In feelings, the three words of impermanence in life are really suitable for everyone.
Some people obviously love each other very much from the beginning, and even have been married for many years, and their lives are almost over, but they still can't go to the end, and they still break all their relationships in the middle of the way and become familiar strangers.
When the night is quiet, looking back on the past, it seems that all this has become like a dream. Obviously yesterday, we still recalled our past together, and we still made a vow of friendship, but today we took the divorce agreement and walked to the end of our marriage.
In reality, although we would like to have a long-lasting love, the facts tell us that love is not so simple.
I called my mother a few days ago, and she said that the three uncles in the family were divorced, and the two children, the three uncles and the three aunts each brought one.
Looking back on the past of the relationship between the third uncle and the third aunt over the years, it is indeed lamentable. I remember when I was in college, the third uncle and the third aunt got married. In the eyes of relatives and neighbors, the third uncle picked up the treasure, because the third aunt was not only beautiful, but also obedient and sensible, and was more respectful to the elders of the family.
At that time, the relationship between the third uncle and the third aunt was also very good, the two people never had an argument, and no matter what they did, the two people had to stick together.
It is only with the birth of the child that the feelings of the third uncle and the third aunt seem to have changed, and the two people will often argue for various reasons, and sometimes even fight with each other, making the family jump.
I remember once the third uncle and the third aunt quarreled, the third uncle directly broke all the TV refrigerators at home, and the next day the whole family was a mess. At that time, when the elders went to the third uncle's house, many people said that the third uncle was wrong, and everyone also advised them to discuss something well, there was no need to quarrel.
However, the persuasion of the elders was useless, and the third uncle and the third aunt quarreled from once every half a month at the beginning to once a week later, and then once every two days in the year before the divorce.
The whole family was smoked by two people, and there was no family appearance at all. Even many neighbors who do not have a good relationship do not even want to enter the door of the third uncle's house, and later everyone is unwilling to have too much contact with the third uncle because of the family situation of the third uncle.
Until half a month ago, the third aunt finally divorced the third uncle. Their divorce was expected, but they didn't expect to drag on for so long, and they also let each other go and relieved each other.
Through their love stories, I've found that if a guy doesn't love you anymore, there must be a reason for that, and when that person leaves, keep those three words in mind.
1, love or not love, is not forced to do
What kind of person you meet in this life, who you will fall in love with, in fact, it is doomed from the beginning, but it is difficult to know that you are in it.
Fate is a thing that is difficult to say clearly, it will always appear inadvertently when it is coming, but if you don't come, no matter how you do it, it is useless.
There is no standard answer to feelings, love or no love, should not be forced. If you have to force someone who doesn't love you to be with you, even if she does stay, you won't be happy. Only by not asking for it and letting each other go is the most correct way.
Many people in marriage have a commonality, that is, they feel that since two people are married, they should keep going. Even if there is no relationship in this marriage, after all, the two people are a couple for many years, it is better to endure and live a lifetime.
Such an idea is not worth advocating at all, not loving is not loving, if you continue to entangle, eventually both people will be hurt. Reluctant marriage, there is no point, it is better to let go of each other early and start a new life.
2, people who have changed their hearts, you can't change
In the marriage between the third uncle and the third aunt, I knew that at the beginning, the third uncle really loved the third aunt and was very kind to the third aunt. However, with the passage of time, it is not difficult to find that the third uncle's feelings for the third aunt began to fade, and he began to have a sense of disgust for this marriage.
It's true when I love you, and it's true when I don't love you. That's what most men would say, and so does reality.
Believe it or not, understand that people who have changed their hearts really can't change this fact. Even if you can't put it down, it won't help, you have to understand that you can still live a good life without him.
In fact, if a person can really stay with you for a lifetime, it is really a very remarkable thing. So you have to learn to let go, know how to take care of yourself alone, and don't be too entangled with people who don't love you.
People who have changed their hearts, no matter what you are, no matter what way you can't keep each other. The best way for you to protect yourself is to let him go, learn to forget the past, and live again.
3. Learn to face separation and know how to let go
The person you love doesn't love you, is he at fault? Or, if you love him with all your heart, will he be able to turn back to you? If this is the case, then it is not called love, but moral kidnapping.
Life is only a few decades, if you have been entangled in feelings and living in unhappiness, then you will not find happiness no matter what, let alone live happily.
A relationship has come to a fork in the road, there must be many reasons, not you summarize the reasons, and finally learn to change will break the mirror and reunite. Fate is like this, people who don't love you will eventually leave.
When facing these situations, what you should do most is not to be sad, but to learn to face the division and integration of life, know how to let go of the past, cherish the present, and look forward to the future.
In short, feelings are often uncontrollable, which is a fact that we cannot change, so no matter how much you force it, it will not help.
You have to learn to go with the flow, to understand the principle of "I am fortunate to have it, I am lost to my life", you have to believe in the arrangement of fate, and one day, you will meet the right person.
Let go of the hand, let go of the nostalgia, so that life will be happy and can find happiness in life.
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