one.
When I was very young, I often heard my big sisters talk about what kind of man I wanted to find, what kind of wedding I wanted. Then how to live your own little life, that look of longing and intoxication. The ideal is very full, the reality is very bone. When they actually got married, their statements changed dramatically.
The person is still that person, but the identity rises from "couple" to "couple". Is there anything different? How could he be so blind that he didn't even dare to face it? Finally, I have to admit: after marriage, a place of chicken feathers flew into the sky.
two.
Streamers are easy to throw people away, red cherries, green plantains. Outside the siege, I looked at the sentient beings inside the besieged city. There are some harmonious husbands and wives, and there are many contradictions between husband and wife. But if you can get by, you won't think of "divorce".
You will find that there may not be a direct relationship with "love". Less husband and wife, this "companion" is not something that ordinary people can do. Moreover, the biggest concern is not that it can't go on – but that can we find a better one after a divorce? No one is 100% sure about this. The two interests take the weight, and the two interests take the lighter. Forget it, that's it. But the crisis of marriage still exists. Once it breaks out, it will still hurt the bones and bones, destroy the liver and lungs.
three.
There are many kinds of marital crises, such as the boycott of family members, and the fact that the couple is not human inside and out. This side is affection, that side is love, it is difficult for you to take care of it. Another example: work has constraints, and stagnation in the bottleneck period. There is no distinction between public and private, and there are often cases where work affects life. There is a lot of noise and noise, and the degree of emotional damage can be imagined. Another example: one of the spouses has domestic violence, which is not a statement of "one willing to beat one and one willing to be beaten". Baidu science yourself, thank you.
Of course, the most unacceptable thing is the appearance of a third party. This is to directly destroy the happiness of the family, which can be tolerated and what is intolerable? Neither physically nor mentally can be forgiven casually. There is a difference between only one time and countless times, so please consider it carefully.
shop.
Well, the non-principled causes of these principles are all ruled out. Is marriage about equal to happiness? No, no, no, the crisis still exists. Such a ubiquitous "crisis", it is not fatal. But day after day, year after year, is enough to break you down. This is what we often call "trivial".
Life is troublesome and trivial, and there are countless trivial things. For example, the husband never pays attention to cleaning up and confusing things; for example, the wife always buys and buys for herself but does not care that the husband's clothes are torn; for example, the husband always throws soot to the wife's beloved orchid, and pours endless tea into the flowerpot...
Pretty trivial isn't it? But if you don't like it, you don't like it; even if you object, the other party still can't change it, or even intensify it.
five.
No wonder, many people are now afraid of marriage. It is possible to be in love, to be happy and to be happy. But when it comes to getting married, there are various reasons to quit. Is marriage really the "graveyard" of love? It shouldn't bring greater happiness, so how can it make you have more concerns?
The wind and snow moon are indeed very beautiful, which is the romance and beauty that love will inevitably bring. Pots and pans are equivalent to removing the romantic "filter". Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, even if you don't need to think about economic problems. Just these trivial and broken things, it is supposed to be handled well, and it is very frustrating to deal with them poorly. Over time, a crisis is formed.
END。
Life is trivial, like all kinds of obstacles in the process of passing through. Solve it, all roads can lead to happiness.
Back to reality, back to life, this also has the fireworks of the world that fascinate you! (Text/Drifting Yu tong)
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