Children always ask "why", don't be bothered, smart parents do it

The power of asking questions is powerful. Children who ask questions often will be more focused in their later learning, think more deeply about problems, and complete tasks of higher quality.

But if you pay attention carefully, you will find that many children around you, when they were young, they were active in their thinking and often asked questions, but when they grew up, they gradually lost their flexible eyes and lost their interest in asking questions.

Haohao, a friend's child, is such a case. Hao Hao was clever and sensible when he was a child, and every time he met him, he kept asking, "Mom, why does the praying mantis mother die after giving birth to the baby" "Why do raindrops bubble up when they fall on the ground"... It could be seen that his little head was not idle for a moment. But every time Hao Hao asked his mother, his mother was saying, "Why do you have so many questions every day, let me rest for a while, don't bother me, okay?" "Wait, busy" Didn't take Hao Hao's problem seriously.

Now that Hao Hao has gone to elementary school, when I see him again, I find that he has no eye contact with me, and will only follow his mother's requirements, politely say hello and study hard.

I think the change in Hao Hao has something to do with the way his mother treats him with questions. In the early childhood stage, parents are the source of children's sense of security, if parents do not pay attention to the child's "why", it will make them feel that their "problem" has no value, can be ignored, over time, the child will inevitably lose the interest in asking questions and exploring.

Also facing this problem, Chen Meiling, the mother who sent three children to Stanford, paid great attention to it.

When the child asked Chen Meiling a question, she would never say "wait a minute" and ignored the child's question.

Even if when stir-frying, her son asks her the question "Why is the sky blue" that cannot be answered in time, she will immediately choose to turn off the fire and tell her son, "You asked really well!" Let's go find out together. This not only makes the child understand that his question is precious, protects the child's curiosity, but also allows the child to learn to wait.

So, how should we respond when a child asks "why"?

1. Take care of your child's curiosity

Children are born philosophers, and everything in the world is new and unknown to them. Children who keep throwing questions are not trying to embarrass you, they just realize that the world is not simple, and they are no longer satisfied with superficial observations, and want to dig deeper content. This shows that the child's observation, imagination, creativity, and learning ability are quietly sprouting, and his desire and ability to explore the world are gradually improving.

They will do a lot of exploratory behaviors in their lives that adults think are "unbelievable". For example, extruding toothpaste in its entirety to the floor, just wondering how long a toothpaste can squeeze out; placing the egg in the duvet and waiting for the egg to turn into a chick.

At this time, it is especially important to create a relaxed environment for children, a sentence of "this question is really well asked, I have seen your thinking and discovery", encouraging them to ask bold questions, supporting and guiding children to explore. The disciplined "well-behaved child" does ease the parents, but it also loses the child's keen childlike heart.

2. Respect your child's problems

Your child's questions are sometimes just an expression of desire or attention, rather than a real need to be answered. For example, "Why sleep?" Why can't I watch TV? This is actually asking the reason for the ban, and adults can gently tell children that "when it is time to go to bed, they should go to bed, so that they can grow taller!" "We don't have to give answers to these kinds of questions at a glance, and respecting and accepting the child's feelings is the best response."

The following types of questions should not be perfunctory, we must pay attention to and answer them seriously!

★ Life Knowledge Class: Why Brush Your Teeth?

Giving answers to such questions can not only help children solve their doubts, but also help to develop good living habits.

★ Emotional: Why did I set up the building blocks today and the teacher ignored me?

The answers to these questions are related to the development of a child's emotional intelligence and social skills.

★ Natural Encyclopedia: Why Do Leaves Turn Yellow?

Such questions can be answered well, which can broaden children's horizons, enrich their knowledge reserves, and improve cognitive ability.

★ Self-question class: Why does the grandmother downstairs say I am not good-looking?

Such questions must be answered carefully, because they are related to the outlook on life and values, and they are also related to the child's correct understanding of himself and the cultivation of self-confidence.

★ Philosophy of Life: Why Do People Die?

Try to simplify the complexity, do not go deep, do not explore, and after answering the questions, you can change the topic.

Guide and accompany children in their search for answers

Child: Why do leaves turn yellow?

Mom: Yeah, you looked very carefully! Baby, have you ever noticed when the leaves turn yellow?

Kid: Last few days!

Mom: Have we been feeling a lot colder lately than in the summer?

In the face of the child's "why", you can accompany the child like this mother, and constantly inspire the child to think proactively and solve the problem through the problem. Perhaps a "why" is solved, and many new "whys" will be born, but these "whys" will slowly weave into a huge network of knowledge, and this process of "weaving the net" is the happy journey of knowledge that we explore with our children.

Especially when children are in early childhood, they need to face the transformation from kindergarten to primary school, and it is indeed difficult to learn a lot of new things beyond their cognition. For example, when reading the word "cloud", when the child asks "why is the cloud word written like this", parents can combine the child's daily life experience and pictograms to help the child more deeply understand the source and glyph of the word "cloud".

For how to respond to the children's questions, in fact, behind the parents' view of children, education, if we can truly respect the child, understand the child, from the child's point of view to observe and perceive the world, I believe that those "why" will definitely touch our hearts, motivate us to find answers with children!