Don't let "scientific parenting" make yourself anxious! Before my child was born, I thought, "Well, that's my standard for carrying a baby in the future!" "After actually practicing, I found these standards really difficult! No matter how hard you try,
I want to state that I am not refuting "scientific parenting", about scientific parenting what does not give babies to drink water, children in the month should hold less to prevent the formation of hugging sleep, four months to quit night milk, six months to eat thin paste, seven months to eat thick paste, August to eat fine particles.... (10,000 words omitted here) can be systematically referenced, but do not take it as a standard is
Take the question of whether babies want to drink water or not! At present, the common view of popular science is that children do not need to drink water before six months of food.
Why?
Because the water in breast milk and milk powder is sufficient, the baby's stomach capacity is small, the kidneys and excretory system are not well developed, and drinking more water will increase the burden on the kidneys and even cause water poisoning. Moreover, drinking water is easy to occupy the stomach and lead to a decrease in milk, which will cause malnutrition over time.
"No need" is unnecessary and does not mean rigorous. Appropriate amounts of hydration are required, such as dry lips, dark urine (colorless or light yellow is normal) or low urine output, or medical advice if your baby is unwell.
So it seems that the fact that babies can't drink water is not absolute! In fact, as the baby grows up, we encounter many similar problems. I really felt too tired and exhausted. I began to be lazy and learned to go to the Buddha to tie the baby, and suddenly I found that it was more scientific to raise children, and the Buddha tie baby made me and the baby easier and happier.
I suddenly realized that there are thousands of people, life is varied, and there are standards for being a person. Every baby has his own personality and habits, requiring himself and the baby to raise children scientifically, so what is the difference with test-taking education? not? Is copy and paste really what you want?
Why keep learning new knowledge and achieve scientific parenting? Instead of following the parenting style of the older generation?
Because parenting goals have changed. In the past, when you couldn't even eat enough, the goal of parenting was to "survive". If you can't feed breast milk smoothly, you may feed porridge water or drink milk powder with an imperfect formula early, after all, it is already very difficult to survive
Improper feeding may not have immediate adverse consequences, but over time it will show physical and intellectual retardation, increased morbidity and mortality, affecting the development of intellectual potential, and decreasing learning, work and reproductive ability. Elders often say that children can grow up no matter how they are raised, but growing up is not equal to physical and mental health, and it is right to believe that science is correct in modern society.
After reading books, reading various articles, paying attention to many public accounts, and practicing in my own children, the experience is summarized as follows:
1. Babies within three months should not be trained and fed as needed. Some parents are too real, look at the time is not fed, resulting in children's weight can not keep up with the abound, but it does not mean that a cry to feed, first see if it is poop? Are you sleepy? Is it hot and cold? All ruled out should be hungry.
2. Breastfeeding, although it can effectively stop crying, but if the above reasons are still not solved, temporarily do not cry, a while will have to be uncomfortable. It is also easy to overfeed, children are overweight, and have indigestion.
3. After three months or a hundred days, the schedule is transformed into three hours to eat and sleep cycle, the most important thing is to wake up and eat first, eat and play, play tired and sleep, eat and sleep as far as possible, of course, occasionally crash on the time to let him sleep.
4. Don't be anxious, gradually and regularly according to the child's actual situation, but may not be so punctual. The child is not a soldier, does not know the watch, and cannot have to go to the point to do something. Our children just love to play, more than two months can play for two hours before sleepy, the spirit is big, he does not want to sleep, you insist that he sleep is impossible, he is sleepy, you look at the watch, it is impossible for him to play. I also made this mistake a little bit before, and I was in a hurry with the child, there was no need.
5. Grasp the sleep signal, yawn and rub your eyes is sleepy, you can start bedtime steps, pull the curtains, put white noise or music, put a sleeping bag, pacifier, pat and coax, etc. It takes about twenty minutes to coax into a nap, and it will take a little longer at first.
Some old people have said that if you don't sleep for half a day, you are not tired! Let him play tired and then sleep, it is often difficult to fall asleep. Everyone thinks that when you are particularly tired for a day, your brain is a mess, and it is very uncomfortable to be tired and can't sleep, right, let alone a small baby.
There are hundreds of different theories about parenting styles, babies can't speak, so any way is not absolute, individual differences and different conditions may produce different results. It is the first time to be a mother, the baby is also the first time to be a baby, we are slowly groping together on the road to growth.