Text | Miss Muang Lai
Educationalist Locke said:
Educational mistakes are more important than others.
Children are not experimental objects,
In order to accompany them to grow better,
Parents do their homework,
It is very important to have scientific parenting.
Exactly what to do,
Can you raise children wisely and correctly?
The People's Daily published 45 new concepts of scientific parenting.
Combining these ideas, I have summarized them into 9 "Parental Declarations".
These "manifestos" contain the most important qualities that parenting should have.
All the confusion in parenting,
You can find the answer here.
Companion attributes: Don't ignore any detail of growing up
Growing up really only once.
I love my children dearly,
Don't want to miss a single detail of your growth.
So, I will spend more time with my children.
Children are flowers, parents are soil,
The future of the child is in the hands of the parents,
No matter what kind of education teachers and schools carry out,
I should know:
Family education is the most basic and the most important.
In companionship,
It is inevitable that the child will be provoked to lose his temper,
Unless it is necessary, I try my best to punish the child,
The more reprimanded, the greater the fire;
The more restrained, the more calm;
I want to be a calm parent, quietly guiding my children.
Accompany the most beautiful,
Not to keep the time, but to keep the memory,
So
Wherever you go,
I have to carry children as much as possible.
Walk through the high mountains and valleys together, and enjoy the spring, summer, autumn and winter together;
Let the sweetness of companionship inject a sense of security into the TA.
Exemplary attributes: A child's future depends on the parent's present
The best education is to lead by example.
Willing to use self-discipline to bless his life.
Because, the child's self-discipline,
From hearing and leading by example.
Want to change your child's habits,
I'm going to start by changing myself.
Reading can improve comprehension and exercise the mind;
Exercise can maintain good health and temper the spirit;
I read, exercise, and improve myself with self-discipline.
Guide the child as gently as the water,
The child will pay attention to me,
Imitate my every move;
Or slap me with a tender little hand,
Remind me where it's not good enough.
I want to be the compass of a child's life,
In a good family atmosphere,
Set an example by your own behavior.
With a lifetime of strength,
Promote children's independence and self-reliance and realize their dreams.
Trust attributes: Trust is the raw material for children to build happiness
Trust and betrayal,
Not as far away as the stars in the sky,
It's two trees that go side by side,
Step by step.
In front of the child, I will always walk on the side of trust.
I believe in the potential of children,
Don't impose too much on him,
I know
If the child feels untrusted,
Interest will dry up and lose room for growth;
I guard the innocence of my children,
He will not be punished for his fairy tales.
Imagination will disappear,
Lose your inner world full of fantasies.
Children who can't be trusted,
It's like a piano with broken strings,
There is no life.
I'm trying to avoid that.
Resolutely on the side of the child,
Never let the child bear the pain of being denied and questioned.
I told myself:
Whenever and wherever,
When the child walks forward and turns back,
I must be able to see my eyes of complete trust.
Communication attributes: Good communication can empower children
Words are the pictures of the mind,
Very important for children.
Willing to listen, give back, communicate.
Willing to understand the child's view of the world,
It was as if I was TA.
Never try to save trouble, try to be easy,
Throw the child aside,
Cause parent-child in addition to discipline,
Speechless.
And never just argue with your spouse,
Presenting a bad communication scenario,
Make the child close the door of the heart,
Increasingly introverted, silent, and repressive.
Children fit into the world,
It's a process of continuous practice.
I will try to communicate with my spouse cooperatively.
Because I know,
This is beneficial to improve the child's emotional intelligence;
I will also communicate,
The Church TA remains just rightly dull.
Life is full of imperfections,
Maintaining a moderate degree of slumber will make you happier.
I'm so closely related to my kids.
When a relationship breaks,
We all feel lonely and helpless.
I want my child to enjoy a relaxed communication atmosphere,
No burden, no pressure, no harshness.
Every word we say while we're chatting,
Can become a clue to the happiness of the TA later.
Stable attribute: Be an emotionally stable parent
Deal with your own negative emotions,
It is the basis for effectively educating children.
Never let him be afraid of me.
Let the child be afraid, panic,
Not for the purpose of education.
I will keep a quiet heart,
Tie up the hungry wolf of "Rage";
Do not let it escape from the reins of reason,
Devour the joy of the child.
