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Aunt Shen recently had a bad incident at home, which made the chickens and dogs in the family restless, and the cause of the incident was a deposit slip of 200,000 yuan.
Aunt Shen's wife has passed away, and she still has a son and a daughter under her knees, and she is now living with her son. Aunt Shen herself also has a retirement salary, and life is not a problem. She understands her son's hardships, every month's retirement salary is handed over to her son, and she keeps some pocket money in her hands, and her life has been very moist.
Aunt Shen had a deposit of 200,000 yuan in her hand, and she let her daughter take her to save it regularly. This was her savings for many years, and she never told her son, because she felt that it was her own money, and she had every right to dispose of it, and there was no need to tell her son.
Some time ago, the son wanted to start his own business, and he still lacked some start-up funds on hand, so he asked Aunt Shen if he had spare money to support some, and Aunt Shen still did not tell her son that she had this money in hand, and she took this money as her own life-saving money, in case she got sick in the future, there were more places to spend money.
One day the daughter came to see her, and when she was chatting, the daughter said that she wanted to change the school district house, and asked Aunt Shen if she could borrow the 200,000 yuan to buy a house first, but Aunt Shen refused. During the conversation, the daughter-in-law overheard and told her son about it.
The son was very dissatisfied, he felt that his mother did not trust him, to prevent himself from being like a thief. Why did the daughter know about the money, but he didn't know anything.
Aunt Shen explained that she did not tell her daughter specifically, but only because it was the business that her daughter took herself to do, so she would know the money, and she did not give this money to her daughter, which was reserved for herself to respond to.
The son was even more angry after listening to the explanation, saying that in her heart, the son was so unreliable? If she still has to keep money to see herself, is she really sick and will let her son go unchecked?
The two people you come and go, the more you talk the more angry, Shen Dama got angry to get her daughter's home to live, not seeing the heart is not bothered.
I didn't expect to be able to live in my daughter's house, and although my daughter didn't ask for it directly, she was tempted between words. One will say how difficult it is to go to the current school, there is no grandchildren outside the school district, and the other will say that the efficiency of the unit is not good now, and how nervous it is at hand.
The meaning expressed in the open and in the dark is that I hope that my mother can take out the money to borrow her. Aunt Shen pretended not to understand the stubble, and her daughter's face was not very good-looking.
Aunt Shen now regrets it so much that she should not have let her daughter accompany her to do this in the first place, so that she would not have these troubles now, she said:
"Originally, I thought that saving a pension money would make my life more secure in my old age, but I didn't expect to be known by my children, but it made me uneasy."
Knowing this, you should not tell them that leaving a certain amount of privacy is the best protection for yourself, after all, parents and children may not be able to withstand the test of money. ”
These words are full of wisdom in life, and they also remind many people that when people are old, it is not a bad thing to properly retain a little privacy, but to leave a way back for themselves.
The troubles encountered by Aunt Shen have also been encountered by many elderly people, and in their old age, should they tell their children about their savings?
Some people think that it should be said that they are all family, mutual trust is the most basic, anyway, this money must be left to the children in the end. Some people think that it should not be said, after saying it, the children will remember that sooner or later they will have to leave, and it is not good to give or not to give at that time, which will only increase their troubles.
This problem is very simple, the old man's savings are accumulated by themselves for a lifetime, they have complete right to dispose of it, for the children, this money actually has nothing to do with them. As for whether to say or not, the children who do not care about this money, do not care at all whether you say it or not, and the children who are worried about this money, then they must not say.
Human nature is the most untested, and money is the most effective touchstone. After the children know the old man's savings, it is both sides that are tested.
When the children know, they will easily use this money as a way out, as a last resort, if something really happens and you are not willing to help, then they will inevitably feel resentment, and in the days to come, they may not be wholeheartedly committed to you.
In this way, your later life will also have less peace of mind and security.
Instead of letting the two sides fall into such a stalemate, it is better for both sides to be confused, the elderly do not say, the children do not ask, give each other a decent space, and also complete a stable old age for the elderly.
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