Former singer Chen Meiling came to Shanghai
Guest at the Culture and Art Salon "Everybody Says"
When she sang "The Returning Swallow" again
At 63 years old, she seems to be back in her teenage years
Chen Meiling as a guest of "Everyone Says"
Bidding farewell to the public eye for more than thirty years, Chen Meiling today appears more as a writer: "50 Education Laws - I Sent Three Sons to Stanford" is her first Chinese book.
This time, she flew to Shanghai as a guest of "Everyone Says" and shared with everyone her legendary life experience, how to obtain a doctorate from Stanford, and the secret of sending her three sons to Stanford.
A popular superstar who was once on a par with Teresa Teng
In the 1970s and 1980s, Chen Meiling was on a par with Teresa Teng and Weng Meiling.
Young girl Chen Meiling
At the age of 14, she loved to sing, and was discovered by star scouts, debuted as a singer in Hong Kong, and began to become a generation of idols.
At the age of 17, Chen Meiling was invited by the famous Japanese singer and composer Hirao Masaaki to record the song "Yu Meiren's Flower" in Japan, which not only won the Japanese Folk Song Award that year, but also quickly became a popular idol in the Japanese music scene, but also became popular in Hong Kong, Taiwan and other regions.
Chen Meiling took the stage with Momoe Yamaguchi
At that time, she often took turns with Momoe Yamaguchi on the cover of Japanese idol magazines. This little sister next door in Hong Kong, China, who has a little tiger tooth in her smile, has made a difference in Japan with her appearance and singing voice.
Chen Meiling and Zhang Guorong received the award on the same stage
In 1976, she was just 21 years old and already a popular star, but suddenly announced her temporary retirement, going to Canada to study child psychology at the University of Toronto. As soon as the news came out, the fans were in an uproar, and the agent in Japan was also angry enough.
I was awakened by Dad's words
Thinking back on that experience, Chen Meiling said: "Although I started when I was very young, I wanted to be a singer, I wanted to be famous, I wanted to be a popular person, I believe I can enjoy this bright life, but after I really have fame, I have a lot of pressure, and because after you are red, you are a business, and people become commodities." They probably weren't when I was alone anymore. My value is in how much money I can make. ”
Chen Meiling discography
What prompted Chen Meiling to end this situation was a sentence that her father said after seeing her work situation: "Stars and money are like running water, and people can take it away." But the knowledge that has entered the head is something that no one can snatch away, and you can use this knowledge to live a lifetime, and you can also help yourself and help others. ”
With the encouragement of her father, Chen Meiling temporarily left the show business circle to study in Canada. To this day, she often hangs up this golden jade good word that has been used for life, and also uses it to educate her children.
Finished his Ph.D. in Education at Stanford with his second treasure
After graduating from the University of Toronto, Chen Meiling returned to the music scene.
After marrying in Japan at the age of 30, she did not stop working like other Japanese housewives, but brought her son to the work site every time. This was incomprehensible to Japanese society at the time, and the controversy caused was beyond imagination, and even a word was derived from the word "Agnes Controversy" (Chen Meiling's English name is Agnes), and Chen Meiling was also featured in TIMES magazine.
Chen Meiling family portrait
A Professor at Stanford University saw the magazine and wrote a letter to Chen Meiling inviting her to continue her studies in the United States. Her reasoning was: "If you don't turn this into a meaningful thing, those two years of arguments are meaningless, and if you want to help young mothers fight for a little more rights, you should come back and study with me and get a PhD." ”
However, when Chen Meiling finally got the admission letter from Stanford, she unexpectedly found herself pregnant with a second baby. She hesitated and decided to give up the opportunity to go to Stanford.
"Do you want to say to your child in the future that mom gave up going to a PhD for you?" Many girls are like this, using the sake of their children as an excuse to give up their dreams. On the phone, Professor Chen Meiling said.
Chen Meiling did not want to be like this: "I want to set an example for my children." ”
Meiling Chen received her Ph.D. from Stanford
In September 1989, Chen Meiling held up a big belly and led her two-year-old eldest son to report to Stanford. During her PhD, she was alone with two children.
Thinking back on that time, Chen Meiling said: "When I was studying for a doctorate, it was very hard, I took them to school in the morning, sent them to the nursery, then I went to class, ran to feed between classes, and then ran back, ran around, and then they went to school after they fell asleep. ”
Although there is no time to sleep every day, Chen Meiling is very excited and very happy, "I am really learning new things every day, and I feel very happy." Because I have a small child, I am not only a student, I am a mother, so I am different from the life of ordinary people, learn the habits of Life in the United States, make a lot of friends, which is also a very good opportunity for me. ”
Chen Meiling with three sons
Chen Meiling's 3 sons were all later admitted to her alma mater, Stanford University, which caused a sensation in society.