More lethal than a tantrum,
It is the cold violence of the parents.
Because
Children need to grow up in a stable, peaceful, and well-intentioned environment.
If you really can't control it,
Yell at the child, don't blame yourself,
I will turn self-blame into motivation,
Strive to cultivate a big heart,
Let the children be with me every day,
Both feel enough stable love.
Respect attributes: A good education is to impress the child's heart
Respect is the most precious gift that parents give to their children.
I will not accuse him in person and discuss his strengths and weaknesses.
The child is an independent individual,
I will respect his private property,
Respect his friends and identify with his emotions.
even though
Some of the words and deeds of children seem to me to be very childish,
I'm going to reduce preaching, too.
Try to understand the problem from his or her perspective.
Heart for heart,
Let the child feel the resonance of the depths of the soul,
such
He will be willing to act according to my expectations.
Remember not to scold and punish children in public,
With respect and equality,
to maintain the innocence of the child.
When he or she is in an equal and friendly environment,
In order to cultivate a confident and sound personality.
The future will also grow confident, positive, sunny.
Acceptance attribute: Support children to find their own love
Accept the imperfections of children,
Everything is the best gift for parents.
I can also hear the child's voice in time,
Positively,
With a heart of total acceptance,
Give your child the greatest sense of security.
I promise, starting today,
I don't do it because the child doesn't meet my expectations.
Refusal to affirm TA;
It's not because the child is different from me.
Refusal to acknowledge discrepancies.
No child is perfect,
Accept imperfections,
In order to better promote children to perfection.
The child may just be an ordinary person,
But in my eyes,
TA is unique and irreplaceable.
I will support children to try various interests,
Allowing them to explore the vast world,
I hope
My children are able to accept deeply,
Achieve the transcendence of life.
Growth attributes: Parents should grow up with their children
Just to pile up wealth for children,
It doesn't drive them to be motivated.
I love my children dearly, so I know,
Leave children with productive, sustainable wealth,
in order to be truly responsible for their whole life.
When getting along,
I will set clear little goals for my child,
Rather than describing an illusory future,
A clear destination,
Can make children more confident;
Children are more active,
Parents will also be more relaxed.
I will give him a lot of sincere encouragement,
More than encouraging his merits,
More will affirm his efforts,
Even if the effort does not get good results,
I'm going to praise it too.
Make sure your child turns back,
I can always see my encouraging smile.
If I find,
My education is not the right way,
I will sincerely apologize to the child.
After all, everyone is a parent for the first time,
Mistakes are inevitable.
I believe
The child can understand my difficulty,
Because children who grew up in a positive, friendly family,
Have a more open-minded heart.
the process of education,
It should be a win-win situation.
I don't have to sacrifice my interests too much,
Nor will it sacrifice the interests of the child,
Children and me,
should stand on the same front,
Our real "enemy",
It is the cost of living and the transcript.
Parents and children help each other and resist the enemy together;
Only "home" has real cohesion, full of hope and light.
Independent attributes: Moderate laissez-faire can learn to be independent
All child-centered behavior,
It's all a sign of coddling.
So I will never coddle him,
Instead, teach them self-love.
The happiness of coddling can only last for a while;
The happiness of self-love can accompany the child throughout his life.
I will give my children pocket money,
But not to give too much,
For my purpose,
Is to develop a good view of money;
I will give the child freedom,
Allow him to moderately "grind foreign workers",
Children have their own rhythm,
Moderate laissez-faire can learn to be independent.
I will allow my child to leave their parents and expand their social circle.
I want him to make friends with his peers,
Let the vitality and innocence of children,
Immortal in TA.
Write at the end:
The ability of a hundred-year-old tree man is like walking,
It takes repeated practice to be able to walk like a fly.
I promise,
I will give my children a warm and relaxed family environment,
Do not hesitate to express my love for children,
Care for children, trust children, understand children,
Give your child a solid sense of security and self-confidence.
Take off under the protection of your parents,
Fly to higher, higher places,
ultimately
Have a piece of the sky of your own.
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Author: Miss Mang Lai, a national second-level psychological counselor, senior male and female observers, has published "Girl, Live An Atmosphere Is Wonderful Enough". Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.