Hemingway said: The better you treat a man, the more you show him your love, the sooner he will get rid of you.
Dong Fan's love for Xiao Lu is like this. Dong Fan, who is young and beautiful and gentle, falls in love with Xiao Lu, a middle-aged man married for the second time, and her love has reached the point of humility.
Liking a person will humble himself to dust
In the TV series "Dear Child", Dong Fan (played by Xie Keyin) is a journalist who comes from an enlightened, loving and warm family.
Her parents are very transparent and enlightened elders, as the only daughter of the family, Dong Fan has been surrounded by the full love of her parents since she was a child, she is innocent, romantic, kind and considerate.
Such a Dong Fan is like a small sun, shining on everyone around him, including Xiao Lu (played by Qin Hao), a divorced man of the second marriage.
Dong Fan is definitely a warm ray of sunshine after Xiao Lu's divorce. Since being with Dong Fan, Xiao Lu's home has had color, instantly changing from gray to bright.
His life has also become colorful.
Dong Fan went home to Xiao Lu to meet his parents for the first time, and praised Xiao Lu in front of his parents as a responsible and good father, although divorced, he was a very good man.
From Dong Fan's single perspective, Xiao Lu is indeed an excellent man, he is mature and stable, good temper, humorous, self-motivated, successful in career, and has a house and a car.
Because the original family has always been very happy, Dong Fan naturally cannot experience the pain and sorrow of real life. In her cognition, life should be as warm and loving as their home.
Zhang Ailing said: If you like a person, you will be humbled to the dust and then blossom.
The same is true of Dong Fan. She began to curry favor with Xiao Lu's mother, Gao Caiping, and although she first saw that her mother-in-law was not welcome, she still smiled and did not bother with her mother-in-law.
She mingled with the brother-in-law, and the two of them played games together. Dong Fan, this is a complete break into the interior of the husband's family, and it has received a piece of praise.
Dong Fan's biggest humility is reflected in 3 places. First, Xiao Lu left the company he had been working for for his daughter and came to a new company.
Now his monthly salary is 25,000 yuan, plus dividends, his annual salary is basically around 400,000 yuan a year. When Xiao Lu learned that his daughter Hehe had leukemia, he did not plan to buy a marriage house or have children.
When Dong Fan heard Xiao Lu say that she didn't want to buy a wedding house, this was the first time she had turned from sunny to cloudy. There was obviously a hint of unhappiness on her face, but she didn't show it.
The next day, Dong Fan and her mother-in-law went to the hospital to visit Hehe, originally Dong Fan did not want to go, outside the ward she also told her mother-in-law that she would not go in. She is also a well-thought-out girl. I didn't expect to be pulled in by my mother-in-law.
After entering, the scene was very embarrassing. The current wife and the current wife are in the same frame, and they open up a sense of déjà vu that is secretly competing. From the beginning of seeing the overwhelmed and unfamiliar with Hehe, to the later compassion prevailed and began to coax Hehe.
In front of Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi), Dong Fan also deliberately half-truthed and half-falsely said that he wanted to take Hehe to play with Xiao Lu. This is a kind of resistance of Dong Fan to the other side.
Dong Fan's only mistake was to deliberately emphasize teaching children to make up in front of Fang Yinuo. She really underestimated a mom's protective heart and had no sense of boundaries.
In the end, Dong Fan naturally made Xiao Lu unhappy. Xiao Lu was scolding his mother on the surface, but in fact, he almost said to Dong Fan: You don't go to see Hehe, what does it have to do with you.
This was the second time Dong Fan was unhappy, and she was still holding back.
Third, Dong Fan specially baked a cake for Xiao Lu to eat. Unfortunately, Xiao Lu did not appreciate it, but when he turned around to receive the information from his ex-wife, he happily ate it.
Dong Fan's expression was very disappointed, which made people very distressed. She still didn't have a seizure, hiding her emotions.
A man's love is embodied in the details
Does Xiao Lu love Dong Fan? In the second marriage, Dong Fan has always been a humble giver. She will take the initiative to give Xiao Lu a haircut, will also take the initiative to cook for Xiao Lu, and will also do it according to Xiao Lu's taste.
Dong Fan has always taken Xiao Lu's feelings and emotions as the first, first sending invitations to Fang Yinuo for marriage, her purpose is to help Xiao Lu eliminate the estrangement with his ex-wife, so that he can have more opportunities to visit his daughter in the future.
Based on this, she also deliberately tried to test Fang Yinuo's face, so that Hehe would often come to their house to play in the future, and the purpose was also to fight for Xiao Lu's rights and interests as a father.
Xiao Lu only did two things to his wife. First, on the day he proposed to Dong Fan, it was because he was in a bad mood after arguing with the boss lady, and Dong Fan took off his coat to shield him from the wind and rain in the heavy rain, and he was moved to propose for a while.
Second, in order to accompany Dong Fan to travel, Xiao Lu deliberately took a long vacation.
It can be seen that Xiao Lu's love for Dong Fan is not deep enough.
Phone notes are the highlight
Xiao Lu's love for Dong Fan was hidden in a telephone note.
Dong Fan's telephone note to Xiao Lu is his husband, while Xiao Lu is different, and his phone note to Dong Fan is "Fan Fan".
Why is Xiao Lu's note to Dong Fan not "wife"? Isn't the recognition of Dong Fan's wife not enough?
This note name shows that Xiao Lu's love for Dong Fan is not deep enough.
It can only be said that Xiao Lu did not fall in love with this innocent and kind little girl from beginning to end, and what he longed for was nothing more than a woman who selflessly tolerated him like a mother.
Xiao Lu's heart loves Fang Yinuo even more. This can be seen in the details of eating the cake. When he heard Fang Yinuo's message, his mood instantly improved, like a boy in love.
On the other side, Fang Yinuo looked at Xiao Lu's brushed eyes and saw that she still had her ex-husband in her heart. Otherwise, Fang Yinuo would not have said directly to Xiao Lu in front of the current Xie Tianhua (played by Nie Yuan): No one can wake up after you fall asleep.
The two men still have each other in their hearts. The most pitiful were Xie Tianhua and Dong Fan. They are also the most angelic characters in the whole play, and the good ones are a little unreal. Even if their emotions are out of control and collapse, it is reasonable, and they will not be so suspended.
At that time, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo divorced without love, but did not deal with the various relationships of parenting before falling apart.
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo are actually complementary, because they are busy with children and work, they ignore each other's feelings, lack warmth and love, and gradually drift away.
Ironically, Fang Yinuo inserted Xiao Lu and Dong Fan's married life. Unexpectedly, this time she was acting as a third party.
Dong Fan's desire to have a child is not because she likes children, but because she panics, but also because of a sense of crisis.
How deep the water in the marriage is, the kind and young Dong Fan still does not understand, she can only slowly hit a wall in the marriage. She may also become the second party to promise.
In this humble marriage, Dong Fan was not happy.
Now she is still too young to know that this marriage may mortgage her entire life.