A mother anxiously confided to me: "I feel that my daughter has fallen in love early", my daughter's grades have always been among the best in the class, but during this time, the teacher has responded to me one after another, the child is not serious in class, loves to desert, and the ear is turned.
And many times found that she has a similar love letter envelope in her book, and there are light red blocks around her neck, but this year she is only in the first year of junior high school, afraid that she will do some excessive things, recently sleep and eat, about to collapse, what should I do!
Children in adolescence, the idea of love is inevitable, good or bad, depends on how the family treats.
If your child often buys these things, it means that it is likely to fall in love early, and after the child goes to school, in addition to worrying about their test scores and health and safety, the parents are also worried that the child will secretly fall in love with the parents.
I am even more afraid that I will make some wrong behaviors prematurely, which will not only affect my learning, but also affect my physical and mental health, and ruin my great future!
If the children in the family buy these items too often, it is likely that they are already quietly falling in love with others, or are already in early love.
Children with these behaviors are likely to fall in love early
1. Couple clothing
Due to the limited economic level, many children will decide to buy couple clothes to quietly sprinkle dog food. In school, many young couples even quietly use the couple's clothes as an underwear, and quietly show their love in the absence of anyone.
And they cherish the same clothing of the couple, if the child is very concerned about this thing or a special day to take out the door, you can see whether it is possible to fall in love early.
2. Couple jewelry
Buy some small jewelry or postcards. Adolescent children, not only naïve and shy, many children like a certain person, some decisions quietly put on the heart, some decisions boldly express their ideas, and love letters and gifts become a very normal thing.
Third, couples toys
Adolescent children buy toy dolls, girls will generally save or give to their good girlfriends or female classmates, but if it is a boy to buy doll dolls, it indicates that there is a situation, it must be given to their unrequited girls or the other half who is already quietly in love.
What kind of children are prone to early love?
1. Children who are not physically unaccompanied
Eleven, two or three-year-old children, the second sexual characteristics are changing, physiological needs, began to pursue individual liberation, eager to get the approval and approval of others.
During this period, there is no reasonable guidance in psychology, if you encounter the object of your choice, it is difficult to control yourself, and it is easy to have early love behavior.
2. Children who do not receive the love of their families in the family
Family education is very important for children, if they do not get the care and understanding of their parents for a long time, lack of presence, it is easy to be moved by the opposite sex and make excessive behavior.
3. Children who are not recognized in life
Learning is inevitably boring, children with average grades are easily neglected by others, do not get attention and recognition, do not do business, indulge in games, it is easy to appear online dating behavior, and even want to release repressed emotions through love.
4. Children with a strong climbing psychology
Face is very important for adolescent children, some children will feel that single dogs are very humiliating, but also envious of other people's boyfriends and girlfriends, they are very eager to talk about a relationship, and even feel that it is only after several times to have face.
For the child's emotional problems, as a parent is also difficult to stop, if the behavior is excessive, it is likely to fall out with the child, the parent-child relationship is broken, and will make behaviors such as running away from home.
Therefore, if you want to prevent a series of bad things caused by children's early love, parents must find out early and deal with them early.
How do parents deal with their children's early love?
Teacher Li Meijin once said:
As a mother, you should play the daughter's all-encompassing girlfriend, talk to your child about some adolescent things, and talk about how you first looked up to your father, because of what are the advantages? What qualities? Light handsome is not enough.
As a father, you should become a brother with your son, do a good job in guiding the child's spirit, and talk more about how to look up to your mother, what are the advantages of your mother? What qualities? It's not good to look good.
1. Be with and care for your children
Have you found that children who generally have early love behavior, their parents are rarely by their side, do not care or ask the child, the child most of the time is communicating with friends.
Therefore, parents should usually accompany their children more, pay attention to their children's achievements, and at the same time, pay more attention to their physical and mental health, communicate with children more, understand their children's affairs at school, and let children know that they are cared for and loved.
2. Teach children to recognize the opposite sex
First love is beautiful and simple for people, and children in adolescence are no exception, and they do not have the correct sense of friendship, after all, "the lover's eyes are out of the west", even if the object is good or bad, it is difficult to control. Therefore, parents should teach their children how to identify the opposite sex and encourage their children to be friends with people of good quality.
3. Respect and understand children
Children's early love can only be dredged, not blocked. As soon as many parents find out about their children's early love behavior, they scold and beat their children like a flood beast.
If you want to completely "erase the child's early love thoughts in the cradle", you do not know that such an approach is easy to provoke the child, and he does not listen to the admonition, regardless of the consequences, and does worse things.
Therefore, parents should know how to respect their children and understand their children's emotions, and solve problems through good communication between the two sides. Early love is not terrible, what is terrible is to train children wrongly.
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