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For every woman, the in-laws are a battlefield without smoke.
Even if you know eighteen martial arts, you may still not be able to sort out the family's trivialities.
The heroine in the next case experienced the heartache of the in-laws after marriage.
When Wang Jiajia got married, there was no new house, and the two of them had been huddled in the old house of ninety square meters with their mother-in-law and sister.
Although the conditions of the in-laws' family were not very good, Wang Jiajia was not dissatisfied in her heart.
She grew up as a single parent, and her father went to work when she was six years old and never returned.
Because her mother did not have a stable income, she entered the society before high school.
Before she met her husband Zhou Mingjun, she had been very careful and frugal.
Because the education is not high, the family conditions are not good, sometimes the work is bullied and dare not say a word, for fear of losing the job.
Over time, she developed the advantages of being diligent and considerate, but she also had the disadvantage of inferiority and love.
It was not until she was almost thirty years old that she was introduced to Zhou Mingjun.
In fact, she also wants to enjoy youth and love like other girls at the same age as flowers.
It's just that society is that reality, and there are very few boys who don't mind her family and poverty.
Fortunately, the conditions of Zhou Mingjun's family were not very good, not only did he have a sister who was not married, but his only mother did not have a pension, and his health was not very good.
Wang Jiajia is a kind and considerate girl, she does not dislike the conditions of Zhou Mingjun's family, and is very willing to try to associate with him.
The two get along plainly, and dates are rarely spent. Most of them eat some street stalls and visit the park.
When talking about marriage, the parents on both sides officially met.
Because the conditions on both sides are average, neither is asking for much. Zhou Mingjun has an old house at home, and he can just pay for a wedding banquet.
Wang Jiajia's mother could not come up with any money, and the dowry was only more than 40,000 yuan she had saved.
The day before the wedding, Wang Jiajia's mother secretly gave her a passbook with more than 10,000 in it.
My mother has always complained that she is useless, and said that it is not easy for women in this life, and they should not be easily divorced after marriage. We must honor our mother-in-law and do not be slow to be sloppy with our eldest sister.
With the words given to her by her mother, Wang Jiajia married Zhou Mingjun with a nervous feeling.
Although the marriage room is very old, the fiery red happy word still gives Wang Jiajia the confidence to love life.
Remembering her mother's words, she got up early the day after she married into her in-laws' house to cook and clean up the housework.
When it was almost nine o'clock, the husband and mother-in-law slowly came out of the room.
Jiajia just wanted to call her sister out to eat, but she saw her mother-in-law waving her hand at her vigorously, and whispered that she could not disturb her sleep.
In the afternoon, the eldest sister got up, but neither brushed her teeth nor washed her face, and sat at the dinner table shouting hunger.
When the mother-in-law heard this, she shouted, "Jiajia, make fried rice for your sister, she can't cook." ”
This little thing is naturally out of the question, Jiajia made a meal in three strokes and five divided by six, and also intimately cut some cantaloupe and put it aside.
The eldest sister did not lift her head, picked up the chopsticks and swallowed it.
Seeing this scene, Jiajia felt a little uncomfortable in her heart, and she felt that the eldest sister had to say thank you.
But just married, it was impossible to quarrel over this little thing, so she could only bow her head and leave.
Since then, the family's three meals a day are basically made by Wang Jiajia, and only occasionally when she works overtime will her mother-in-law cook.
Once, when Wang Jiajia had just arrived home after working overtime, she heard her mother-in-law call her to go to the vegetable market to buy a pineapple and come back to eat.
But it takes more than twenty minutes to walk to the vegetable market, and Jiajia really doesn't want to move because of her back pain.
So she explained the situation to her mother-in-law in a good voice, and said that she would bring pineapple back next time.
But the mother-in-law looked at her while bumping the melon seeds, and her eyes looked at her without speaking.
After knowing that her mother-in-law was not happy, Wang Jiajia ordered two fruit takeaways on her mobile phone, which cost her more than fifty.
Usually she is reluctant to buy snacks, and these fifty pieces can make her very sad.
In fact, there are many grievances in such a life, but Wang Jiajia can only digest it by herself.
Because she couldn't talk to her mother, for fear that she would be frightened. I also don't want to complain to my husband, because Zhou Mingjun doesn't care about family affairs at all.
This weak husband would only go to his mother and sister for any problems, and he would only starve to death at work.
Although she did not have any big extravagant expectations, she also wanted to get a little family warmth and the love of her husband.
