He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
There is a passage on the Internet that describes the feelings of couples after marriage:
"Every day, there are countless thoughts of strangling each other, quarreling and rushing out of the door, going downstairs to the wet market, and buying back the other party's favorite food." 」
A lot of love, more or less.
At the beginning of the romance, do not eat human fireworks, every day is the spring white snow;
As we spend more time together, romance combines with a dull life and becomes pyrotechnic.
Eat together, live together, and enjoy the dullness of day after day together.
Some people say: What does the ideal love look like?
Probably: full of pyrotechnics, you can cook together, and you can take care of the home.
All love will end up flat.
Full of fireworks in the plain, living life more delicately, is the best look of love.
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The fireworks of love are eating many meals together
In the Six Notes of The Floating Life, there is such a passage:
"Jun painted me embroidery, thinking that it was necessary for poetry and wine; cloth and vegetables, cola for life, no need to make a long trip plan."
This is the fireworks of life.
Some people like vigorous love and are eager to declare their love for each other to all people; but most people's love is a love full of fireworks.
Being able to eat many meals together and run this small family together is the state of love.
One person is cooking, one person is cleaning up, all into the family.
Cook together and enjoy this moment of peace.
Such a life, plain and delicate, in the long stream of thin water, is each other's love.
There are many beautiful moments in love.
Like what:
You cook in the kitchen, and he looks at you in the kitchen doorway with a serious look.
In the "Book of Two Places" written to his lover, Lu Xun wrote about the love full of fireworks.
"The house I moved today is quite big upstairs."
"My way to the post office, about eighty steps, and then eighty steps, is there."
In the relationship, it is not necessary to talk sweetly to each other every day, just need to share with each other the ordinary little things in life.
How to manage love?
It is inseparable from sharing, and it is inseparable from joint efforts.
If two people are together and can't sit together and have a good meal every day, what is the meaning of such love?
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The fireworks of love are to create romance in ordinary days
Some people say that love must shine in the eyes of all people.
Therefore, in order to prove their love for each other, they show love and happiness every day, and they are eager to let everyone know that the feelings of the two people are very good, sweet and loving.
But this kind of love, in the end, can easily become "formal love", to perform for the sake of form, to pretend.
True love is the one who shines in each other's eyes and is the most unique person.
No matter the vicissitudes of the sea, the world changes, whether the face is covered with wrinkles, or the belly, it does not affect the appearance of shining in each other's eyes.
This is true love, pure love.
There are several stages of love:
Mutual understanding, hot love period, contradiction period, dull period.
The key to whether the feelings of two people can go on lies in the period of contradiction; and whether the feelings can develop in a good direction depends on whether they can survive the period of calm.
Love will enter a period of flatness, and then exist in another form, such as: family affection and friendship.
Some loves, though they do not have the passion of their youth, are incomparably strong affection.
Some love, although less fresh, is a state of mentorship and friendship.
The pyrotechnics of love lie in reality.
In ordinary life, you can also create real romance; only real love can last a long time.
I have a couple of friends by my side.
These two people just divorced some time ago, married for 10 years, and the marriage was chicken feathers.
The reason for the divorce is not a third party, but simply because "I can't get by".
There is no way to live with each other anymore.
There is no common topic, and the habits of life are very different.
Men are more pragmatic, talk and do things a little harshly, do not save face for their wives, and rarely speak sweetly.
Women like romance and like to give a little more embellishment to a dull life.
Usually, in addition to work, either learn to bake, or grow flowers and grass at home; for this reason, a greenhouse has been specially built in the countryside not far away, which is specially used to grow flowers and grass.
However, these hobbies and the embellishments of life are regarded by men as "not doing the right thing".
In the end, the contradiction cannot be resolved, and the only choice is divorce.
No matter how vigorous love is, there is a day when the passion disappears; only in ordinary life, still managing love can be long-lasting.
We must love specific people and feel delicate love with each other in ordinary life.
You can't live in fantasy every day.
Today's Topic:
What do you think pyrotechnic love looks like?
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