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Chinese education method has always been stick education, and "filial piety under the stick" is also an old saying. Although society is now developing, some parents believe that the educational methods of the older generation are no longer practical, and now everyone advocates being friends with their children. However, parents have ignored the point that the problem of principle must not be compromised, and it is still necessary to fight when it is time to fight, otherwise the child will take many detours when he grows up.
Here is not to advocate parents to beat children, but when children make some mistakes, the punishment should still be punished, like the kind of domestic violence of children is not right.
Remember the April 17 incident of a seventeen-year-old boy jumping off a bridge in Shanghai, taking extreme measures simply because of his mother's criticism. Perhaps parents think that this is an individual case, but in fact, the current "gentle education" makes too many children have weak psychological endurance, and parents can't help but worry about their children's future path after entering society.
Children who are often beaten, in addition to their ability to behave in the world will be slightly better than children who have never been beaten, the following two points are also much stronger, and they may be more successful when they grow up.
Parents should take a look at the gaps, and it is still too late to improve their educational methods.
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Children who are often beaten have a big grin and a good attitude
Hao Hao was the only child in the family, and from a young age, six adults in the family spoiled a child, just like a little emperor. On weekdays, Hao Hao made some mistakes, when his parents wanted to criticize and educate him, he would hide behind his grandparents, Hao Hao was under the protection of the old man, and he had never been beaten since he was a child.
It is precisely because of the excessive spoiling of the family, Hao Hao's personality is like a girl, delicate and sensitive, when he is in school, he will cry and cry when he clashes with his classmates, and over time, the classmates especially hate Hao Hao, thinking that Hao Hao has no blood, and even married Hao Hao with the nickname "Hao Niangzi".
The weak Hao Hao also has many unsatisfactory things in his work when he grows up, and he will be suspicious every day because of a look and a word from others, afraid that he will provoke others, and even because colleagues will not accommodate him like his parents, he will be disgusted.
The mentality of children who are often beaten will be much better, at least not as delicate and sensitive as Haohao.
In addition, in the child's education, when encountering the child's principle problem, parents must educate well, and appropriate stick education is still conducive to the development of children.
2. Children who are often beaten are strong and strong in their hearts
Xiaowen is a quiet-looking girl, and her job often has to be handed over to some tricky customers. In this position, too many people resigned back and forth in the company, and the reason for leaving was that the customers were too annoyed, and even some were scolded by customers and left.
Xiaowen recently followed up a particularly tricky customer, this day, the customer and Xiaowen chatted well in the conference room, suddenly made a fuss, and even splashed Xiaowen's face with the water he had drunk, and we all thought in our hearts that It seemed that Xiaowen would be the second to cry and resign.
Who thought that the small text that looked weak and weak was not crying like other girls, but after wiping the water off the face, there was no fluctuation in mood, and continued to deal with work affairs, on the same day, the water splashing customer successfully signed a large order.
Afterwards, we used to comfort Xiaowen, afraid that she was wronged, who thought that she said it was okay, she said that she was a child who was "beaten from small to large", this little thing did not matter.
Later, I learned that Xiao Wen grew up in the military academy, the parents' requirements have always been very high, and there will be corresponding punishments where there are mistakes, and under the strict education of her parents, Xiao Wen has become a very strong girl.
If what happened to Xiao Wen happened to a little baby who had been pampered since childhood, I think that the light would resign, and the heavy would even dare not come out to work.
Children who are often beaten, their psychological quality has always been very good, they are strong in their hearts, have strong psychological endurance, and are not afraid of any difficulties and obstacles.
Parents, what do you want your children to look like when they grow up?
Perhaps some parents will ask whether if their children are "beaten" when they are young, whether they will have inferiority when they grow up. The answer is no. All of the beatings we are discussing here are based on the premise that the child makes mistakes, rather than indiscriminately "educating the child on force."
How the development of children after they grow up is closely related to the education of parents, here is not to let parents beat children, but it is recommended that parents can hit children in moderation when children make mistakes, so that children grow up, in terms of frustration ability, pressure resistance, indomitable will be much stronger, so that the child is not out of the air?
(Transferred from: Chengdu Education Pass)
Source: New Parents Online