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People are old, and there are pensions, and the days should get better and better.
Many people think that after surviving the hard days of going to work, their children have grown up and can live a free and loose life in the future.
If you carefully observe, you will find that some old people, always doing some laborious and unflattering things, have lost their due happiness.
Therefore, I would like to advise you that after retirement, no matter how capable you are, you must learn these kinds of old-age wisdom. In the twilight years of life, we must still make long-term plans and have a big pattern.
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First, cover your money bag and don't be a "generous" person.
It's not easy to make money, and it's easy to spend your money because you're too generous.
There is such a sentence: "In this life, the most terrible thing is that people are still there, and the money has long been gone." ”
Although you have a pension, you don't have any savings at all, and your heart is very unsure. In case of illness and an emergency, reaching out to borrow money from others and asking for money from children are very "inferior" things.
Master the routine of slamming the door, and the old man's money will be durable.
First of all, do not buy chicken rib products. Those things that are trumpeted as "omnipotent", do not buy, most of them are routines to deceive the elderly.
For example, some strange foods are treated as health treasures and placed in front of you, so hurry up and avoid them.
There is no elixir in the world, not even Qin Shi Huang has found it, let alone ordinary people?
Some fitness equipment that does not apply, flowers and green clothes, you buy home, it becomes a decoration.
Irrational consumption, emptying the wallet of the elderly, really need to be vigilant.
Second, reduce the exchange of courtesies. Don't pay for "humanity and face". Even if your children want to do something, you can't empty all the old bottoms, you have to keep a hand.
Eating and drinking meals, all kinds of gatherings, we must remain rational, can not be led by the people, take this as an opportunity, to fill their own pockets.
Finally, refuse to lend money to others. In these years, the people who borrow money are no longer so simple, and they often have such an expression - when borrowing money, treat you as an elder, and after the money is in hand, the shadow cannot be found.
Debt collection things, young people are very troubled, let alone the elderly? Perhaps, the vicious person will think, "If the old man dies, the money will not be returned." ”
The further back you go, the more places you spend money, the harder it is to make money. Your generosity, in the eyes of others, is the "opportunity to make money" without being rewarded.
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Second, children are all heirs and should be treated equally.
Some people say: "Raising children and raising daughters does not prevent old age." ”
On the one hand, when children grow up, they will most likely go out to work and start a business, and have little time to spend with their parents; on the other hand, children may also become white-eyed wolves and abandon their parents.
In fact, the feelings of children and parents are "must-haves" for the elderly.
Even if the children are very poor, they call every three or five minutes, and they can get together every New Year's Festival, and the family will be warm.
If you want to keep the warmth of the extended family, as a parent, you must insist on caring for your children and minimize "eccentric" things. Regarding family property, we should consult more with our children and be transparent.
Children are not harmonious, and parents are difficult to be human. Pull the property matter clearly, the usual family expenses are managed, and everyone will not be jealous of each other.
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Third, the prosperity will eventually fade, and learn to socialize reasonably.
The ancients said: "The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water." ”
After retirement, people go tea cold. Don't think that you are still a leader, or an expert and scholar.
When you leave your post, you are the masses.
Having three or five friends, often gathering together, is a blessing. If you don't have a single friend, don't force yourself into someone else's circle. Why look at other people's faces to live a life?
Don't think that you have a lot of free time, just go to relatives' houses to see, go to a friend's house for a meal, go to an old colleague's house to play mahjong, and take a walk with the old leader. Such an approach is repugnant.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "Wasting other people's time is seeking wealth and killing people." ”
Just because you're laid-back doesn't mean other people are available at all times. Disturb other people's things, try to do as little as possible.
Happy old people, are developing hobbies, spending time with their families, and not socializing, are all casual.
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Fourth, the wife of the chaff cannot be deceived, and the chaimi couple is the most rare.
When women become bad, they have money, and men who have money become bad. This sentence makes many people feel cold. Is the relationship between husband and wife so vulnerable?
Elderly people, don't look at things with the thinking of young people. You know, when the messy feelings are abandoned, the couple's feelings become pure.
Although the old husband and wife are together, there is no sweet talk, and they will not hold hands when they walk, but the distance is not close, but it promotes the development of feelings.
The old man was often worried about the old woman's body; the old woman always made three meals a day. This is the best emotion God has ever given you.
Those who have lost their marriage and family, when they are in good health and have money in their pockets, are at ease, and once they are down, they are doomed to be desolate in the evening.
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Fifth, how good the heart is, how good the life is.
The Tao Te Ching reads: "He who has no life is a virtuous person." ”
This sentence tells us that only those who are quiet can be nourished and live a noble life.
Everyone understands that with a good mindset, everything is fine. However, few people tell you how to change your mindset.
Some old people, look at this is not pleasing to the eye, look at that is not happy. There were children talking around him, and he felt that it was too noisy; there was a takeaway brother delivering, and he felt that the young man was not out; the car at the door was not parked, and he went to rub it, feeling that it was an eyesore.
The world is really good, and the bad thing is your own heart.
When you treat the world well, you are destined to be treated well by the world. Such a mode of thinking is the real "peace of mind is a blessing".
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Conclusion.
The blessing of the elderly is not to have money to spend and spend casually. Instead, it has experienced the terrifying waves, and it can also live a long stream of water.
Create a source of happiness that benefits you for a lifetime.
There is a way that the good man does not mention the year of yong.
No matter how capable you are, you only represent the past, and there is no guarantee that you will be like this for the rest of your life.
I wish the elderly in the world, no worries about food and clothing, love between husband and wife, children and daughters, and happiness in old age.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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