A 44-year-old Dink girl's true self-description: I can do anything, I just don't want children!
I'm Dink, 44 years old, and I just don't want kids! What age is it, can you still afford to have children, guys? Supermarket a can of milk powder is the cheapest three hundred and eight, college junior high school kindergarten, primary school high school all kinds of make-up tuition fees, can I afford it?
After the children are older, the dowry, all kinds of expenses... Life is limited, it is better to learn from me and walk all over China's great rivers and mountains! And having children, I'm afraid of pain.
Dink not Dink, both are personal attitudes to life. There are a lot of people online who question us. Dink is not against others having children, and people who have children in turn are condemning Dink. What right do you have to condemn others?
Why don't I have children? I have shadows. My grandfather has three sons and a daughter, and when he can take care of himself, I take care of my sister, who manages my grandfather's life and boiling medicine. I took care of Grandpa washing the quilt and cleaning and buying snacks to eat.
When my grandfather was eighty-eight years old and couldn't take care of himself, my sister said that it was not easy to manage the affairs of the next generation, so she let my three sons (uncle, uncle, and my father) take turns to deliver food.
Grandpa took money to get injections, my third uncle did not go, said no money (he really has no money, gambler, but not penniless, smoke Chinese every day), Uncle does not go, said can not move (he really legs and feet are not good, but not unable to move).
My dad said he couldn't come back from recuperation in Sanya... (He really can't come back, plane tickets are expensive...) You guys have your own brain holes, what I want to say, after all... ）
The aunt said that accompanying her son to the college entrance examination, can not be separated from the body (the child is indeed in the college entrance examination, she rents a make-up class for the child, away from my grandfather is a stop ... ）
The third uncle saw that the two people did not care, and finally went, drunk and said, to starve my grandfather to death! After I knew, I used my savings to bring Grandpa back to life.
Finally, under the coercive intervention of our juniors, their three sons and a girl took turns to sit in the village... Take care of the elderly, play mahjong and sit in the village...
When it was the third uncle's turn to deliver food, my grandfather committed suicide by jumping into the river. (Because my third uncle was drunk and scolded him)
Rescued, when I arrived, Grandpa died in less than ten minutes. What is the use of adopting a child? Grandpa had three sons and a girl, just because Grandpa didn't leave them any inheritance... Also, I have a lot of real examples around me, I won't say it, I'm afraid you're terrible...
I want to open! Everyone has the right to choose the way they want to live, there is no need to live for the opinions and ideas of others. Having children is what you want to have, you don't want to have children, you don't like not want to have children, and what does it have to do with others.
It's not a good thing to say, and it has nothing to do with the parents of both sides. You like the child, you have given birth to yourself, don't kidnap me with your ideas.
The world should be inclusive, as long as it does not hurt others, it does not matter what others say, let alone talk about other people's lifestyles.
Now in some rural areas, if a family does not have children, you do not even want to go out of the doorway. Strange eyes and those who look down on people's mentality, directly make you not want to live! Don't say not to give birth, even if you have no sons, you can't lift your head.
I don't have the ability to have a son, so I choose to break the jar and break it!
Director Zhao:
First of all, I agree with some of your points.
People who have never been parents only think of the hardships of nursing their children, but they can't appreciate the tender children's voice, cute little hands, chubby little feet, shouting that their parents run to you, melting people with an incomparable feeling of happiness.
This kind of happiness cannot be felt without experiencing it, so I will not agree with some of your views. Of course, everyone has their own life to live, just be comfortable!
Breeding and feeding offspring is a genetic instinct of humans and animals. Children within twenty years of age, basically parents pay, must be very tired.
When the child is about thirty years old, he can basically return the filial piety to his parents (don't tell an example, most of China is good).
The people of the Dink family, economic freedom, time freedom, free days... You can eat, drink, and play freely.
However, every day can only repeat yesterday's life.
Only the growth of children and grandchildren will have continuous changes every day, and can people be happy and sad.
My concerns are:
Pension socialization, if you do not have children, who will feed when you are old?
Although the Dink people can live more easily and comfortably, but when they are old, they will eventually have to rely on other people's children to support them. Will it be selfish to base your ease and ease on the hard work of others to raise children, and to share the fruits of the labor of other people's children in vain when you are old?
Having children is a reward for the future of society. Paying taxes at work is the reward for society today.
I think that most people should regret it by middle age, and there are gains and losses.
Although there are fewer children involved, but less children laugh and laugh, although they go to the nursing home after they are old, but there are no children who bear the knees and end up alone. When he dies, no descendants hang himself in front of the grave.
Personal opinion, do not like it or spray.