Some people say that the drama "Heart Dwelling" can see the heart attack every three episodes.
The disputes between the husband and wife in the play in the marriage will never be happy to show that the love that is not a door-to-door pair will never be happy, which is bloody and shocking!
Strong women and weak men? The gap between rich and poor? These loves have been accused by the outside world of one side climbing the other.
Every couple's initial sweetness eventually turns into a family life falling apart.
The sea vows the mountain alliance, flowers before the moon, and eventually becomes a chicken feather.
Feng Xiaoqin, a daughter-in-law from abroad, was pregnant before marriage and bound a local man in Shanghai, Gu Lei, with a child.
Feng Xiaoqin is busy every day from morning to night, is a very capable housewife, serving the whole family to eat, knows where the family's clothes are placed, and the Gu family lives in chaos when she leaves Feng Xiaoqin.
The Gu family does not say anything, in fact, they all know that the family is looking for a daughter-in-law from abroad, just to let her take care of the elderly and children in the family, as well as Gu Lei, the husband of Ma Bao.
Gu Lei is Gu Lei's son, even if people keep to themselves, but the family conditions are very good, filial piety to the family, he and his wife Feng Xiaoqin rely on their father and grandmother, Gu Lei is responsible for accompanying, Feng Xiaoqin is responsible for taking care of, the family's life is very warm.
However, the family has a difficult scripture. Feng Xiaoqin, as a foreigner, broke into Shanghai, and what she wanted most was a house of her own.
Feng Xiaoqin believes that her husband Gu Lei is the eldest son in the family, the Gu family's money originally had his share, and he was originally prepared to take care of the Gu family for a lifetime as a housewife.
Feng Xiaoqin thought very traditionally, women rely on their husbands, and exchange their dedication for the support of their husbands in Shanghai. Not only did she want a house, But Feng Xiaoqin also dreamed of bringing her family to live in Shanghai.
But house prices in Shanghai are very expensive.
Feng Xiaoqin is accustomed to living in the good location of Gu Lei's house, coupled with the consideration of children's schooling, Feng Xiaoqin's favorite house, whether it is a monthly payment or a down payment, is not something that Gu Lei can afford.
A father of a local daughter-in-law and a local lang group has a disagreement over the purchase of a house.
The nimble Feng Xiaoqin hit the idea on her sister-in-law, who earns millions a year at the investment bank.
According to the economic situation of Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei, the money Gu Lei earned was only enough to buy something for the children and Feng Xiaoqin, and the family's family still depended on Feng Xiaoqin's father-in-law, and the house was also father-in-law's.
It is impossible for the father-in-law to sell his house, even if the father-in-law takes the money, it is still not enough. Enough down payment, monthly payment is also a problem, divorced from the father-in-law's life, Feng Xiaoqin's family can no longer ask the old man for family use.
When a family eats a meal, each person seems to have 30 hearts and eyes, each with their own ideas:
The first "explosion point" of this drama is because of the dispute over buying a house, Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei have an awkward quarrel, Gu Lei accidentally rolled down the stairs and crashed into the glass, and died.
Feng Xiaoqin because she wanted to buy a house indirectly led to gu Lei's death, and Feng Xiaoqin, who became a widow, had no face to face the Gu family again, so she chose to send takeaway food to earn money to raise her son, and the Gu family did not stop it.
Because of the accident of her husband Gu Lei, Feng Xiaoqin stepped into social work from a housewife and tasted bittersweet and bittersweet.
If time goes back and Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei successfully buy a house, will the marriage be happy?
01 The marriage of Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei, Gao Pan is the state of mind and personality
After Gu Lei's death, Feng Xiaoqin encountered many things, and she began to miss Gu Lei's goodness.
But even if there are no accidents, Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin will not be happy.
Feng Xiaoqin does not buy a house, and also likes to scold Gu Lei, because Gu Lei has not taken the financial accounting certificate for several years.
Why Feng Xiaoqin is so thin to Gu Lei is not only because of her husband's lack of ambition and hatred of iron and steel, the most important thing is the difference in position and the way of thinking. For the local man Gu Lei, he is very comfortable all his life.
Dad solved the housing problem in Shanghai, the sister who was an executive in the investment bank helped find a decent job, married a wife like Feng Xiaoqin, who was caught in the family, Gu Lei only needed to go to work and eat happily every day.
So Gu Lei faced his sister to persuade him to beware of his wife, Gu Lei did not listen much, he grew up in a honeypot, he would not doubt his wife's love for himself.
However, Feng Xiaoqin did not think so.
Feng Xiaoqin accurately identified the rich sister-in-law's beating of her every time, and Feng Xiaoqin's competitive behavior towards this big sister-in-law often had a feeling of anger of the poor in the face of the rich man's incompetence.
The more Feng Xiaoqin showed aggression, as the eldest sister-in-law, the more she needed to wake up Feng Xiaoqin.
