There is a word that is very popular now, that is, a sense of proportion and a sense of boundaries. With a sense of proportion and boundaries, people will get along with each other very easily.
The writer Bondarev once said: The root of all human suffering stems from the lack of a sense of boundary.
Between people, the most important thing that cannot be lacked is a sense of proportion and a sense of boundaries. Once these are missing, some people will kick their noses in the face, get inching forward, and make all kinds of excessively bizarre demands.
01, "Daughter-in-law, your parents have lived in my son's house for 3 months, it is time to move away"
Luo Min, who had just been married for a year, did not expect that the mother-in-law who had originally come to rub and rub and rub the pension was actually anti-guest, and wanted to drive her parents away, saying, "Daughter-in-law, your parents have lived in my son's house for 3 months, and it is time to move away." ”
This request from her mother-in-law left Luo Min speechless. It is nothing more than that the mother-in-law has selfish intentions, thinking that her parents are in the way of the place, and wants to make room for her and her young son.
When Luo Min and her husband talked about marriage, Luo Min's parents asked her in-laws to buy a wedding house and give a dowry of 80,000 yuan. The mother-in-law cried and cried poorly, and successfully made Luo Min's parents soften their hearts, gave up the marriage room, and only used 50,000 dowry to marry Luo Min, the only daughter.
The in-laws had no money to buy a marriage house, and Luo Min's parents were distressed and broke, and without hesitation, they took out their savings to buy a dowry house for their daughter, which was a marriage room for two people. With this dowry room, Luo Min and her husband's life after marriage is like a fish.
Just has been cold-eyed, in-laws who have done nothing in their son's marriage, after seeing That Luo Min is pregnant, their relatives rushed to take care of it, and she was also red-eyed, thinking that these should have been enjoyed by themselves.
Therefore, without waiting for the consent of the son and daughter-in-law, the in-laws and mother-in-law came uninvited. People have arrived at the door, no matter how reluctant Luo Min is, it is not good to brush the face of her husband on the spot, drive people away, and can only accept her in-laws.
02, "The house was bought by them, you should move away"
In fact, when Luo Min was just pregnant and the fetus was unstable, she consulted with her husband and asked her mother-in-law to take care of it, and then said that the fetus was stable. But the mother-in-law said that she had never served anyone, had no experience, flatly refused, turned around and threw herself on the little uncle's child.
The mother-in-law did not want to come, and Luo Min naturally could not force it, but could only ask her parents to take care of it. After three months of pregnancy, the fetus stabilized, but the mother-in-law was red in the eyes and jealous, and rushed to take care of the daughter-in-law.
But the mother-in-law came, but she picked and chose. It was either that the family house was small and crowded, or that the meals cooked by Luo Min's parents were not in line with her appetite. In short, where there is a mother-in-law, the family has always been very noisy and not peaceful.
Because he asked his mother-in-law and thought of asking her mother-in-law to take care of Yuezi, Luo Min has never stood up to refute her mother-in-law. But it was Luo Min's compromise and concession that made the mother-in-law more inching forward.
After Luo Min's parents lived for three months, the mother-in-law unceremoniously chased people away, "Daughter-in-law, your parents have lived in my son's house for 3 months, it is time to move away." In order to take care of you and the children, I have to stay in town. But I also have to take care of the children of the younger son, so I plan to let your parents move away and take the young son and the child, so that I can take care of the children of both families at the same time, and the youngest son and his wife can also find jobs in the city. ”
Luo Min thought that her mother-in-law was joking, after all, who owned this house, and her mother-in-law's heart was like a mirror. However, she was stunned to pretend to be stupid, treating this dowry room as her son's premarital property, and also wanted to be anti-guest-oriented, became a hostess, and arranged for the younger son's family to live.
03, foolish filial piety, do not stay nostalgic
Although her mother-in-law blew the cowhide into the sky, Luo Min did not want to indulge her and ruthlessly poked her: the house was bought by them, and you should move away. My dowry room is decided by me, even your son eats soft rice, what qualifications do you have to take your young son's family? ”
Luo Min refused in person, making her mother-in-law angry. What made her even more angry was that Luo Min did not give her the slightest affection, and even the words of the eldest son were not good.
Seeing the argument, the mother-in-law simply lay on the ground and spilled up, accusing Luo Min of filial piety and accusing Luo Min of provoking dissension between the two brothers. Seeing Sapo's crying mother-in-law, Luo Min threw her mother-in-law's luggage out without saying a word.
As for her husband, who still wanted to intercede for her mother-in-law, she did not hesitate, and by the way, she also helped him pack his luggage and threw him out the door together. She can accept her mother-in-law to retire for the sake of her husband's face. But she could not tolerate it, and the mother-in-law, who did not pay a penny, still wanted to oppose the guests, and the dove occupied the magpie's nest to drive away her parents.
She also thought very clearly that without her parents, she would not have everything she had today. If the husband blindly indulges his mother, then the marriage should not be stopped. She didn't have so much energy to deal with these mother-in-law relationships, and she didn't have the financial resources to help her mother-in-law's eyes to the younger son's family without boundaries.
Today's Topic:
What should you do in the face of your mother-in-law asking the dove to occupy the magpie's nest to drive away your parents?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!