Primary education | the 16 most important things for children in primary school, more important than grades! (Required reading for parents)

1. [Have an acceptable environment]

From the perspective of psychological needs, the satisfaction and sense of belonging of a sense of security is the need and most important for children at this age.

Having an accepted environment allows them to feel welcomed, accepted, and recognized, which increases their sense of security and gives them a sense of belonging.

In this environment, what children need most is the acceptance of the family environment, and secondly, the collective acceptance of the outside world.

2. [Have your own non-school group]

Why the non-school group? One important reason is that the evaluation criteria in schools are single.

The evaluation criteria of the non-school group are different from those of the school, assuming that a child's grades are not outstanding, but his teamwork ability is very strong, the child will be recognized in this group.

Having your own non-school group can also avoid letting children grow up in a single evaluation environment, and children need to know where they shine and what is different.

3. 【 Have an environment where you can speak freely】

As the age group increases, children's secrets increase more and more, because they are well aware of their parents' expectations, so they are reluctant to say to their parents.

Therefore, it is necessary to have an environment where children can speak freely and speak their hearts, especially where parents think it is not good. Such an environment can help children improve their independent thinking and communication skills.

Such an environment may not be a family environment, because children care a lot about their image in the minds of their parents.

4.【 Have your own spiritual teacher】

At the age of 6-12, especially after the age of 10, the child needs a spiritual leader.

Be able to grow up with your child, discuss the future with him, and explore what you want and why? How do I do that? Be able to give advice or tips to your child.

This mentor can be a parent, a teacher, a member of the family, or a professional.

5.【 Have the habit of expressing your thoughts】

Parents need to help their children slowly develop the habit of expressing their thoughts. When the child asks why, we can also often ask the child "why", so that we will know the reason for making a certain decision, and even work with him to find a better solution to the problem.

6.【 Experience of constantly exploring yourself】

The question we've been searching for all our lives is: Who am I? What do I want? What do I like?

We will see that people with a strong sense of happiness do not pursue what they do not desire in their hearts but are imposed on them by others.

What most people in society want now is usually what the society wants us to want, not what we really want.

Not knowing what you want will make you very confused, especially after puberty, children will be lost in such a state of mind, and various behavioral problems will appear.

So what to do for parents? One of the best ways is to ask why, through constant questioning and thinking, to meet the child's constant exploration of their own needs.

The greatest happiness of a person comes from knowing what he wants and achieving it!

7.【 Experience of completing reading "thick" books】

Regarding "reading", children accumulate from an early age, and when they reach the fifth and sixth grades, especially when they are above the sixth grade, they need to have such a reading experience, and they have to complete the reading of a "thick" book.

One is to mark that his reading ability has reached the point where he can read a tome;

The second is to mark that his brain physical fitness has developed to a certain extent, and he can learn better and effectively, that is, he can calm down and learn;

The third is that he can turn reading into a long work.

Therefore, it is valuable for children to have a long cycle of reading experience.

8.【 Experience in setting goals, plans and achieving them】

From the time the child is around the age of 9, the child needs to have this experience, make their own goals or plans, and achieve it.

For children, the greatest value is that when they set goals, their learning ability will be improved, and they will develop various methods to stimulate their happiness of self-realization.

The process of completing the goal plan can also allow parents to observe the child's state: whether he knows himself, so that he can more effectively help his growth.

9.【 Experience of intimate contact with nature】

Man needs to have the most intimate relationship with the natural world, but now life is more constrained by people's contact with nature.

For human beings, contact with nature is particularly important, and one of the things that this intimate contact brings to children is perception, the growth and transformation of nature. The second is responsibility, including responsibility for animals and plants.

Children need to know that human beings need to be responsible for nature.

10.【 Have a favorite and insist on sports】

Sports and art are human emotions from the heart, and they are also one of the ways to vent human emotions. Sports make parents and children have more non-learning topics, will enhance parent-child communication, so it can be said that sports is the source of happiness, for the growth of children, this matter contains two meanings:

The child needs to have sports that he likes to watch, and he may not be able to do it

There is one thing in the world that makes you feel particularly happy without spending money, and that is sports. Whether it's the Olympic Games, the Asian Games, the Championships, or even other events... When watching the game, it will make your blood boil, experience spiritual pleasure, and have more expectations for life. But some of these likes have been cultivated since childhood, and this is what parents have to do from the family.

Children need to have a consistent sport

Persistence is the most emblematic of sportsmanship. And a kind of sports that persists is more of a social, sports can let you make a lot of friends with the same interest, everyone can play together, and thus expand the social side of children. Therefore, let the child have a favorite or adhere to the sports program, should be dug up when the child is 6-12 years old.

11.【 Activities with regular participation】

Regular participation in activities will help each family build their own culture.

For children, regular participation in some activities every year will become the culture of each family, such as travel, activities, competitions... This is especially important for families.

Why is it so important in elementary school? Because children reach puberty after 6 years of primary school, we will find that when children are young, they have some non-learning topics and non-learning regular participation activities, which can help children spend a good time with their parents during adolescence.

Therefore, having regular participation in activities will become a family culture, and children will know that there is more to learning in life.

12.【 Have your own collection】

Whether it's collecting match skins, stamps, game cards, logos, Barbie dolls... Collecting can help children build their own hobbies and construct their own world.

Have your own collection, help children to build self-awareness, what I like, in the process of continuous collection, will also build the child's sense of purpose;

When showing their collection to others, they will also make children feel a sense of accomplishment;

Collecting can also find fun in life and create fresh topics that children need to have when they are 6-12 years old, teaching children and infiltrating how to live.

13.【 Hands-on experience】

The child makes a thing by hand, exercises the child's hands-on ability, and more importantly, the child can complete a work of his own and can participate in such a process independently, which is very valuable for his satisfaction with his sense of achievement.

14.【 Experience of social contact】

Every child is a social person, and they have to face the whole society. They must know themselves in society, contact different people, different cultures, and have their own summaries of their feelings.

Chinese children have only one identity, students. Children should be social people, but our children have too little access to society. When they actually step into society, they will be nervous and will not know what to do.

Children need to truly experience asking strangers for help, asking for directions, making their own budgets, and learning to ride local public transport on their own, of course, in safety.

15.【 Experience of failure】

Through certain events, let the child face failure, or let the child have a feeling of failure, which will make the child reflect on self-knowledge.

There are many parents who can't accept failure more than their children, and sometimes children don't have much reaction when they face failure, but parents are very concerned, and often the last to escape are parents and mothers, such an escape, is the biggest obstacle to children's growth.

16.【 Experience of rejection or rejection]

Parents are particularly afraid to reject their children, and parents will feel: How can I reject him? I want to let him grow up freely, reject him, will the child feel that I don't love him?

When a child has no experience of rejection, his life is very fragile. In fact, it is the parents who cannot accept to say "no" to the child, and when they say "no", the parents are very uncomfortable, so he refuses to say "no" to the child.

If he has not been rejected before the age of 12, what should he do when he is faced with rejection as he gradually drifts away from the protection of his family?

In addition, the child also needs to have the experience of saying "no", if our child does not have the opportunity to say "no" when he is young, he does not respect his rights, has the opportunity to say no, bravely express it, the process of saying no, and gradually reflect his own value.

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