Speaking of Chen Meiling, perhaps many post-80s and post-90s moms and dads don't have much impression. At that time, she was a singer with the same name as Teresa Teng, and she also shared the stage with Zhang Guorong.
Her songs once became popular all over the land of Shenzhou.
Unexpectedly, this popular female singer chose to marry Jin Zili when her career was in full swing.
When he was pregnant with his second eldest, he took his eldest to Stanford University in the United States to study, and finally obtained a doctorate in education.
Even after the birth of the third child, Chen Meiling still took care of the identity of her mother, while working, learning and reading.
In the end, under her careful education, her three sons were admitted to Stanford University for further study, and she also realized her dream, and she gambled her life for her children and ushered in a beautiful result.
From a popular singer, to a doctor of education, to a "legendary mother", Chen Meiling's every transformation is perfect, worthy of being a winner in life.
Seeing that the child is so good, some people think that the excellence of the three sons is innate, and it is the inheritance of the good genes of her and her husband, which she believes is not the case.
Through the study of Stanford University, coupled with the practice of raising her three sons to become talents, she has formed a very enlightening educational experience, and these experiences can be said to be full of wisdom and pattern, and there are many inspirations and insights for us to cultivate children.
In her book, she believes that the education of children is not only the cultivation of learning ability, but the process of comprehensive personality formation in both physical and mental aspects. Good habits should be cultivated as soon as possible, especially at the primary school level.
How can reading be the most fun thing to do? Chen Meiling makes children fall in love with reading, and the methods used are full of childlike fun.
One day it was raining, and she and the children didn't do anything, running out into the street in raincoats and diving, looking for snails and frogs, and the children were playing crazy.
Mom didn't simply take the children to play in the water, and when she got home, she asked the children why it was raining?
So the mother and the children studied the textbook together to understand why it rained, and the children listened attentively. Next, Chen Meiling also opened the map and shared with the children which country had the most rain and which country had less rain, and continued to study this matter in depth.
Maybe some mothers will say that there is no such thing in our textbooks! In fact, as long as you pay attention, there are content that inspires children to read everywhere, and we can completely enjoy the fun of reading and researching with children.
Of course, the above is what can be done with children in the lower grades, and as she gets older, she will discuss with the children the meaning of learning, "why should we learn", "what benefits will learning bring"?
It is this kind of continuous thinking that makes children think, and at the beginning of the primary school stage, Chen Meiling's three children have understood that learning is interesting, it can increase insight, and it is also the only way to achieve greater achievements in the future.
As Chen Meiling has always told children, "Learning is a daily thing."
From the relaxed kindergarten stage to the primary school stage, which requires serious study and concentrates on learning for 45 minutes in a lesson, this is a very difficult challenge for children.
As the famous educator Ye Shengtao said, what education is, in a simple word, is to develop good habits.
The real starting point of children's learning is in primary school, and at the beginning of learning, parents focus on the cultivation of learning habits, learning methods and goals, but all this cannot be formed spontaneously by children.
Just like a green pine, the seedling is straightened, watered and fertilized every day, and when it takes root, it can grow straight and tall.
We need to wait patiently for the process of taking root, instead of comparing it with the grass, or even telling it, how can others not need to help, a little water to live?
Chen Meiling was in her child's primary school for six years, and she also accompanied her for six years.
She accompanies the child to write homework, prepares the next day's lessons with the child, reviews the topics that she will not do together, and more importantly, she is willing to wait for the child's growth, she is in a relaxed state to accompany the child, no Hedong lion roar, no chicken flying dog jump.
Therefore, many parents are also accompanying, but they have achieved the opposite result.
The key is that she understands the child, and at the same time understands that making mistakes is the beginning of progress, and she is not afraid of problems, she is afraid that the child will understand everything.
If the child can do everything, it is inevitable that they will be arrogant and unmotivated, which is the real reason why many children perform well in the first and second grades and decline in the third grade.
We will always stare at the child's deficiencies, with a "missing what makes up for which" spirit to cultivate children, do not know, in this way, in our eyes, only the child's deficiencies.
It is not that we can't, but we need to know how to adjust our vision, not only to see the shortcomings of the child, but also to see the strengths of the child.
What do the advantages mean for children in elementary school?
That is self-confidence and self-reliance!
