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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Lin Yutang said: "There is no marriage in the way of love that does not fail. We must eat marriage as a meal and love as a snack. ”
Indeed, marriage is different from love, there is not so much romanticism, more of a bland life.
If men and women, after marriage, still ask to get along as they did when they were in love, they will definitely be disappointed.
In fact, marriage is two people facing the life after marriage together, and the pressure at this time will be great, and it is impossible to have the kind of freedom during love.
Therefore, after marriage, couples must know how to create family happiness in ordinary life, support each other, and pay together in order to make their days better and better.
Especially for couples after middle age, it is more necessary to have more understanding and trust, and husband and wife will have a more harmonious married life.
At this stage, we should stop thinking wildly, but actively maintain and manage the marriage, so that the relationship between husband and wife will continue to be stable.
If couples can't do this, because of feelings or contradictions, or can't restrain external feelings, it will definitely affect the marriage, and life will naturally not be happy.
Therefore, middle-aged couples, it is recommended not to talk about divorce, the price is too heavy, there are three things are very realistic.
First, the relationship is over, and everything will start from scratch
Middle-aged couples, if they do not run a good marriage, easily talk about divorce, often pay a great price.
Once the relationship between husband and wife is over, not only will each other's feelings come to an end, but life will also start from scratch.
No matter how much material and happiness the two sides have created before, at this moment it will disappear and all will disappear.
After walking such a long way and putting so much energy into it, if everything starts from scratch, it will be a cruel blow to each other.
Really at this time, both men and women have lost their youth, lost money, and most importantly, lost the happiness of a family.
Therefore, couples after middle age really do not talk about divorce, but must actively face married life, strive to overcome difficulties, and make the relationship more harmonious and long-lasting.
Between husband and wife, it is inevitable that there will be many contradictions, and many problems will be encountered in the operation of marriage, which is a normal phenomenon.
As long as the husband and wife are in the same heart, understand and support each other, these difficulties will always be solved, and both parties will not give up, and the marriage will get better and better.
If you encounter a little difficulty, a little friction in your feelings, you can easily talk about divorce, and eventually you will pay a heavy price because of the hasty decision.
Moreover, if the husband and wife come to this step, all the previous efforts will be wasted.
For example, there is no house, no materials, no money, no relatives, and there is no one left alone, which will be very desolate.
Neither men nor women can afford this blow, and in addition to suffering spiritually, life will get worse.
Moreover, once the marriage fails, it may also affect the future work, as well as their respective interpersonal relationships, and will also have a great impact on the career.
Therefore, middle-aged couples really do not talk about divorce easily, since they have gone such a long way, no matter what the future holds, they must continue to walk with firm confidence.
A good marriage is nothing more than husband and wife to endure each other, complete each other, support and understand each other, and slowly grow old together in a dull life.
This kind of life seems simple, but it is the most sincere happiness, and I hope that both men and women can have some understanding.
Second, the loss of marriage, the most hurt is the child
After middle age, if couples easily talk about divorce, the most hurt is the children.
Adults may feel a sense of relief, but children will be affected for the rest of their lives, which is very detrimental to their growth.
Neither men nor women can be so selfish, they cannot just take care of themselves and take their children's lives seriously. If the two parties talk about divorce at every turn, the impact on the children must be impossible to eliminate in a lifetime.
Therefore, for couples after middle age, it is really not easy to say that they are separated, or they should think more about their children.
If the husband and wife do not have marriage, they can live without anyone, whether it is good or not, they can solve their own survival problems.
However, if the couple does not think about the children, it is too cruel to them, because your emotional problems have brought them a lifetime of trouble, and it is really not worth it.
Regardless of whether the marriage is happy or not, the mistakes of adults should not let the children pay for it.
If men and women do not adequately consider their children, it is too selfish and irresponsible.
Just imagine how painful children will be in life later on, and how tormented their hearts will be.
Many children of single-parent families have undergone great changes in their personalities, and even become irritable and restless, and they do not like to talk, which affects their minds.
These effects may accompany children throughout their lives, so why should they bear this pain for adults?
Therefore, couples really don't talk about divorce easily, if they hurt their children, they will definitely regret it.
I hope that couples in reality, especially middle-aged couples, regardless of whether the marriage is good or bad, they must carefully manage a good life and keep the marriage intact.
Third and second marriages are more difficult, and both parties cannot afford it
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "I thought that love can fill the regrets of life, but what creates more regrets is love." Yin and yang are lacking, and they are constantly repeated in a love. If you change people, it will not be blue. ”
Some couples, once they feel that the marriage is not good, or see that the other party is not good, they want to divorce, they want to find another one, but this idea is too naïve.
At that time, the results are often the opposite, not to mention that it is not easy to find a second marriage, and even if you find it, you may not be happy.
Couples, if the first marriage is not good, the second marriage will not be much better, and may also have unexpected other problems.
Moreover, the second marriage family is more complicated, if there is no certain ability to bear, I am afraid that if you want to get happiness, you can only fantasize.
Therefore, couples after middle age, really do not talk about divorce easily, do not think that the future life is so simple.
When two people are separated, their respective ages are older, and there are various pressures on their backs, it is not easy to find an ideal second marriage partner.
Although there are also second marriages in life who are happy, but after all, it is a minority, and most people cannot live happier than before.
If men and women can't see this clearly and just take it for granted that happiness can be found, it may disappoint you.
Second marriage is not as good as first marriage, which makes sense, because in the second marriage family, you have to pay more things, more things to tolerate, and more sacrifices you may make.
In life, once mixed with too many realities and contradictions, it is actually difficult to live happily.
I hope that couples will not talk about divorce at every turn, or manage the current marriage with their hearts and strive to live a good life in the present.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Jane Austen said: "A couple of lovers who have a very good temper before marriage, or have very similar tempers, does not guarantee that they will both be happy." They always get to the back and get farther and farther apart, annoying each other. Since you have to live with this person for the rest of your life, you had better try to understand his shortcomings as little as possible. ”
In fact, marriage more or less requires husband and wife to endure, do not only look at each other's shortcomings, but to find more of each other's advantages, so that it will be more comfortable.
In reality, there are basically no couples who are not willing, and happy couples know how to understand and tolerate.
I hope that couples after middle age really don't talk about divorce easily, these things are too heavy, both parties can't afford it, and the price paid is too high.
If there is no violation of principle in the marriage, it is recommended not to divorce, or to run the marriage well, so as to make life more harmonious.
Both men and women must learn to reflect, but also to understand each other's accommodation and tolerance, mutual understanding and trust, and believe that life will be better.
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