Love is not only about how much the other person loves themselves, but also about the process of understanding each other, especially in examining the issue of character, which involves the essence of a person
If there is a problem with a person's behavior from the inside, then we can never wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep, and stopping the loss in time may be the best choice.
At the same time, love is an important part of life, love encounters ups and downs or failures are also the common feelings of people, even so, we should also treat it with a normal heart, we are the most precious wealth, we can not do some extreme things because of the hurt of love, because we have no right to punish ourselves for the faults of others, which is not worth it.
On a river beach, two kind young men were resuscitating a young woman for cardiopulmonary resuscitation, the two cooperated with each other, one was pressing, the other was doing artificial respiration, after a series of operations, the woman spat out a mouthful of acid water and woke up, and the onlookers on the side cheered happily in unison.
Although the woman has signs of awakening, it can be seen from her expression that she is still very uncomfortable, and after a while, several family members who seem to be women come up, and as soon as they come up, they hug the woman and cry bitterly: "Why are you so stupid."
In the process of waiting for the ambulance to come, everyone has to comfort their families, and from the other party's mouth, they probably learned the full picture of the matter, it turned out that the woman was hurt by love, and did extreme things for a while.
The woman is the eldest daughter of the family, there is a sister and brother below, one of the parents is working in the old family, one is a migrant worker, the woman went out to the south and north to earn money to subsidize the family very early, until she met her boyfriend during a factory job.
Boyfriend is also a foreign rural area, the family parents grew up in the field to work, grandparents pulled it up, due to the lack of education and discipline from childhood, coupled with the doting of grandparents, the boyfriend was dangling in society when he went to school, and then directly dropped out of school to break into society, and also talked about several girlfriends.
Until after meeting this woman in the factory, seeing her simple and beautiful, through a pursuit, the woman agreed to associate with it, not long after the two lived together, the boyfriend resigned from the factory, all day at home is to play games or online chat, etc., and then developed to online gambling, not only lost his own money, but also tried to trick his parents into playing money to him.
Seeing that her boyfriend was so depraved, the woman proposed to break up many times, but every time she was saved by her boyfriend with tears, she swore again and again that she would change her past wrongdoing, quit the vice of gambling, and find a job to settle down, but the old habits were difficult to change again and again, and the two quarreled many times for this.
This time, the woman's brother kissed a girlfriend, the other party asked to buy a house in the county, parents hope that the woman, as the eldest daughter in the family, can contribute to the marriage of the younger brother, for the brother to buy a house in the county to make a down payment, after all, the parents have worked hard all their lives and have not made any money, the only savings are also taken out to prepare to buy a house for their sons, and the insufficient part hopes that the woman can make up.
Out of love for her brother and her parents' understanding, the woman told her family that she only had less than 150,000 savings on her body, and she could take it out to buy a house for her brother, and as long as she waited for the sales office to ask for money, she would send the money home.
Just waiting to pay his brother, the boyfriend told his girlfriend that his father suddenly had a serious illness and urgently needed to pay 100,000 hospitalization fees, he had not made any money in these years of wandering outside, hoping that his girlfriend could help him, after all, he could not see his father die and not save.
The boyfriend further said that his mother told him that the family's fixed deposits are due in less than 2 months, and then you can take out 100,000 yuan, and now you will lose a lot of interest, and he promised his girlfriend that his parents' fixed deposits will be withdrawn and repaid immediately after they expire, and he will never renege on his word.
Under the boyfriend's soft and hard bubble, the woman considered that after all, it was a matter of life, and finally took out 100,000 loans to her boyfriend, and told him that this was the money for her brother to buy a house, and it must be returned in time, otherwise once the house was opened and the house could not be paid, then she would not face her family.
The boyfriend promised to speak with his mouth that it would definitely count, but during this period, he could not hear the boyfriend mention the father's treatment process, and the woman took the initiative to ask the boyfriend's father about the progress of treatment, and the other party only said that the situation was good and was still in further treatment.
Since the boyfriend refuses to talk about this matter, the woman is not convenient to ask more questions, but the money is lent out for a month and a half, the parents call to say that the opening has chosen the house, the family is ready to make a down payment, meaning that the woman will fulfill the promise to help her brother, the woman vowed to wait for her half a month, she will definitely take out 150,000 to her brother.
After the 2-month deadline, the boyfriend did not mention the repayment of the money like an innocent person, and the woman could not bear to pursue the boyfriend to repay the money, and the two broke out the most fierce quarrel since the love, so that after the quarrel, the boyfriend directly left the rental house and disappeared.
The woman realized that the situation was not right, many twists and turns to find the contact information of the boyfriend's parents, the result of verification found that the other parents were working in the field, and there was no case of the father being seriously ill and hospitalized, and then called the boyfriend again, the boyfriend only swallowed and told the woman that the money was used for gambling and the result was lost, and now it was impossible to repay for a while, and then hung up the phone and never answered again.
On the one hand, her parents urged the woman to take money to renew the down payment for her brother, and on the other hand, her own hard-earned money was squandered by her boyfriend, and under the emotional collapse, the woman felt that she could not stand her family for a while and could not go to the extreme.
Only after learning about this matter, the boyfriend's parents are also kind, taking the initiative to express their willingness to pay back the 100,000 for the son who is not angry, and then after visiting the woman in the hospital, I hope that she is safe, instead of the son who is not angry, he apologizes to him, but unfortunately, her boyfriend is still no news, and seems to have no idea what kind of tragic price his girlfriend and parents have paid for him.
The woman's extreme behavior staged a human tragedy, for an unreliable boyfriend, almost hastily ended his life, obviously very unworthy, with the other party's fault to punish themselves, is not responsible for their own responsibility, but also hurt their own family.
The two broke up many times, I believe that the woman is not unaware of the boyfriend's personality, good food and lazy to do plus addicted to gambling, do not say that this is a love, even if it is a disaster for marriage, once people are contaminated with vices is the biggest potential threat to feelings, must be considered holistically.
The woman's boyfriend is difficult to change again and again, constantly using the bitter love drama to win the woman's change of heart, but the boyfriend has reneged on his word again and again, in the long run, I believe that the promise and credit of this love have long been bankrupt in the woman's mind, the most important thing in love is to see a person's character, if you give a person countless opportunities, then it is undoubtedly a waste of your youth to soften your heart.
The boyfriend uses the father as a weight to win sympathy, so as to cheat money from the woman's side for gambling, it is not surprising that such a thing happens, after all, the man who has corrupted his credit again and again has nothing to do, not that the boyfriend is too cunning, but the woman is too simple and kind.
We do not want to see such a tragedy happen, but from the experience of women, we should learn some lessons and summaries from it, and treat love, such as domestic violence, gambling and betrayal, there are only zero times and countless times, and each forgiveness is to leave a cushion for hurting ourselves.
From the cost of love success, repeated forgiveness undoubtedly increases the uncertainty, increases the cost of love success, and abandons a tree to examine a forest, even if it starts from scratch, the cost of love success is lower than the cost of "single love and a flower", and it is even possible to find another half that makes you more excited.
We are all born for the first time, there is no obligation to tolerate each other's various things over and over again, simple and kind in the face of repeated teachings seem to be just cowardly and ridiculous, give up unrealistic fantasies, we have the right to embrace new feelings, the other party is worth paying We will go all out, if the other party is a dou can not support the wall, then we should put down the poor put ourselves in the shoes, the other party is not worth our so much to pay and understand.
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