Gu Lei's death, the play chose to let the Gu family father blame his daughter, but in fact, more responsibility should be on Feng Xiaoqin herself.
Because the husband and wife are different in addition to their identity and position, It is easy for Feng Xiaoqin to be insecure and treat her husband as a bad person.
Feng Xiaoqin was also prone to lose control of her emotions and said all the contradictions without saying a word. In order to force gu dad to take money, she said that she was an outsider.
Feng Xiaoqin made the family contradictions small and small, pointed out that he was an outsider who needed to be guarded, and then shot at Gu Lei, resenting Gu Lei for letting himself be a housewife.
The more Feng Xiaoqin went to force her father-in-law and husband to obey through the means of spiritual pressure, the more she let the eldest sister-in-law guard the family by making moves with Feng Xiaoqin, so the contradictions in the family became bigger and bigger.
It doesn't matter whether people come before or after, they are going to scold their husbands. Scolding the husband for not being motivated and not showing up.
In the eyes of the Gu family, this behavior is as if Feng Xiaoqin used her husband as a chip to threaten the Gu family to satisfy her desires and did not agree to buy a house, and Feng Xiaoqin was angry with her husband.
This behavior of hers is the reason why the eldest sister-in-law hates her and does not lend them money to buy a house.
Feng Xiaoqin used her own words and deeds to tell everyone how insatiable a daughter-in-law from abroad is, and it is difficult to fill her desires.
Step by step, to the point where my husband died unexpectedly.
In real life, many women are like Feng Xiaoqin, when choosing a marriage partner, they covet the comfort in front of them, choose a husband with a good temper, and after marriage, they want to compare and let their husbands work hard in middle age and get ahead.
This type of wife often adds her dreams to the other half of her body all day long. The other half began moral kidnapping as long as they did not meet her requirements. They forget that this seemingly unsatisfactory marriage is precisely because of their own choices.
The beautiful family is torn apart, and they are tired into cattle and horses, and they are also said to be bad people.
In Feng Xiaoqin's subsequent growth, she transformed her guilt for Gu Lei into a motivation to find herself, and Feng Xiaoqin, who spoke softly to the widows and the elderly.
Regardless of Grandma's bad attitude, Feng Xiaoqin, who continues to take care of Grandma to break the ice, seems very charismatic.
Therefore, the marriage between Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei, losing one party is doomed, in another parallel space, even if Gu Lei does not leave Feng Xiaoqin in the way of leaving the world, Feng Xiaoqin will lose his happy family because of his words and deeds.
Gu Lei's forbearance again and again, by lowering his self-esteem, coaxed his wife to be happy and could not solve Feng Xiaoqin's jealous and irritable heart:
Sharp words are very enjoyable to say when quarrelling, but family is not a debate field, and the closer people are, the more they should pay attention to the measure of quarrel.
"A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June."
The marriage of Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei is not only Gao Pan's identity in this local foreign country, but also the state of mind and personality.
02 Ge Yue climbed Gu Xin's ambition, and Gu Xin climbed Ge Yue's kindness
Since the launch of "Heart Residence", most viewers have thought that the war of public opinion is between the eldest sister-in-law and the daughter-in-law. Who knew that suddenly killed another character that the audience hated the most: Gu Xin, the cousin of the Gu family.
Gu Xin was originally a winner in life in the play, a generous family condition, and different from Gu Lei's crotch, Gu Xin was smart when he was young, had good grades when he went to school, and fell in love with the university and the school flower.
After becoming a civil servant, for the sake of her future, she was the daughter of the leader, bai Fumei.
Not only the marriage room AA system, the wife Ge Yue also listens to his words, and the father-in-law's family also has a small couple's honeymoon and wedding money.
Gu Xin suddenly had a cold attitude towards his wife who was still pregnant because of his father-in-law's layoff, and after his wife gave birth to a child, Gu Xin and Feng Xiaoqin's sister Feng Xiqian had an extramarital affair.
Gu Xin, a high-achieving student with superior conditions since childhood, actually took away Feng Xixi's first time on a broken sofa in an undecorated house.
After all, Feng Xiqian is young and has not yet met several men, and it is normal to be obsessed with Gu Xin.
However, Gu Xin has always been dominant in feelings, and every woman is willing to dedicate her flesh and feelings to him. The school flower ex-girlfriend's entanglement, the wife endured grievances and pulled her parents upside down to paste Gu Xin. Feng Xixi confessed to Gu Xin's hotness.
All show that Gu Xin's "bad" is by no means as simple as his superficial scumbag behavior.
Even if there is no Feng Xixi, even if there is no problem with his wife Ge Yue's father's work, he still gives Gu Xin help, and Gu Xin will betray Ge Yue in the future.
Because of his professional relationship, Gu Xin is naturally very good at "explaining". Moreover, civil servants face a lot of heavy paperwork, and the year-end summary report made by Gu Xin is so good that he can be praised by the leaders, which shows that Gu Xin's work ability is very strong.
A man so careful to try to deceive his wife, it is easy.
