There is an animated short film about a mother who wants to remove the tie after giving birth to a child, but the mother stops her. Since then, although the child has come to the world, the tie between him and his mother will always be together, the child has never left the umbilical cord, and the mother's protection of the child is also particularly careful.
When he was young, even if he went out shopping with her, he did not let other strangers approach him, and when he grew up, he went on a date with a girl for the first time, only to be dragged back by his mother with an umbilical cord. Later, the son also grew up, but the umbilical cord was still tied between the mother and the son, and the son was completely accustomed to the way of life of not abandoning the mother and staying together every day.
The mother has become old, the son has also gone from infancy to youth, and then to youth to middle age, and finally the mother has completely become old, and the son is also very filial piety. In the past, the mother took her son in her arms, but now that the mother is old, he also holds the old mother in his arms anytime and anywhere, even when he sleeps.
But one night when he was asleep, a phantom shrunk the old man into a ball, like the mother of a baby. Because the mother and son's umbilical cords were still connected, the phantom took out scissors and cut their tethers. This cut son woke up, and when he woke up, he saw that there was no mother, and he was dazed and did not know how he would live in the future.
This story is just a short video clip, but not just a short one. In reality, the impact of the lack of independent personality of children, as small as growing up to adulthood without the ability to take care of themselves, becoming a "mother treasure man", as large as the doting son, resulting in the son being sentenced to death for murder at the age of twenty-four, and biting the mother's nipple with hatred before death.
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Gorky said: "Loving children is something that even a hen can do, but educating children is an art." "From ancient times to the present, there are many examples of poor education around us. Parents ask their children to do something that they think is good for them in the name of being good to us, but that's not right.
The famous poet Gibran believed that children are independent and are equal to their parents, and parents can only give love to their children, but they cannot replace the formation of their thoughts and souls. A poem by Gibran expresses this idea very thoroughly:
Your child, in fact, is not your child,
They are the children born of life's desire for itself.
They came into this world through you,
But it is not because of you,
They are around you, but they don't belong to you.
What you can give them is your love,
But it's not what you think.
Because they have their own thoughts.
What you can shelter is their body,
But it is not their soul,
For their souls belong to tomorrow,
It belongs to tomorrow that you can't dream of.
You can do your best and become like them,
But don't let them become like you,
Because life does not go backwards, nor does it stay in the past.
You are the bow, and the children are the arrows that shoot from you.
The archer looks at the arrow target on the road to the future,
He pulls you away with all his might,
Make his arrows shoot fast and far.
With a happy heart,
Bend in the hands of an archer,
Because he loves arrows that fly all the way,
I also love the incomparably stable bow.
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This poem uses a beautiful tone to write about the love of parents and children. He tells us, first, that the child did not come into this world for the parents, that his independence was innate, and that the child was not a private property of the parents.
Second, parents love their children, but all they can give them is love, and they cannot impose their own thoughts, their own will ideas, on their children. Parents should cultivate their children's independent personality with love, and let their children have their own opinions.
Third, parents should do their best to take care of their children's bodies, but they cannot do anything about their souls. Because the soul does not belong to the present, not to the present, but to the future. Gibran can teach us much more than that.
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Gibran was once hailed as the "wise man of the East" with Tagore, and US President Roosevelt once said that Gibran was the first storm to blow from the East and swept across the West, but it brought us all the flowers on the coast.
Bing Xin once said that Gibran was from a poor background, and his works are more like an old man who has experienced vicissitudes and talks about the philosophy of dealing with the world, revealing a faint sadness in peace.
His masterpiece The Prophet, translated into more than 20 languages, healed people through World War I with fraternity and philosophical wisdom, and became one of the most read works since the 20th century.
The Complete Works of Gibran includes all of Gibran's novels, poems, essays and paintings, and incorporates three of the most widely known works, Namely Prophet, Sand and Foam, and Tears and Laughter. Translated by Bingxin, the original flavor restores the characteristics of gibran language. Just a set of books to explain to you the 26 fundamental issues that each of us can't avoid: love, marriage, children, work, education, mourning, punishment, reason, friendship, good and evil, etc.
There are also 52 philosophical insights and 322 wisdom maxims, so that your heart is strong and calm, full of hope and confidence, and harvest the energy and wisdom from Gibran.