In the urban emotional drama "Dear Child", it was broken by Ren Suxi's scene of a novice mother.
Some people say that compared to the husband's heart, it is bigger. The wife's performance, too sensitive, too nervous.
But only those who are married and become mothers understand. Why is it that when it comes to childcare, the wife is always more sensitive than the husband.
Picky sister-in-law amateur
New mothers who have just given birth often face two problems at the same time: taking care of their children and recovering themselves.
At this time, if no one helps. Those days were simply chaotic.
At this time, there are conditions at home. Asking for a professional sister-in-law often becomes the best choice.
However, the family spent several thousand. Invited to the sister-in-law, at first Fang Yinuo was still satisfied. Immediately after that, the problem came up.
Disgusted sister-in-law has no eyesight, and her job is not done well. As a result, on the first night of the arrival, the child was not ready, and he fell asleep first.
Dissatisfied with the month sister-in-law did not follow her own requirements, at any time one by one to record the baby's eating and drinking Lasa.
When the mother's reminder takes effect, the seed of doubt sprouts in the heart. He also monitored the words and deeds of his sister-in-law everywhere, suspecting that the other party secretly gave the baby milk powder to drink.
Until the child's jaundice was severe, all the dissatisfaction with the sister-in-law of the month, concentrated on the outbreak. Fang Yinuo finally drove away with his own hands, and he recruited his own sister-in-law.
Hate your husband's heart
Since giving birth, Fang Yinuo is not satisfied with her husband.
I always felt that his heart was too big to care enough about himself and the baby.
When giving birth, I didn't see my husband. After giving birth, instead of appearing in front of his wife at the first time, he ran to send a placenta to his mother-in-law.
Get up in the middle of the night to feed the child, thirsty, want your husband to help pour a glass of water, half a day can not shout. At this time, it was still the sister-in-law who brought a cup of warm water.
At this scene, the heroine was aggrieved and moved, and she cried out at once, and her sob flowed.
When it comes to having children, women will always pay more than men.
Women need to go through a long, feeding process from the belly to the bosom, while men only need to contribute one cell. But the final fruit of the two people is the same. Children need a mother, and they need a father just as much.
In fact, the way and attitude of mothers and fathers to take care of children is really different.
There is an old saying, dad with the baby, just live. Or it can be said that many babies who survive in the hands of their fathers are invincible lucky.
Whether it is from the physiological structure of human beings, or the conventions that have been continued for thousands of years. They all regard the matter of having children as the historical mission of women.
After all, the father's physiological structure does not have the natural advantages and mature conditions to feed life.
A family of three, Mom and Dad and baby. Since someone is thriving at home, someone has to go out and forage for food.
There are already two cherry mouths waiting to be fed in the house, so there must always be a person who goes outside to work hard and make money.
So the family division of labor became, Xiao Lu spent a lot of time and energy, working outside to make money. A small part of the time is spent comforting the wife and teasing the daughter.
If there is no one, help with the children to do the housework. Then Fang Yinuo's large amount of time must be spent on children and housework. There is very little time left for themselves to recuperate, and there is no time left for the night rain between husband and wife.
However, if there is a mother-in-law or a sister-in-law to help, take care of all the housework, take care of half the children. Then Yinuo can spend half of the time and energy to recuperate, half the time to take care of the children, and maintain a close relationship with the other half.
However, even in the case of husbands, sisters-in-law, mothers-in-law, and mothers-in-law taking turns, it is impossible to avoid the chicken flying dog jump of Yinuo's life.
Dissatisfied with the husband, dissatisfied with the sister-in-law, dissatisfied with the mother-in-law, can be understood. Perhaps, these people are not the people who know the heroine best.
But if, even the mother can't satisfy Yinuo. It is because my mother packs the contents of her bag for the heroine every day and forgets to install a milking device for her.
At this time, as the heroine, should we examine what is wrong.
New moms are overly sensitive
As a new mother, Yinuo is indeed a little nervous.
The child was admitted to the incubator of the hospital because of jaundice, and could not accompany him at all times and could not visit at will.
Yinuo was so anxious that he often kicked his husband awake in the middle of the night. To my husband, who is still at work the next day, tell me about my worries.
Worried that the sister-in-law secretly fed the child milk powder, she rushed her husband to the guest room. Let the sister-in-law sleep with herself, so that it is convenient to take care of the children in the middle of the night.
And the reality is that the sister-in-law slept until she snored loudly. She, on the other hand, couldn't sleep because of her endless anxiety.
To vaccinate the child, mom and dad and grandma went out together, and finally got a mess.
A little bruise left by some needles on the child's body can be associated with the happiness that may affect the child's life.
All moms, all from new moms, have a first time in everything.
As a mother, the sense of participation in having children is too strong. Watching himself suffer a lot, and walking around the ghost door for a while, there was such a soft little person. Not sensitive, not nervous, only strange.
It was as if Zhang San donated a copper plate and got half a medal.
And Li Si donated a four-into-the-courtyard house, and then went up the sword mountain, down to the sea of fire, and Yan Luodian walked once before he got half a medal.
Zhang San and Li Si put the medals together and were kept by Li Si.
Well, who would be more nervous about this medal, you guessed.
From a chicken feather in a place, to a hundred battles. From the big treasure to the book, to the second treasure to the pig, like Yinuo and her mother-in-law, two different kinds of real experience of motherhood.
As a new mother, Yinuo is indeed too sensitive, and she herself needs to adjust her mentality from time to time.
Others don't have to blame her too much, who wouldn't be nervous in the face of what is precious in life.
As a family member, it is to be her most solid backing, accompany her, and work together to survive this most difficult day.