Because of her sweet looks and touching voice, the 14-year-old became popular overnight and reached the top of the Hong Kong pop charts with a Cirle Game. At the age of 17, she and the pandas Kang Kang and Lan Lan, as symbols of Sino-Japanese friendship, went to Japan together and became a popular idol in Japan, triggering Chen Meiling's fever. Chen Meiling dolls, Meiling tricycles, Meiling wheat, Meiling white socks, Meiling radio, Meiling programs... Even the Thai governor saw her.
She became a popular Asian singer alongside Momoe Yamaguchi and Teresa Teng and others, winning all the newcomer awards in Japan. Even in 1983, he won the Hong Kong Golden Disc Award with Cheung Kwok Wing.
But when her career was in full swing, her father told her:
"Fame and status, money and property are like flowing water, which will be lost and robbed. But the knowledge that has entered the head cannot be snatched away by anyone, and it is the treasure of your life. When you can read, you should cherish the opportunity. ”
At the age of 20, Chen Meiling gave up everything she had and went to the University of Toronto in Canada to continue her studies and earned a doctorate from Stanford University.
After returning to show business, she worked as a singer, presenter, university teacher, and UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador for Asia, but instead of giving up her family for work, she got married and had children and became a mother of 3 children.
As she said in the book "38 Revelations of Life: Chen Meiling's Autobiography": Time with children is my happiest moment. Children are my priceless treasure, raising children, making me re-recognize the beauty of nature, the love of family and the dignity of life.
So, as a jade girl youth idol, why is Chen Meiling so successful as a parent? The book "Chen Meiling's Autobiography" gives us the answer and allows us to see the wisdom of a parent.
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In the book "38 Revelations of Life: Chen Meiling's Autobiography", she preached that because she was busy at work, she often needed to visit children or give speeches around the world, and Chen Meiling needed to leave her children for more than ten days or two weeks. Although the mother-in-law and friends can help take care of the child, before she goes out, she will prepare a "surprise pouch" for the child.
She would write the name of each child on a small paper bag with different things in it, including food, toys, a book, and so on. Draw when the child is illiterate; after the child is literate, he writes. If Chen Meiling needs to travel for 2 weeks, she will make 42, and then give the small bag to the child caregiver and hide it in a corner of the room every morning.
The happiest thing for children to go to bed every day is to look for their mother's "surprise pouch". Although the mother did not accompany the child, because of the gift prepared by the mother, the children felt that the mother was always with them, and they could read books and play with toys together.
When Chen Meiling arrived home, the children scrambled to report to their mother which game was fun and which book was interesting. She would hold the children and explain to them what she saw in the world and what was going on outside.
In Chen Meiling's "surprise pouch", the children not only did not stop her from traveling, did not feel that their mother abandoned them, but encouraged their mother to go out to work. Because they feel that their mother is always by their side, and their mother's heart is always by their side.
Therefore, on the road to parenting, for working mothers, there is no need to feel guilty because they need to travel or cannot accompany their children. Especially for left-behind children, we can prepare "surprise pouches" for children, so that they can feel our care and love, so that they can feel sunny and calm inside.
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Chen Meiling and the children will often hold "dumpling competitions", on that day, the adults do not go out to work, the children will wake up early, make dumpling skins together, wrap dumplings. They make dumplings over and over again, chat and tell stories and jokes, which becomes a warm parent-child time.
Then the whole family starts a dumpling competition, with 5 dumplings in each bowl first. In elementary school, adults would eat 20 dumplings first, and most of the dads were champions. But after middle school, the children will gradually become champions. Although there are no special rewards and prizes, the competition is extremely intense every year and is a competition that children will miss very much.
In addition to the "Dumpling Contest Conference", every child's birthday party is also a grand event for her family. Chen Meiling will invite the child's classmates to the home to celebrate, personally make cakes, and prepare a game of "riddle treasure hunting". She would greet neighbors and nearby shops in advance and prepare brochures and gifts.
Based on the first riddle, the children find the first place, each place has small gifts and instructions, answer correctly to go to the next place, a total of 8 places, which group will win first. And these carefully prepared birthday parties have not only become the good memories of the 3 children, but also become the grand events of their classmates, even when they grow up, they are often asked to organize a "scavenger hunt" for adults.
Professor Jane Waldfogel of Columbia University found in the study that adolescents who had dinner with their parents at least five times a week performed better in many ways. Not only are there fewer rates of smoking, alcoholism, and cannabis use, but there are also higher average grades in school and college graduation rates.
Family gatherings can not only enhance parent-child feelings, let children feel the care and love of parents, but also let parents enter the hearts of children, read children, and become the best memories of children, engraved in the hearts of children, and become spiritual wealth.
So, if you have time, ask parents to spend more time with their children, play games with them, have family gatherings with their children, and prepare birthday parties for their children.
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The book preaches that there is a special trip every year in their family, that is, a father-son trip, which is attended by no mother. But the money for the parent-child trip did not come from family property, but from Dad's pocket money. Each year, half of the child's father's pocket money is donated to UNICEF and half is set aside for the father-son journey.
Because the funds are relatively small, when they go out to travel, they can only stay in particularly cheap homestays and eat the cheapest meals. I didn't have money to take the bus, so I just walked forward. I didn't have money to eat, so I had to go hungry.
As a mother, I admire Chen Meiling's willingness to give her children a hard-working education, but in the eyes of Chen Meiling's children, this adventure is their favorite parent-child journey. Because although it is very bitter, the process of father and son four people sharing hardships is also a beautiful moment for father and son, which connects their hearts closer.
Therefore, if possible, ask the father to take the children on a special trip to cultivate the child's spirit of hardship and the ability to find ways to solve problems, so that they can cherish the hard-won happiness of life.
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From the first song that swept Hong Kong and Japan, to the Asian popular singer who triggered Chen Meiling's craze, to the rapids to retire to become a doctor at Stanford University, he sent his 3 sons to Stanford, achieving the myth of "one door and 4 Stanford". Chen Meiling's life can be described as legendary, becoming famous at a young age, and then at the age of 65, she is still a natural frozen age beauty.
She explained to us the definition of a woman: a lifetime of tenderness and poetry, the world will be gentle to you. As long as you are a parent with your heart, you can also succeed.
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