01
There is a way that "the heavens do not cross people, but only cross themselves." ”
With good luck, we can still be taken care of by God. And when we are unlucky, let alone God taking care of us, maybe even the people around us will abandon us.
In this cruel human world, in fact, people live, just like stepping on a tightrope. If you walk steadily, you will not fall, and you can still be stable until you are old. If you don't walk smoothly, you can only fall into the abyss and return to the pre-liberation period overnight.
Take the old age, when people are old, can they really be respected by their children and grandchildren? Can you definitely enjoy the joy of heaven and peace of mind for a lifetime? Not necessarily.
Nothing in this world is absolute. There are countless cases of the elderly dying alone, or the elderly being abandoned. Most of these people have nothing to rely on and no confidence, and in the end they can only suffer in their old age and live a humble life.
There is a saying that is difficult to hear, but it is very realistic, human society is essentially an upgraded version of the jungle society, in which everyone lives in the environment of "the weak eat the strong" and "interests first".
You and I will eventually understand that in the absence of these 3 things in old age, even God will fall into the well.
02
In his old age, he was too poor and lacked money, and even the heavens would fall into the well.
There is a saying in the "Augmented Sage Text": "Tie a high-headed horse in front of the door, and you are not a kiss or a kiss." A begging stick is placed in front of the door, and relatives and friends do not come to the door. ”
When we are rich and powerful, not to mention our families and relatives, even if outsiders see us, they will deliberately flatter and be polite. Others do not look at us as human beings, but at the money in our hands.
When there is no money and no power, let alone outsiders and passers-by, even if the children and wives see us, they will feel disgusted. It is not a sin for people to be old. And when you are old, you don't have any money in your pocket, and that's the original sin.
After half a lifetime, everyone can feel that the person himself is not valuable, and only the assets that this person has can make his personal more valuable.
I think of some elderly people in rural areas, who have neither resources nor assets, nor can they help their children, so their relatives will leave them. In the end, they become widows and widows.
Whenever I see such a thing, I am particularly sad, is it true that this world only looks at money and does not look at feelings?
Later, when the humility passed and was looked down upon, it suddenly dawned on me that what feelings, what family affection, and what high-quality life all need the "blessing" of money. The former is a pavilion, and money is the foundation of all things. Very realistic.
03
In his later years, he was too persistent and lacked contentment, and even the heavens would fall into the well.
Qiu Zhiji said that if there is no loss of food and clothing, it is a good rest, and there is an ephemeral in life.
If a person lives a lifetime, eats well, dresses warmly, and has a little money in his hands, then life will be complete, so why cling to so much? Of course, people are overly attached, which has caused countless disasters.
When people reach old age, why do people have physical problems, their mentality has become bad, family conflicts are increasing, and their lives are becoming more and more unhappy? I think this is all closely related to people's "attachment" heart.
First of all, if he is preoccupied with trivial issues and does not know how to open one eye and close one eye, then his mentality will not be worse and worse, and his physical condition will not be a problem?
Secondly, paranoia in the end not only stimulates the contradictions of the family, but also magnifies the shortcomings of the family, so how can the family be harmonious and stable?
Finally, seeing that other people's assets are more than their own, and other people's children's careers are successful, they can't think of it themselves, and they are obsessed with comparison. In this way, how can we be "always happy" in our later years?
The key to living happily is contentment. Many things, I am fortunate to have, but I can't die. It should be yours and will always be yours. And what doesn't belong to you, even if you're full of gray hair, what's the point?
Therefore, in the old age, people should get rid of their obsessive hearts and cultivate their mentality well. I think this is the source of blessings.
04
In his later years, he was too contrived and lacked understanding, and even the heavens would fall into the well.
There is a saying: "The old man has no morality and implicates a family." ”
This remark is very harsh, and there is also a bit of a great disrespect in it. However, it also shows a truth, the elderly without virtue will eventually affect the stability of a family.
Why are some old people abandoned by their children and disliked by those around them?
No money, that's a material factor. And personal morality is not good, always like to rely on the old and sell the old, do not know how to understand the difficulties of the people around them, which is the main reason for the breakdown of family relations.
Children have worked hard, but parents have not been considerate, but feel that their children have not paid enough and still oppress their children. As a result, it is only the child who "betrays" his parents.
The family is all amicable and helps each other, who knows that the elders like to be "churning sticks", making the family chaotic. Just think, who likes to live with such a "churning stick"?
When people are old and their family status is high, it does not mean that they must rely on the old and sell the old. It's one thing to have money, it's another thing to have character. You know, only the virtuous and rich old man can be regarded as a happy person.
When dealing with children or families, do not blindly self, but be considerate of the difficulties of children. You respect me, I can respect you. Otherwise, contradictions abound, and in the later years there are chicken feathers.
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