The mother is the person who affects the child's life, and when the child grows up, whether the feeling of remembering the mother is happy or painful depends on the mother's personality. The way children are treated is different, the children's life direction is different, and there are great differences when they grow up.
The mother is the child's closest person, but also the person who has the most contact, the child's performance reflects the mother's behavior, the child's problems, may be the root of the mother.
The mother's personality determines the child's life, and these three kinds of mothers are terrible for the child:
1. Strong desire to control
Do not believe in the child's ability, require the child to listen to their own 100%, if the child is slightly disobedient, must be in a very severe way and means, strong suppression, and mouth said that it is for the good of the child.
Whether it is from school, love or work, etc., the mother has to interfere, in the end the child's fate is very tortuous, experienced all kinds, the child will eventually follow their own inner thoughts, maturity is always half a beat slower than their peers, from the mother's excessive desire to control.
2. Grumpy
Strong control and grumpiness are always closely linked, the child does not listen, the mother will lose her temper, angry and rush to the crown, and even use some vicious language to attack the child, reprimand or command, force the child to obey.
Grumpy mother, the child is either cowardly, dare not resist, is easy to be bullied outside, and has no sense of security at home; or has a rebellious personality, temper is the same as the mother, the same, easy to provoke.
3, often complain
Mothers who often complain always push the responsibility to others, their own situation is caused by others, and they have to nag for half a day when they encounter a small matter, which makes people unbearable and unhappy to get along.
A child who lives in the complaining of his mother all day is poor and helpless, unable to change the mother's personality, bringing trouble to the child, suffering from it, and having a depressed personality.
We all want our lives to be smooth sailing, but there will always be some tribulations, setbacks are not terrible, what matters is the attitude towards difficulties.
Mothers have important educational responsibilities at home, children are gifts to us, gentle, respectful and encouraging, treated like adults, control their emotions, patiently persuade, children will be better than us.
The concept of changing the world is wide, life is so beautiful, everything is actively working hard, and encouraging children to improve with positive encouragement language, rather than using arbitrary and oppressive ways to force children to obey, the effect will be better.
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