a parabola development trend, generally 40 years old as a watershed:
Before the age of 40, if your knowledge is very high, the ability is very strong, or the career is successful, coupled with some necessary external factors, then you still have a lot of initiative and choice space in the marriage market, in other words, if you are not too high, the criteria for choosing a mate are too harsh, the probability of choosing a relatively satisfactory partner is still very large; on the contrary, you may fall into a "next will be better" dead cycle, until it is difficult to extricate yourself.
After the age of 40, no matter how strong your knowledge and ability are, or your career is successful, as a woman, in the marriage market, there are three fatal injuries that may never be able to make up:
First, look at aging.
Whether admitted or not, it is the common sentiment of man to live, grow old, be sick and die. As a woman, no matter how beautiful you are when you are young and how standard your figure is, after a certain age, it will inevitably show an aging trend. For example, after the age of 40, women have loose skin, increased wrinkles, sagging breasts, etc., which are the natural laws of human physiology and have no reversibility. Of course, some people may say that through plastic surgery and plastic surgery, can't you also restore youth? Yes, these ways can indeed disguise youth on the surface, but no matter how you tidy up, it cannot change the fact of aging, on the contrary, it will only add a heavier burden to your skin, and even affect health.
Why do we say the above, because women's external conditions and external images are actually the decisive factors in the marriage and love market, which is not only a woman's tolerance for herself, but also the unchanged choice of the vast majority of men to "be a gentleman"! Between the sexes, as long as it is a normal man, there is no woman who does not like to be beautiful, and there is no woman who is obsessed with the appearance, which is both an aesthetic need and a physiological need.
Therefore, women are like flowers, and flowers have flowering periods. Once missed, even if it is recruited, it is lonely.
Second, the helplessness of childbearing.
Although the current era is extremely tolerant, the "Dink" family and the gradual increase in unmarried people, but still can not change the mainstream trend of the vast majority of people getting married and having children, which is not only the hereditary concept of traditional concepts, but also the needs of human survival, but also the social responsibility of everyone! Imagine if all of us were to put ourselves first and enjoy ourselves first, and not to assume the obligation of "passing on the generations", then in a few years, humanity may face a great existential crisis!
Therefore, regardless of whether a few people agree or not, fertility problems are a necessary step in the vast majority of married life! The optimal age for women to have children is generally around 25 to 30 years old. After the age of 35, it belongs to the elderly mother and has a certain risk factor. Once you are over 40 years old, although there is no menopause, the chance of having children is already very small, and there are still genetic diseases, life-threatening and other serious negative effects. Therefore, for women over 40 years old, fertility problems will become an irreparable shortcoming of marriage, which will greatly narrow the range of mate choices available.
Third, the innocence is gone.
Women who have passed the age of 40 are mentally mature and even full of cunning; ideas are formed, even mean and dull, and thin and widowed. If these changes are placed in the workplace, they may be advantages, but in the love field, then it is not necessarily an advantage. Because the love field is different from the workplace, what love needs is not a heart, but a sincere heart; what feelings need is not meanness, but tolerance; what romance needs is not dullness, but mood; happiness needs not thin feelings, but sincerity!
After 40 years of age, although mature, stable, and even some have a good figure and posture, it is difficult for them to find the innocence and infatuation, romance and expectation, and the incomparably persistent vision and dream of love and marriage. On the other hand, men are almost always "selfish" on the issue of marriage and love, and even they can ignore their own feelings and deviate, and they will not allow women to be infidelity in love. So, no man is unwilling to find a woman who is loyal to love and stands firm for love, and no man is willing to find a woman who lacks youthful vitality and love motivation.
In my opinion, it is not so much that good women can't find the ideal partner, but that they can never step through a threshold that they have set for themselves. When the threshold obscures your view, all you see is reluctance and loss; when the threshold is removed, what you see is confidence and hope!
Women must know how to share with others in the most beautiful season, and avoid being lonely and self-congratulatory. Life is short, love is like gold, only at the right time to find the right person is the happiest, otherwise once missed, it is likely to be a lifetime! Even if you meet the so-called right person in the future, I am afraid that it will be difficult to find the regrets buried in time!
So my opinion is that no matter how good a woman is, as long as you still want to get married, it's best to marry yourself out before age 40. One of the most important factors, in addition to lowering the threshold and broadening the horizon, is to face and cherish fate rationally.
Not every fate has an ending, but every fate has meaning, some fate passes through your life, in order to let you learn to grow; some fate waits in your life, in order to let you collect well. Knowing this, you can calmly face the impermanence of fate on the road of life!