Today I would like to read Gibran's poems for you
The Prophet. On children
Your child, in fact, is not your child
They are the children born of life's desire for itself
They came here with you, but they didn't come because of you
They are by your side, but they do not belong to you
What you can give them is your love, not your thoughts
Because they have their own thoughts
That's right, the topic I want to talk to you about today is the most terrible harm to children, "for your own good"
As a parent, do you also think that the ideal that you can't achieve is fragrant, and for your own good is to let your child realize his dream?
Have you ever poured your emotions into your children without scruples? Because all my emotions are for your own good. You have to endure it all unconditionally.
Have you tied your own life honor and disgrace to your child's success or failure? Have you ever thought about it, the success of your child is not as important in your mind as you think. What matters is whether you can give an account of your face.
Heck, you're treating your child as the only work in a failed life that can prove yourself.
So, in order to make children look like we want, do you correct their deviations again and again, and press the remote control of life in your hand again and again?
If there is even a little bit of such a way of treating children, you are already a problem parent.
I don't know if parents have seen Wu Xiaole's "Your Child Is Not Your Child"?
The book takes the stories of 9 families as the main body, reveals the common problems in family education and parent-child relationships, and pokes at the pain points of thousands of people with a calm narrative, and people have to admit that "there is always one" that says it is themselves.
I hope that this book can bring parents to reflect, to change their educational thinking, and to stop carrying the banner of "good for you" to hurt our children.