The other day I saw a girlfriend's message very touching, she said, we are anxious, not in a hurry to get married, but feel that at the age of thirty, off the single is like playing a stool game at that time. As soon as the music stops, we are too late to choose, and as we get older, we worry that the choice is getting smaller and smaller.
While women say that they have little chance of choosing, they say that their mouths are stupid and will not be flirtatious, and they also block good men who are worth marrying. This is a big taboo to get rid of a single - painting the ground as a prison. Sister Binbin wants to tell the girlfriend a truth, men choose women as long as they look at a point will continue, and women find that men as long as there is a little bit of no pass immediately, so women can choose the opportunity is definitely less ah.
Then the problem comes, compared to men with stupid mouths, those men with sweet mouths will definitely attract women easily. At this time, don't forget, even Confucius said, "Clever words make the color fresh." Therefore, women must avoid falling in love with their ears and not be confused by men's sweet words. So, in the face of a man who likes you and will not express himself, how to judge where he is good?
Today, Sister Binbin will analyze for her girlfriends how to see through the golden points of those "stupid men" through the details of life and expand their own choices.
Step 1: See how much he values you.
In your interactions, the man who will flirt with you will have a clear purpose at the beginning and speak provocatively. In order to want to ask you out or even sleep with you, they pay attention to strategy, first coaxing you to be happy, and then pushing forward step by step. But their enthusiasm is usually short-lived, and some acute men, within 2 weeks, find that you have not developed the meaning of it any further and will give up. And although this kind of man is almost interesting, or even inferior to you, their enthusiasm for you will be longer.
For example, you usually chat on WeChat, can he reply to the messages you send in seconds? Can this second cycle last more than 1 month? If there is a delay in which reply, it depends on whether he has apologized and explained to you later.
The man who will seduce you will think of changing the subject when he encounters such a situation; the serious man will express it one by one, honestly like a child. Then, while chatting you can abruptly stop the conversation, end the chat, and observe their reactions. If they show that they are overwhelmed and have to respect your emotions, it means that they just don't know much about routines and don't want to continue talking to you.
Step 2: See if they are Mr. Left or Mr. Right.
Before that, there was a popular story of Mr. Left and Mr. Right on the Internet. To put it simply, Mr. Zuo is good at impressing you with words, while Mr. Right is mature and considerate, meticulous, and good at continuously paying you with practical actions in silence. If you tend to marry Mr. Right, you should focus on testing whether this type of man is up to standard.
First of all, you have to choose a crowd of people to observe him. For example, birthday parties, annual meetings, classmate weddings, etc., there are other men, and his performance will have references. At this time, you should pay attention to whether he is looking around for you in the crowd, the action may not be obvious, but his searching eyes will often fall on you. In addition, you can also go in and out many times during the gap between meals or chats to see if his eyes shift with you. If the other person likes you, they will follow your dynamic curiosity: What's wrong with you? What did you do?
In order to verify this problem, Binbin sister also specifically investigated male colleagues in the company. It turned out that introverted male colleagues said that they would do so when they met a girl they liked because of their lack of love experience when they were students. Because, they really don't have much intention to create opportunities to be alone with you, and they are not embarrassed to take the initiative to approach you, let alone make physical contact with you, all they can do is to aim at you silently.
The third step is whether the life plan is clear.
The most complained about in love is the science and engineering men, their thinking is simple and direct, and they do not understand the style, but their advantages are also obvious. For example, they never procrastinate, love to learn and love to study, they look at various problems but have a unique vision, do things rationally, and have obvious time schedules for planning everything. So, if you have this type of man around you, you must not easily PASS because of your ordinary appearance on the outside, or clumsy tongue.
You can judge by a few details of life. For example, first of all, do you know what he is going to do now? In which city are you going to settle? What about your usual habits? Are the daily meals longing for the taste of home meals, or are they mainly eating takeout? Whether you often play games and stay up all night, whether you have regular fitness exercises, or apply for a fitness card, and whether you have financial investment and so on.
Putting together this important information, one can see a clear picture: the man in the current city has a stable life, a solid economic foundation, a serious health, and even a bachelor's life is in order. He can manage himself well, and you will be relaxed and comfortable with him.
The fourth step is whether he has room for adjustment.
Sloppy, wooden, boring, these three points are men's death pits, and it is also the easiest to make women disgusted, so it is necessary to see if he has room for adjustment from these three points.
Sloppy points to the image, this kind of men have almost no fixed dressing style of their own, and you don't expect them to learn. He can guarantee good hygiene habits, and it is good to keep it clean and tidy. Then, you provide them with a basic reference to the style, as long as they are willing to do it, it is worth cultivating.
And Mu Ne points to communication, if you have been together for more than half a year, feel that something is wrong, do not hold back and let him guess. You can remind him to call you every day after work, communicate with each other about the status of the day, and stick to it for three weeks to see if he can execute.
Finally, boredom points to romance. For example, a girlfriend hinted before Valentine's Day that the blind date send herself a rose, but the other party said, "Don't ask for it." When I was in college, I worked on Valentine's Day to sell flowers, and those were replaced by monthly flowers, not real roses at all," so confused that my girlfriend was speechless.
However, the girlfriend still insisted on telling him that it was standard to send roses on Valentine's Day. On Valentine's Day, although the boy did not buy high-grade roses, he asked the florist for the remaining rose petals to cover the floor, and had a romantic candlelight dinner with the girl. So, you see, with a little flick, they can turn on their romantic switch, and such a performance is worth further development.
Although rich and handsome are attractive, if you want to get off the list efficiently, you can't just look at external conditions. On the contrary, we must pay attention to those men who look ordinary, stupid mouths, and have no routines and no intentions. If he values you, is willing to continue to act, knows how to plan his life, and has room for adjustment, he is most likely your soul mate.
Here's how to do the little exercises after class:
At a friend party, which of the following men would you like to associate further?
A. The person who praises your dress for looking good and invites you to drink
B. People who keep peeking at you but don't act
C. People who use clumsy excuses to talk to you for WeChat