During the winter vacation, many children spend a lot of time playing online games or reading electronic novels, or online chats, electronic music production, etc., immersed in the online world. Among them, many children often sleep too late because they play for a long time, and they don't get up until noon the next day. There are even such a situation: some parents found that their children were still secretly playing with their mobile phones in the middle of the night, and smashed their mobile phones in anger.
After the start of school, parents are worried that their children continue to be addicted to the Internet, affecting learning in school during the day.
After the holidays, how to guide children to stay away from internet dependence in time and better devote themselves to learning and life?
For the post-00s born in the Internet age, how to guide them to make rational use of the Internet and empower their own growth?
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Be well accompanied to understand the true needs of your child's heart
Special Observer: Li Yanying (Senior Teacher, Haidian District Academy of Educational Sciences, Beijing)
In the face of the current excessive dependence of many children on the Internet, parents must not simply and rudely solve, strive to understand the actual needs of the child's heart, guide the child to use the network scientifically in communication and joint planning, and achieve a healthy life for the child in the company of the heart.
Be sure to avoid simple and crude solutions. Parents need to understand that most children who are overly dependent on the Internet are not like this from the beginning, they initially use the Internet as a supplement to reality, as an extension of the communication connection between reality. If parents do it properly, it is very likely that they will "pull" their children back to reality and achieve a healthy life. But if parents simply and rudely prohibit it, children are likely to resolutely stand on the opposite side, in order to protect their "spiritual territory", but more over-reliance on the Internet.
Be sure to understand the actual needs of your child's heart. To solve the child's excessive dependence on the Internet, parents need to first understand and analyze what the child's heart needs. There are generally deeper psychological factors behind network dependence. Along with network dependence, there are often other problems, such as emotional problems, interpersonal problems, and so on. The right approach should be to face it correctly, understand the actual needs of children's hearts, and use appropriate methods to help them overcome excessive dependence on the Internet and achieve a healthy life.
Careful companionship achieves a healthy life. Parents (especially fathers need to pay attention) should spend more time with their children, not only to care more about their children's life and learning, but also to care about their children's inner feelings and future ideals. Parents should accompany their children more, including accompanying learning, accompanying reading, accompanying sports, accompanying social practice... Let children try more, experience more things that they are interested in but have nothing to do with the Internet, let children discover a wider and better outside world, help them migrate their hobbies, fill the gaps in their hearts, and spend every day in a healthy and happy mental life.
The mobile phone problem provides an opportunity for parent-child relationships to turn over
Special Observer: Cui Qianqian (Psychology Teacher, Beijing Dayu Middle School, Master of Development and Educational Psychology)
The mobile phone problem can be said to be a problem that has plagued parents for a long time, especially after a winter vacation "indulgence", it seems to become more prominent and serious.
Let's take a look at the following perspectives to see if we can find some ideas.
The first is to talk to your children about campus life with curiosity and pleasure. Just back to campus, the child may be a little uncomfortable, the mood may be a little irritable, this is a good opportunity for us to "show kindness" to the child and close the parent-child relationship. We may wish to talk to the children, "School has started, how is the mood, are you still adapting?" "How's the opening ceremony of the school?" "Have anything changed among the students?" Grow taller or fatter? "Did anything funny happen at school?" When we are really curious about our children's school life, we can communicate with our children more easily and naturally, so that it is easier to get closer to our children, establish a better parent-child relationship, and win an emotional foundation for later education management. If we communicate with the child with a sarcastic and critical mentality, such as "You see, let you stop playing with the mobile phone, adjust the state early and you don't listen, now it is uncomfortable", it is easier to push the child away, let the child oppose us, and the mobile phone alliance. In this way, we will have the opposite of what we want, so in terms of mentality and communication methods, we need to pay attention.
The second is to establish alliances with children and jointly formulate growth contracts. The problem of mobile phones not only bothers us, but in fact, children are aware of this, but it is more difficult for them to control themselves. Parents are needed to help at this time. Our role positioning is a friend, not a manager, to discuss with the child the mentality of an ally to eliminate the contract of the mobile phone constraint effect, must be agreed by both sides, otherwise it will become a means for parents to control their children in disguise, which will inevitably cause children to resist. From a positive point of view, the mobile phone problem provides an opportunity for our parent-child relationship to turn over.
Ideas
The "tripartite talks" do a good job of home-school cooperation
Invited Observer: Su Quguang (Vice Principal of Moral Education, North Campus, Affiliated Middle School of Beijing Jiaotong University)
Now, indulging in online games and using mobile phones for a long time has become the most headache, anxiety and even helpless problem for parents. The beginning of school is a good time, and parents should take advantage of this opportunity.
