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We used to think that the acquaintances around us were better people for us, they made us feel the warmth of the world, let us no longer wander in this world, and gave us a harbor to dock.
But in fact, many times the person who hurts us the most is often the closest person, the more acquaintance, the more you know all your secrets, know your weaknesses, when they stab the knife at you, often the most fierce, but also hurt you the deepest.
Never overestimate human nature, and don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, when we pour out our hearts and lungs for a person, it will increase his chips to hurt you, and maybe one day, he will betray you and hurt you.
The strangers, many times, the more we can bless them and congratulate them from the bottom of our hearts, because there is no conflict of interest between each other, and it will not inspire the dark side of our hearts.
Seeing those distant strangers living a life that makes us envious, we will not have jealousy in addition to envy, but the acquaintances around us, even if they are a little better than us, will also stimulate jealous thinking, indignant.
We all live in a small circle, in the circle we are in, in fact, invisibly, everyone is comparing with each other, from childhood to achievements, later than performance, than who marries well, than who earns more. In fact, it is a very normal thing to compare, but if it triggers the jealousy in the heart, it will go to the other extreme.
In fact, many times, people who can't see us well, not others, but from acquaintances around us, when the people around you have the following performances, most of them are not good to see you, to stay away in time.
When you achieve results, you will not be happy for you, but will say some sarcastic things
The person who is really good to you must be happy for your achievements from the bottom of her heart, she sincerely hopes that you have a good life, you can see the sincerity in his eyes, he will not be jealous of you at all, and he will not respond with a sour tone.
People close to us, to a certain extent, must be people who understand our experience, they know how much heartache we have paid behind the achievements we have made, they will be distressed by our efforts, and they will accompany us to see the blossoms together, rather than sneering at us.
In this world, we will always encounter some unfriendly voices, and whenever some people achieve some achievements, there will always be some people around to point out, will say "it is not based on relationships", they will often destroy all our efforts and efforts, but intuitively rely on their own feelings to evaluate at will.
In the face of outsiders' evaluation, we will not pay attention to it, but if the acquaintances around us also comment on us so casually, it will be very chilling.
It is true that there will be such acquaintances, when they see your achievements, they will say some sarcastic words, such as If there is anything remarkable, I can stand in your position, I can also; or It is not because of good luck that you have let you go luck.
You can't see in their expressions that you are happy, but they will look disgusted, or sullen, and such people do not want you to live well in their hearts.
When you're in trouble, you don't help out and hide and stand by
When a person is beautiful, he can never see the hypocrisy of the people around him, and only when he is down, can he clearly see who is really good to himself, and who is just using himself.
Human nature is very realistic, when you are good, there will be many people around you, at this time it is inevitable that you will not be able to see the sincerity of others, only when you encounter trouble, you can drive away some people, while leaving some people who deserve to be treated sincerely.
It is said that "the wall is pushed by everyone", when you encounter difficulties, others are afraid to hide, afraid that they will have some relationship with you, which will affect him, and even throw dirty water on you and fall into your well.
Li Ping in "Xiao Min Family" was once a very beautiful person, and her husband Hong Wei ran an industry, the two people lived a rich life, and there were some close people around who called brothers and brothers.
When Hong Wei had an accident, he immediately hid far away, drawing a clear line at the first time, only her ex-husband Chen Zhuo would take the initiative to care about her and was willing to keep in touch with her.
In fact, for the acquaintances around you, if you don't help each other, it is already a performance of not seeing you well, they don't have to fall into the well, as long as they draw a clear line with you, hide and stand by, that indifference is enough to explain his attitude.
People who treat you sincerely and hope that you have a good life will definitely accompany you and accompany you through difficulties when you encounter difficulties, so that such companionship is worth cherishing.
Face to face with a set behind the back, on the surface is very good to you, turn around and talk to others about you
One person can't completely please everyone, around our circle, there will always be some people who hate you, they like to point fingers at you, say all your bad things behind your back, in the face of such people who are obviously not a circle, we just ignore it, we don't have to pay attention to it.
But what I am afraid of is that some people call you brothers and brothers on the surface, and look very close to you, so that you think that he is sincere to you, and he pours out his heart and lungs for him, but in the end he finds that only you think that you are good friends, and he does not regard you as his own person at all.
In fact, when you have complete trust in a person and tell each other everything about yourself, you increase the risk of being hurt, you tell the other person out of trust, but it is possible to share your secret as a joke to others.
We do have such a person around us, and he may be very kind to you when it is not involved in interests, but when there is a conflict of interest between you, his selfish side will be exposed and he will do something to hurt you.
Such a person is a typical smiling tiger, a set of faces and a set of backs, the surface is very good to you, but in fact, behind your back, you say a lot of unfavorable words, in the face of such a person, be careful not to tell each other all your own things.
In fact, there are not many people in this world who really want you to be good, even if they want you to be good, but they don't want you to be better than them.
They are only willing to enjoy the feeling of being chased by you, being adored by you, like to leave you far behind, and once they are surpassed by you, they will expose a strong jealousy and a complete change of attitude towards you.
Want to know whether the acquaintances around you are sincere to you, to see three aspects, one to see when you are better than her, her attitude towards you, two to see when you are down, his reaction, three to see if he is in front of a set, behind a set, these points will easily see his true heart.
If you see through his hypocrisy, stay away in time, otherwise it will hurt you in the end.