Many people asked her, send all three of her sons to Stanford, how did you do it? Chen Meiling frankly said that she is an "education mother" with a clear goal, and I have sworn in my heart that after having my own children, I must gamble on my life, give my children the best environment, and receive the best education.
Chen Meiling's Educational Principles
1
Don't compare children, don't compare yourself to other people
How to train children to be global earthlings? First of all, we must give ourselves a high self-affirmation, believe in ourselves, accept ourselves, know that we are a valuable person, do not need to compare with others, and if you want to compare, compare with yourself. Is today's self a little better than yesterday's? If I want to do a little better tomorrow, what should I do today? It's enough to compare yourself.
2
Reading is the most fun thing
I instilled in my children that reading was the most fun thing, for example, if it rained that day, we didn't do anything, and ran into the street in raincoats and dived. They went crazy, went to the park to find snails and frogs, and when they came back, I asked the children why it was raining. Then we went to open the textbook, it turned out that it would rain, they were very interested, and then I took a map to open, which country rained the most, which country did not rain enough, and slowly put the rain thing three-dimensional.
3
Education is about teaching our children how to dream
First of all, we have to open the window, let them imagine their dreams, encourage them to take the first step, teach them to be strong, and when they fall, they can get up and do it again. Success and failure are things that compare with others, and we should teach children to be a person they like to do. It is not necessary to be admitted to a prestigious school, and it is not necessary to live the same life as other people in the world who feel successful. I want young parents to believe in themselves that your child is your child, and I want you to love your child with confidence, to love him unconditionally, to have a self-defining and to be a happy person.
4
It is not to be a bully to have a happy life
Parents today must have a vision and courage. We are now teaching children twenty years later, after twenty years the machine is also coming, the robot is also coming, the AI is also coming, our children grow up, we must be a person who does not give the machine to replace, what kind of person should it be? Is it possible to have a happy life by going to school every day and being a bully? I think of course, "NO".
Social change is very fast, we have to teach children to adapt to changes, what comes is not afraid, are fun, life is a change, change is a happy thing. When we educate the next generation, we want them to have this ability to live. Today's exam does not score a hundred, which is a very small thing.
Chen Meiling's educational secret
Q: From 0-3, 3-6, 6-12 years old, what should each period of education focus on?
A: The most important thing is the first thousand days of life, that is, from the beginning of pregnancy, to almost two or three years old. At this age, it is the development of the child's brain and his most basic development of the relationship between people. When people are born, the cells in the brain are almost the same amount, there is no difference. Where are the differences? It is the protrusion between cells and cells, that is, how many neurons protrude. Highlight a particularly many people that you feel his mind is fast. How does prominence happen? New experiences happen and grow. So every day to give him a new experience, every day to do different things with him, every day to give him different stimulation, highlight will be more.
Q: Should my children be free-ranging before they start elementary school, or should they have a strict schedule?
A: Against such an arrangement, I hope that my little children have a different life every day, I hope they have a brainpower, I hope they are more prominent, the first thousand days of life are very important, 3 to 8 years old are growing up very quickly. When the age of 8 starts, the prominence of not being used will slowly be reduced, so by adolescence, all the things that children like and dislike are decided, and the things they do well and the things they don't do well will also be decided, so try to hope that they can keep, and when they have choices, there are a variety of choices, so until they are 8 years old, we try to play every day.
Q: How do I develop attention and reading habits?
A: Students who read books to children, who like to read and like words, I think they win at the starting line. So I am very careful to train my children to like to read, every child likes books are different, so to find the books they are most interested in, I often take them to the library, but also to the bookstore, let them choose, interest classes I do not approve. Exercise your child's brainpower, make his day different, make them feel that every day is fun, and look forward to tomorrow being a more fun day, so that they have a passion for life.
Q: How do I train concentration?
A: To exercise them have a switch, they have to pay attention to the time to open, next to singing, dancing or good, the work in front of them can be done in the shortest time, this is what I trained them since childhood. Another very good way is to cook, which is very important for the growth of children, cooking can exercise their concentration. When they are young, they can exercise their math, such as making cakes, bread, etc. is the best, and it is a delicious thing for them, especially like. Be careful when cooking, if you are not careful in cutting things, you will be hurt, and frying things will burn, so you can see that he is very nervous, very concentrated, after doing a good job, you can eat, you can share, they are very happy.
I believe that every parent is looking forward to Jackie Chan, looking forward to the female chengfeng, at the end of the article for all parents to share a good book, don't miss it!
Take the words of the world-famous physicist Yang Zhenning:
If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
At the same time, take this book to the child, usually the child also tutors mathematics, sometimes feel that going to cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also apply what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
For this set of classic mathematical science books compiled by Mr. Liu Xuanyu, parents also gave a high evaluation, parents said that "this series of books in general has a kind of follow-through temptation, from shallow to deep feeling, the language is particularly convincing"
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!