Start by going with the flow. When the school starts, the school will strictly implement the five management regulations, mobile phones can not be brought into the classroom, and schools will also have school rules of "must bring mobile phones, parents need to write applications", and mobile phones will be included in management. Therefore, during the school class, the use of electronic products such as mobile phones will be much lower than the holidays. Parents can use school rules to discuss with their children and persuade their children not to bring a mobile phone.
Second, take advantage of the situation. Taking advantage of the new semester, when the child is full of expectations and expectations for the future, do a calm exchange with the child, have an open and honest discussion, jointly formulate rules, and make an agreement: what time to use, how long to use, what network security attention, what website and what content minors can not touch, etc. Develop a family mobile phone convention that is effective for all family members, and violations must be "punished" and enforced fairly and equitably.
Finally, build momentum. On this issue, we should do a good job of home-school cooperation with teachers, do a good job of tripartite talks, use the child's self-motivation or trust and reverence for the teacher, give the child some pertinent learning suggestions with a cooperative attitude, give the child some encouragement and analysis of growth points, talk about the many benefits that playing less electronic products can bring to his academic progress, and even let the child take the initiative to promise to ensure the length of learning at home and the mobile phone is not placed around when learning, etc., to make a point reward system to help children adhere to good habits. Once there is progress and the child has a sense of accomplishment, he will consciously take the initiative to implement it.
Explore together to empower and add value to your child's growth
Special Observer: Wang Xiaofang (Principal of the Affiliated Primary School of the First Middle School of Shunyi District, Beijing)
How did the children spend the first holiday after the double subtraction? Some use their holidays to do meaningful things. Some do what interests them; others take full advantage of their vacations to indulge in the Internet and even become dependent on the Internet. As children of the Internet Natives, how can they correctly understand the Internet and use the Internet to empower their growth and add value?
At the beginning of the new semester, I think parents can try to do this -
The first is to accept and identify with the status quo and jointly find network source power. Parents should first accept the child's current situation, share his fun in the network, and communicate with him about the gains and feelings of indulging in the Internet or playing games. Learn which places on the Internet attract children, what attract them to indulge in them, and what confusion and difficulties they have in reality. Then talk to him about the value and meaning of the web. In fact, in addition to games and social networking, there are many functions and contents that can help us grow, and we can use online learning to empower our own growth and add value.
The second is to help and find interest, and divert attention from the network. Children addicted to the Internet must be boring in real life and growing up confused when looking for a way to release themselves, parents can take their children to experience the vast nature, interesting scientific experiments, rich literary reading, to the society, you can find a lot of meaningful things with children, with more abundant and interesting things to fill in instead of too much network time and space.
The third is to envision and look forward to the future and exchange new hopes for the semester together. When the new semester comes, parents should envision and look forward to the future with their children, help their children to close their hearts in advance, chat with their children about the hopes of the new semester, make full preparations for the start of the school in advance, plan and design from the time of work and rest, from the task management, from the learning content, so that the children can enter the right track of learning and make full preparations for the start of school.
The fourth is to face up to and control emotions, and jointly do a good job of correctly using the Internet. The Internet is not only a huge attraction for children, but also for parents, parents should demonstrate by example and use the Internet correctly. New hope in the new semester, let us accompany the children to do more fun, interesting and meaningful things, and empower the growth of children.
Classmates have something to say
Give them a sense of accomplishment in reality
Special Observer: Yi Ge (Beijing Senior High School Students)
There are often students who affect the next day's study because of the Internet or games, and even some students use the holidays to stay up all night. But I am not addicted to the Internet, because I am a game or internet rookie, in the network I can not find a sense of achievement and value, and I have more realistic things to do, have my own pursuit of life, do not have much energy to travel in the network.
In contrast, students in games or networks, one is that they do not have a clear goal, do not think that more meaningful and valuable things attract their attention, so that the game or network occupies the home of their lives. The second is because the dissatisfaction and frustration in life now are just easy to get some compensation on the Internet or in the game, and learning is not something that can be immediately achieved with hard work, but in the game or network they can see the harvest through hard work, so they are obsessed. This is precisely what needs to be in real life, parents and teachers to give them more attention and respect, to help them find the joy of learning in life, to regain confidence, away from the Internet, to learn.
Text: Wang Xiaoai
Editor: Zhang Qiuying
Editor: Liu Zhijun
Editor: Hao Bin
Final Judgement: Wang Yu, Su Jinzhu, Bao Danhe
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