But after a few years, the in-laws have long been accustomed to letting her cook and clean, as if she were an emotionless nanny.
The most disturbing thing is the strange big sister, because she is too lazy and bad-tempered, resulting in thirty-five years still staying at home.
So much so that Wang Jiajia did not even dare to ask for a child, because she was born without even a place to put an extra bed.
Although all this is very bitter, Wang Jiajia is still insisting, hoping to continue the marriage.
Until her mother-in-law had a serious illness, she completely saw through her stupidity and innocence.
The mother-in-law suddenly had appendix pain one day and was sent to the hospital for a minor operation.
Because of the wound, it needs to be taken care of closely, but at this time, the husband and the eldest sister are not compatible as children.
Obviously, this means letting Wang Jiajia take care of the old lady in the hospital.
Although Jiajia was a little embarrassed in her heart, she still kept her daughter-in-law's duty and took a leave of absence to go to the hospital with toiletries.
Because her mother-in-law is not very active, she can only serve with and urine. After two consecutive days, Wang Jiajia was also tired.
During the day, she has to take care of her mother-in-law to eat and massage, and at night, the bed is too small and too narrow to make people sleep well.
So on the third day, she really couldn't hold on, so she asked the nurse to take care of her mother-in-law and went home.
When I opened the door, I saw that the tables were all takeaway boxes, the husband reading the newspaper on the sofa, and the eldest sister playing games in the bedroom.
She couldn't bear to complain: "Mom, who of you went to the hospital to take care of, I was tired and couldn't do it, and how you couldn't answer the phone." ”
The eldest sister said that she did not hear, and when she saw Wang Jiajia said that she was hungry, she thought about going to the kitchen to fill a bowl of porridge and come out for her.
As a result, Before Wang Jiajia could put it in her mouth, she smelled a little sloppy.
If you look closely, isn't this the same pot of porridge she cooked at home the other day?
Watching the sister-in-law and her husband eat and drink at home, but let her drink porridge.
At this point, she was angry and hungry, and in a rage, she went directly back to her mother's house and decided not to make a big bag again.
After returning home, her mother kept persuading Wang Jiajia, and said that the woman was not angry.
Wang Jiajia said weakly: "Mom, I took care of my mother-in-law in the hospital for two days and three nights, and when I came home, my sister brought a bowl of porridge, which was steamy." So I moved back to my mother's house, and I couldn't cover the family. ”
Although the mother did not say a word, the tone still advised the daughter not to be too real.
At this time, Wang Jiajia not only hated her own fate, but also hated why her mother gave birth to her...
Can Wang Jiajia in the case stick to herself and defend her marital sovereignty?
In fact, this tells us that women should not only love themselves after marriage, but also keep the following two requirements in mind.
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One: Any feeling needs a positive response.
All relationships and feelings go in both directions.
Because a slap doesn't make a sound, the pain of marriage is because they don't care so much about each other.
Knowing that there is no relationship between response and feedback is very difficult to maintain.
The heroine in the case is virtuous and considerate, but she can never return to the respect and understanding of her in-laws.
Over time, people with the best personality will be forced to chill their hearts, and finally they can only express anger and grievances with a walk.
In fact, paying is not a unilateral act, but requires a timely and positive response.
Don't wait until the people who care about you have saved enough disappointment to leave, and you know that you are blessed in the blessing.
Sometimes luck will come unconsciously, and it will also slip away when you are unconscious.
I hope that everyone can be loved and will love people who deserve your love.
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Second: pay, you must know how to "watch people cook the dish".
In an increasingly complex society, our priority is to learn to love ourselves.
If you don't love yourself, then others will take the opportunity to hit you and take advantage of you.
If you don't love yourself, your environment will start to work against you, and your aura will become weaker and weaker.
Therefore, cherish your own efforts, but also cherish your own love.
Don't easily please others, and don't waste time on some people who don't deserve it.
Some people are born hateful and don't deserve the slightest bit of giving and warmth.
Don't be like the heroine in the case, who has been in the marriage for several years, and still won't watch people get off the plate.
The indecisiveness in those bones is the root cause of her tragic fate.
I hope that every child can grow up in a healthy and loving environment, so that they can accumulate enough strength to protect their future selves.
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A woman's life is inseparable from her husband and in-laws.
So this requires every girl to start with herself.
Not only to be powerful, but also to shape a healthy and strong psychology.
Know that only if you become more and more confident, your life can go to the sunshine.
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