Chen Meiling replied to many mothers' questions about how to cultivate their children to become school bullies, she said:
If you have to say that training, it is to cultivate children's habit of loving learning, so that they can consciously learn.
Why, because behind the habit of loving to learn, there is an interest, but also a kind of self-confidence.
Here, we need to know what is the "longboard theory".
We all know the "barrel effect", how much water a barrel holds, is determined by the shortest board, and this theory tells us that we must make up for the shortcomings.
Chen Meiling believes that children should be encouraged to delve into the subjects they are good at, which will make children confident in learning, and then drive other subjects under the influence of learning transfer.
She found that the eldest son liked mathematics very much, so she specially asked the tutor to train, and the primary school did the junior high school problems, and the result was that the eldest son was particularly good at mathematics, and the results of other subjects were also significantly improved.
The second son liked English, and Chen Meiling let him write small stories in English, giving full play to the advantages of English and driving other subject results.
Therefore, allowing children to have "a skill" and "a subject", will definitely bring great self-confidence to children, thus bringing a good impact on the learning of other subjects.
This is the "longboard theory". Do moms change the direction of their efforts a little bit?
The six years of primary school can be called the "golden six years" of children's growth.
On the one hand, parents are still the authority and teachers in the eyes of children, and our influence must be well exerted to help children develop good habits, good personality and good character.
On the other hand, children are in the integration period of comprehensive growth, if 3-6 years old is the formation of initial habits, then the six years of primary school is a period of comprehensive development of habits, abilities, emotional intelligence, emotions and states, and everything formed in this period will have a profound impact on future life. We, can't miss it!
But what should be done?
When Chen Meiling summed up her parenting and education experience, she said:
"I'm definitely not a tiger mother, I just lived to be the best version of myself."
Seeing this, I believe that many parents have feelings, but also have doubts: we are in a different environment, we can not be like Chen Meiling, for the sake of children to read a doctorate in education, then, her experience in cultivating bully children, can there be practical significance?
This is a good question, we must realize that the child's nature and growth law, the world has a basic consistent law, then, in the face of how to guide and cultivate children, Chen Meiling's educational experience is worth referencing and reference.
At the same time, our family education cannot indeed pay like Chen Meiling, giving up her career for her children and reading a doctorate in education for her children, but we can look at the problem from another perspective.
First of all, at the primary school level, the influence of teachers on children is huge, and many parents hope to get advice from teachers.
Secondly, the 6 years of primary school need to go through many stages, from a large point of view, in the lower grade stage of the first and second grades, and the cultivation focus of the third and fourth grades, and then to the key to the strength of the fifth and sixth grades, there needs to be a detailed guidance.
And these, we can achieve through this book "Accompanying Children Through Six Years of Primary School".
The author, Yu Min, is a senior teacher with more than 20 years of front-line teaching experience. She said:
"The 6 years of primary school is a critical period for children's growth, and these 6 years determine the child's learning career for more than 10 years in the future."
So, if you want to know what we parents should do in the sixth year of primary school, how to guide their children step by step to develop good habits and fall in love with learning, you may wish to understand through this book.
In this way, when facing children, we will not be busy, do not know how to educate children, but also can concentrate limited energy, grasp the key factors affecting children's success to exert force.
"Accompanying Children Through Six Years of Elementary School" will tell us that in each grade, we should focus on what we should do and where to start.
The first grade smoothly transitions between young and primary schools, and the second grade cultivates and cultivates interest in learning;
The third grade successfully passed the "landslide" stage, and the fourth grade improved the difficulty of learning;
The fifth grade takes into account the child's growth and learning, and the sixth grade calmly faces the beginning of the primary school.
Through 10 major themes, from the six years of primary school to holiday planning, from learning direction to psychological growth, from character cultivation to character and morality, the book has been interpreted in detail.
The book lists a large number of cases to give parents a clear understanding of what they and their children should do. How? Let the six years of primary school no longer be confused.
The original price of this book is 35 yuan, the price of the school activity is only 29.9 yuan, it is recommended that parents of primary school students read it well, according to the guidance given by this book, accompany their children to lay a solid foundation for future growth.
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I wish you all, like Chen Meiling, to become the best of yourself first, and then let the children become the best of themselves.
Let learning be one of your children's favorite things to do!