【Netizen Contribution】
Count the bizarre behavior of my ex-girlfriend.
I met my ex-girlfriend on a blind date.
In fact, in retrospect, I should have ended the relationship immediately after the first meeting, and I felt uncomfortable, but now it is too late to regret it, and I have wasted too much money, time and energy on her.
However, now that we are finished, it is also a timely stop loss.
Say it from the beginning.
Blind date stage:
The first time we met, it was about two hundred in a restaurant per capita.
She talked about it for a long time afterwards, so every time I asked her to dinner later, in order to atone for my sins, I was in a restaurant with more than five hundred people per capita.
My salary is more than eight thousand per month, to be honest, I am not afraid of everyone's jokes, I have been in love with her for more than a year, my parents subsidize me one or two thousand every month, saying let me be nice to her, buy some gifts or something.
If it weren't for my parents subsidizing me with this money, I would have run out of money to eat and pay off.
Love Stage:
He kept picking faults from me, saying that I was underpaid, short and so on.
But she has a cunning characteristic, every time she uses a joking tone to say, if I am angry with her, she will say that she is joking, the big man can not afford to joke ah.
Then one time I couldn't stand it, and I said if you look down on me so much, then divide it.
She didn't say a word, and never said it again.
Stages of marriage:
After a year or two of love, both parents also met and began to put marriage on the agenda.
The biggest thing about getting married now is the house, and that's the case in my family.
The man bought a house with a down payment and hoped that the woman would accompany the wedding decoration money and a car.
Isn't that fair? In my opinion, there is no problem, my family's down payment is six hundred thousand, and her family will not exceed half a million in total if it is decorated and cared, but we are men, and it is appropriate to take a little more.
But only at this time did her girlfriend say that she also had a house in her name, which her parents bought before marriage.
She wanted to use the house as a dowry, and said she would pay off the loan with her own salary.
I didn't understand it at first, but I thought it would be okay, so I went back to my mother.
My mom said no, and my mom said:
Her salary is now more than six thousand, your salary is more than eight thousand, in the future you will provide two houses together, can the two families live so clearly, it is certain that you have to pay more money.
And after marriage, she lived in the house bought by our family, and she lived directly without a penny, is it too much?
Isn't it equal for men and women now, is she equal like this, isn't this playing our family's calculations?
When I thought about it, it made a lot of sense, and only then did I understand that my girlfriend and her family really had a lot of heart.
I adjusted my mother's words slightly, and gently expressed the meaning of our family, or hoped that she could accompany the car and decoration money.
Unexpectedly, my girlfriend scolded our family's heart and said:
"If there is any mistake in the future, can your mother repay me the decoration money?" Can't I, then, can I cut the decoration off the wall? ”
She also sent a message directly to my mom to the effect that:
Our family's house is my pre-marital property, and to let her post the decoration fee is to calculate her.
Because the matter of the house has been deadlocked for a long time, in the end both sides took a step back:
Our family paid for the renovation of the house our family bought, and their family married a car worth more than 200,000 yuan, registered in her name.
In fact, I feel very sad when I look back on this:
And her ex-girlfriend, along with her family, was full of calculations from the start.
I don't want to do that either, but the reality is, it seems like everyone is wary of others lying to themselves, even if they are about to become a family.
I set the date of receiving the permit, and I asked her out two weeks ago to ease the relationship between the two of them.
After all, I still want to live a good life with her.
Unexpectedly, that meal became our breakup meal.
When it comes to having children, the girlfriend says it's not a woman's obligation to have children.
In fact, in retrospect, I didn't have to lose my temper with her then.
It was just that the pressure, grievances, and entanglements of the past few days suddenly broke out at once, and I asked her why she said such things?
She replied without showing weakness:
"Just to be clear now!" Lest your family treat me like a fertility machine after marriage! ”
I asked if they didn't have children, so why would two people get married? Isn't the meaning of the family all about reproduction?
She said:
"The belly is mine, and I have the right to decide whether to be born or not to be born, and when to be born." What reproduction, you say it lightly, but the pain and risk of childbirth itself are borne by me alone! You don't take the risk, you don't talk. ”
Talking about this level, I really don't feel the need to get married, and I have always had deep differences between her and her, feeling that we are not the same type of people at all, and I can't figure out what she is thinking.
Does she want to get married? Probably thinking, otherwise I wouldn't have talked to me for more than a year, right;
But why did she belittle me all day long, calculate me, and even be aggressive?
And the two families have been wary of each other all along, even if it is discussing the matter of having a child, she has always been there to calculate what risks and what losses.
I don't understand if after giving birth to a child, the child does not care what she calls mom?
She always talks about risks, losses, doesn't she benefit?
In the end, we still broke down, and when I went home, I told my mother, and my mother understood me very well, saying that even if this girl married home, it would be a trouble.
That's what I've been through from a blind date to two weeks before I'm about to get married.
I feel very tired now, I feel very annoyed at the thought of falling in love and getting married, and I don't want to think about these things anymore.
Or engage in a career, money can solve most of the troubles.
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