"Wen | Pistachio Mom (original article, welcome to personal reprint and share)"
If others think that a small thing is likely to become a shadow of a child's life!
01 "Little MinJia" Jin Jiajun runs back frequently, only because of the shadow of childhood
In the TV series "Little Min's House", the boy Jin Jiajun always habitually looks back when he is running. Because of this habit, he fell and lost the first place when he competed in the Games.
The reason why Jin Jiajun likes to look back when he runs is because he was bullied when he was a child.
His own parents divorced, the orchestrated mother's slip of the tongue came out, and Jin Jiajun became the target of bullying by other children. These children chased in the back, Jin Jiajun ran in front, and from time to time looked back at whether they had been caught up, and finally fell and were bullied by other children again.
Childhood was bullied, became his shadow, even if it is an adult, still can't change this habit, he is afraid of the back, there are still people chasing him!
This performance of Jin Jiajun in "Little MinJia" is just a small microcosm of campus bullying, and in real life, such bullying is actually not uncommon. The effects of bullying on children may not be cured for a lifetime because they are extremely harmful.
02 Children who are easily bullied on campus often come from 5 kinds of families
Children who are easy to be bullied, in fact, most of them come from 5 kinds of families, I hope your family is not.
The first: families who like to belittle their children
"Why are you so useless?"
"How can you be so stupid?"
"You look at XXX, I don't know how many times better than you!"
Parents demean their children over and over again, in fact, they are planting a seed of inferiority for their children, so that children feel more and more: I can't do it, I don't deserve it!
Such a child, in the face of school bullying, he does not dare to resist, because his inferiority will make him feel that he is indeed useless, so he deserves to be bullied!
The second type: divorced families
From the perspective of children's personality, parental divorce will have a great impact on the child's personality, and such children are prone to sensitivity and inferiority.
From the perspective of bullying the child, they will feel that the child's parents are divorced, abandoned by one party, and not worthy of love.
Add up to the two, and children from divorced families are more vulnerable to bullying.
The third type: families who don't care about how their children feel
"How did you come back with an injury again?" Fighting someone else again? Can you stop causing trouble? ”
"Why don't they hit others, they just hit you?"
"What a big deal!"
After the child is bullied, the safety tower in their hearts has been destroyed, at this time, what they need most is the love and protection of their parents to rebuild their defense tower.
However, parents ignore and accuse their children of bullying, and children will subconsciously feel that they are not good enough to be bullied. They will not have the courage to resist, and when they are subjected to more serious bullying, they will not turn to their parents for help, because they know that no one will understand and protect themselves.
Similarly, bullying children will become more and more arrogant.
The fourth type: left-behind children's families
Left-behind children are too vulnerable to bullying.
First of all, children who like to bully are also "smart", they know that left-behind children are not protected, so they specifically pick left-behind children;
Secondly, because left-behind children have not been loved by their parents for a long time, they are more likely to be inferior and sensitive, so when facing bullying, they are more likely to choose to suffer in silence;
Finally, left-behind children are not with their parents for a long time, and when they encounter bullying, their subconscious will not go to such distant parents for help, and even if they ask for help, parents will not be able to help their children. Parents will not think of teaching their children how to resist.
Fifth: Families whose parents are also cowardly
Parents are very cowardly, easy to be bullied by relatives and friends, then children in the parents, can not learn bravery, only learn cowardice.
Such children are naturally more vulnerable to bullying. Moreover, in the face of bullying by their children, their parents not only dare not protect their children and stand up for their children, but are likely to teach their children: being bullied, patience will pass.
But bullying will only get bigger.
03 Anti-bullying, not as good as "anti- bullying"
According to the China Education Tracking Survey (CEPS), 50.1% of students were bullied in schools in at least one form, while 32.3% were bullied in more than one form.
This data is far higher than we think.
Therefore, as a parent, do you not pay attention to school bullying?
Therefore, even if it is not the above 5 types of families, the child has a chance to encounter bullying. Parents naturally want their children to stay away from bullying and become the remaining 49.9%.
What parents need to know is that anti-bullying is not as good as "preventing" bullying, so that children can stay out of bullying early and can better protect themselves!
3-8 years old children, is in kindergarten, primary school low age stage, at this time they encounter bullying, often "pseudo bullying", at this time to teach children to identify bullying, deal with bullying, etc., is the best time to "prevent" bullying.
What Guo Mama prepared for pistachios is this set of "Learn to Say "No" Anti-Bullying Picture Book", which is also recommended reading material for Pistachio Kindergarten, and there are many teachers around Guo Mom, and this set of anti-bullying enlightenment picture books prepared for children.
"Learn to say "no" loudly Anti-Bullying Picture Book" This set of picture books is a total of 8 volumes, in the form of stories, telling the various bullying events that children are common in school and daily life, so that children have a greater sense of substitution and are more likely to "absorb" the content of picture books.
This set of picture books can make children realize 8 kinds of "invisible bullying", being ridiculed, being touched, being called, being rumored, things being robbed, being pushed, being nicknamed, being excluded (one theme at a time), the scope of these bullies is also very comprehensive, such as bullying involving emotions, body, relationships, finances, speech, social and other aspects of bullying;
This set of picture books teaches children how to deal with bullying when encountered;
This set of picture books can give children courage, let children identify dangers in time, and say "no" loudly to unreasonable requirements!
There are 3-8-year-old babies at home, anti-bullying enlightenment readings, a must-have set!
Pistachio Mom message
0-3 years old, parents participate in the growth of children throughout the process;
3-8 years old, children first enter the society, recognize and learn to deal with bullying is the best time;
After the age of 8, he understands bullying, will protect his children, and can better study and live in school!
Family, parents, and education methods are the basis for children to fight bullying! As parents, we have to guard this confidence for our children!
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