Fate, this thing - can not be sought

Fate, as the name suggests, is a certain opportunity and possibility of encounter. It is generally common in love.

Fate can not be sought. In the vast sea of people, the chance of passing by is very small, and it is even more rare to meet and know each other.

In my impression, there have been several times when perfection was missed. Rather than missing out, it is better to say that you were not mature at that time, maybe you didn't have responsibility or no ideas, maybe you met the wrong person, maybe you met the right person at the wrong time, or you didn't cherish yourself, for various reasons, so that we didn't end up together.

In the process of being frequently introduced and blind dates, there have been some regrets, but it is useless, it is better to cherish the present, do a good job, understand what kind of life you want to live, and what kind of people you can live with.

Slowly, I finally understood a truth, which is actually a truth that every single man and woman has known for a long time. No one is perfect, they all have advantages and disadvantages, and we can't just see the shortcomings. After all, there are many shortcomings in itself. When I was young, I occasionally missed the opportunity to get along because of a word, or a lack of initiative, or too lazy to talk.

Man must be content, not too much. While demanding others, you must also be unashamed or impeccable. So the love of parents is simple, pure, or long-term love. Of course, there are practical problems, but it is not so uncomfortable today, cars, houses, deposits, to meet one of them is already relatively good, of course, the car is not said to be tens of thousands of dollars, after all, the loan installment is within reach.

Some people care about appearance, some people care about whether they can talk, some people care about whether they like or feel, some people care about cars and houses. At my current age, I slowly began to care about whether we could understand each other, tolerate each other, chat with each other, and whether they looked good, and whether the higher requirements were whether they could suffer together and share blessings.

Thanks to a girlfriend's some teachings, I understand more about women's thoughts, even if there is no money, it is okay to be good to her wholeheartedly, such a requirement is indeed not high. Thanks to the last girlfriend, I understood that what women say doesn't care, maybe they don't care, or they may pretend, after all, people's hearts are realistic. It's just a pity that I lost in the inability to suffer together, in fact, even if I insist on persevering, now after 7-8 months, life is already better. Although I am a person who loves to set goals, I have always worked hard.

After going through so much, summing up the reasons why the previous one broke up, this time it is more thorough:

1. Hyperthyroidism, which affects the relationship between husband and wife when it is serious;

2, the debt is heavy, the monthly payment of 27,000 is barely maintained, and the takeaway is even less rare, which is painful;

3, a long time, it is inevitable that occasionally there will be some carelessness, not as tired as when in love.

4, do not live together has already explained some problems.

5, some details of the problem did not care, such as getting up in the morning to smoke 2 cigarettes in the toilet, indeed choking, and so on.

6, some love to clean, so lazy to clean up the pet, they are easy to sulk, cleaning movement will be a little big.

In summary, it is said that some have been said, not listened carefully, and there is no intention to change, and the relationship will naturally fade slowly after a long time.

As I get older and my financial resources increase, I feel like I'm picking and choosing. Always after being dissatisfied with one or more aspects, I decided not to talk about it, perhaps because I just wanted to get married for the sake of getting married recently, forced by the pressure of my parents.

Usually, I occasionally chat and find a problem. Colleagues' families seem to be happy, or they don't say it, after all, not everyone is like me, saying whatever comes to mind. At the same time, I found that some friends, their married life is not happy, whether it is free love or friend introduction, once upon a time, now sometimes they are holding their own mobile phones, and they may not be able to say a few words a day.

Could it be that I am afraid of marriage? I don't know, I just know that if I continue to pick it, it will be more and more difficult to get married.

There is an interesting phenomenon, after the breakup last year, family or friends introduced, after hearing hyperthyroid debt, many are unacceptable and do not plan to continue to talk. Therefore, in order to save time later, when WeChat introduced itself, I always confessed, plus there was some depressed and heavy mood at that time, so that most others must not accept it, after all, who came up to suffer together. Now, I still introduce it this way, but the debt is only a mortgage, hyperthyroidism is also getting better, almost everyone doesn't care, for a while I don't know how to be good, and then I thought about it, find a chat about it. But when I want to have a long-term relationship, the other party feels that the progress seems to be a little slow, and my focus is on the work more, there is no time to take care of too much, after all, I don't like it, when I feel that the other party is somewhat absolute, I calmly withdraw. Friends say it's the right thing to do, after all, it feels like putting it first.

This year unconsciously has passed more than 3 months, I thought about it, I really should determine who to associate with before May Day, after all, before getting married, I still need to know more about it, and it is best to fight for marriage next year.

I just don't know what's going to happen next, but everyone in my life does seem to have taught me something, or made me think.

Fate, sometimes you need to touch, sometimes you need to grab it with your hands. For example, two people chat, chat many times, and do not take the initiative every time, then after all, one party will be tired. Or maybe you can have a good chat, but one party doesn't want to chat or doesn't reply to the message, then this fate quietly slips away.

It's hard to like someone who likes herself, but use your heart to discover, to pursue, maybe the future one she is waiting for you not far away.

I hope that friends who are still single today can find the one they like or are satisfied with.