When children go to primary school, they will face more problems that need to be dealt with independently, such as self-care, going to school on time, and completing homework seriously...
At this time, many parents find that children will not do anything, what to worry about parents, when parents let children do it, children are very lazy, how not to do it, what to do in the face of such a child?
Guangzhou listen to the bar children's psychological counseling for you to interpret.
"My little one is six years old this year, and sometimes I ask him to tie his shoelaces, and he's not happy to tie them. There are many more things that he is not happy to learn, so what should he do?"
Good habits are formed from an early age, and the laziness of the child today is due to the fact that his industrious qualities were not cultivated yesterday; the child's inability to do things today is due to the fact that the ability to do similar things has not been developed.
In the growth of children, many parents always feel that children are weak, can not handle things well, holding "the child is too small, can not do, wait for the child to grow up to say it", so all the things parents are responsible, including what to eat every day, what to wear, what books in the bag, a few pens in the stationery box, red scarves to wear or not to wear.
Even if the child's own basic life is taken care of by the parents, don't expect the family to share the affairs of the family. In this way, when the child really grows up, the parents will be troubled: the child will not do anything, and he cannot say anything about him.
Some parents may say: I don't want to do it, but he doesn't do it. If I don't think for him, if I don't put it on him, he will have to forget, the teacher will have to criticize him, and the school will have to deduct points... This is caused by the parents' lack of principle and no bottom line, and the nagging that should not be required is not insisted on.
The child finds that he does not care about nature, and does not do it naturally; it does not matter if he forgets, there are parents thinking about it. No matter what you don't do, your parents will help you get it done. For children, the worst case scenario is that parents are nagging and doing things for themselves, as long as they can tolerate nagging, they can do nothing.
The most chilling thing for parents may not be that children do not do things, but that they do not know how to understand their parents.
No matter how much their parents do for them, they always feel that they should, lack gratitude, and never want to share a little for their parents. When parents ask or ask them to share some, children often feel very confused, do not know what to do and how to do it, and finally prefer not to do anything. And who is responsible for this? And of course it's also the parents.
Whether it is a child's behavior habits or thinking habits, it is necessary to cultivate.
In the face of the problem that children do not do things, do not take care of themselves, and are not diligent, parents must first find the root cause of the problem: whether it is a habit that parents do instead of forming, or children will not do it at all.
If it is a habit that parents have done instead of developing, then parents should appropriately let go, let the children do what they can, and cultivate their children's ability to be independent.
If the child is not able to do it, then parents should think about whether the way to teach the child is correct. In the process of learning, the assistance and encouragement of parents is very important.
Help should be timely and appropriate, if you do not help the child, failure too much, will dampen their enthusiasm and self-confidence; But too much help becomes an all-in-one. Encouragement does not have to be material encouragement, a look, patting him, has an affirmative effect. If parents often say to their children, "You can do it yourself" and "You are awesome", pay attention to cultivation in daily life, and every child can become a small expert in life.
Guangzhou heard about the child psychological counseling reminder
Parents should cultivate the abilities that should be possessed at the appropriate age according to the age of the child. When the child comes to 3 years old to cultivate the child's self-reliance, this is not only the ability, but also will enhance self-confidence, a child with weak self-care and self-reliance ability, it is easy to be at a disadvantage in peer interaction, affecting self-confidence and mental health development.
When educating children, do not deliberately avoid children from making mistakes, but let children grow in mistakes.