Gu Xin took the initiative to attack, taking the accusation as a concern, and beat Ge Yue to a stunned place.
Moreover, Gu Xin has always been bold, he is a person with his own opinion. The same is the son of the family, Gu Lei does not know to open his mouth with the family to ask for money, but Gu Xin for his own future, do not allow his parents to refuse, directly notify the parents, let the parents pay 7 million yuan and Ge Yue's family to make a new house down payment, and then take advantage of Ge Yue's infatuation with him, the marriage was quickly fixed.
As for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Gu Xin is not unable to handle it, but too good at handling. Every sentence Gu Xin said was simple but effective, and one sentence blocked Ge Yue's mouth.
Before Ge Yue was pregnant, Gu Xin would often beat his parents not to spoil his marriage. But since Ge Yue's father had an accident, he could no longer help Gu Xin in the unit. Gu Xin then let his mother, who was already poisonous, bully his wife Ge Yue.
On the other hand, Ge Yue, Ge Yue has lived in a honeypot since childhood, her growth situation is the same as Gu Lei, and her parents have protected them well. They are all very reasonable parents, so the children under such tutoring are very sunny and simple.
Ge Yue found gu xin cold to herself, and she had to talk to Feng Xiaoqin, because Feng Xiaoqin would help her with the child. After Ge Yue had children, she became humble, and her self-confidence was all hit by Gu Xin's cold words.
Ge Yue is overwhelmed by her husband's infidelity, and she has been deceiving herself. And without the courage to stop the loss in time, Ge Yue's family expressed dissatisfaction with the quality of Gu Xin's parents when Ge Yue and Gu Xin were in love.
But Ge Yue only thought that her mother hated Gu Xin and was not a rich person. Obsessed with love, Ge Yue lost her cleverness as a high-achieving student, and also lost her cleverness in leading the family to handle interpersonal relationships since childhood.
When she personally heard Gu Xin and Feng Xiqian personally tell the truth about the cheating, Ge Yue collapsed.
Therefore, the distance between Ge Yue and Gu Xin is not a door-to-door pair at the family level. Ge Yue's personality is even if she finds a family member who is also a leader's family, she will still meet scumbags.
Because Ge Yue's family made her doomed to be more cautious about the marriage partner. When she has already judged from the facts that a man is of bad character, she should make a decision.
The marriage between Ge Yue and Gu Xin, Gu Xin regards Ge Yue as a wall tile in the city surrounded by marriage. A young girl, forced by him to become a woman who can't live in fear.
And Gu Xin's profession is decent and dangerous. He and Feng Xixi violated the color ring and embarked on the road of breaking the law together.
In the high-climbing marriage between Gu Xin and Ge Yue, Ge Yue got a short-lived love, and Gu Xin's original love for Ge Yue really made Ge Yue think that she was the happiest woman in the world.
The "change of face" of people like Gu Xin is because although he is a local, he is a phoenix man in the city. His upbringing was that his mother sneered at people who were inferior to them all day long, and liked to be jealous of relatives, and couldn't stand that others were better off than them.
This led to Gu Xin becoming the protagonist of the crowd from an early age, getting used to it. As long as he doesn't get what he wants, he will decisively abandon the incumbent. Even if Gu Xin marries Feng Xixi, he will divorce again because of his greed. Ge Yue climbed Gu Xin's ambition, and Gu Xin climbed Ge Yue's kindness.
03 Marriage needs to be managed and supported by each other in order to accompany each other for a lifetime
Marriage is about having two strangers together for a lifetime, and two families coming together as one.
So marriage needs to be managed. No one in marriage will win steadily, and what can be done is to exchange people's hearts for hearts.
Take the example of Meng Fei, the representative of the late cheng, Meng Fei and his wife are very low-key, and after Meng Fei became popular, countless people wanted to explore his private life. But Meng Fei never brought his family to the show.
This caused him a lot of criticism. In particular, Meng Fei's autobiography shows that when he was young, he ate the old man's family, using the old man's family, and his wife's family was really good to him. Knowing that the son-in-law is the kind of acid Xiucai, who wants face and will not make money, he still takes out money to open a loss-making fruit shop for his son-in-law.
After Meng Fei exploded because of "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb", in the face of various scandals, Meng Fei's wife never came out to respond.
It is said that time will prove everything, Meng Fei and Guo Degang in the program, Guo Degang to his son Guo Qilin jokingly proposed to Meng Fei, but Meng Fei was frightened of the reaction of his daughter slave father, making everyone believe that a man has been holding his daughter in the palm of his hand.
This man has such a good relationship with the child, and the relationship with his wife cannot be bad.
Although Meng Fei's wife never shows her face, she can let Meng Fei accompany her all her life to old age, and never renege on her word in the face of the ups and downs of her husband's career, must be a wise woman.
People's life is very long, whether it is the family conditions are strong or weak, or who has the highest skill in personality ability, they need to support each other in order to accompany each other for a lifetime