01
Some wise men have said that they are calm in gaining, and they are indifferent to losing, fighting for their inevitable, and going with the flow.
These are the four realms of life, but most people can't even reach any one of them throughout their lives. This is not a problem of one person, but a problem of mentality of the whole environment.
You are calm, but others regard you as an enemy, you have no choice; you are calm, but others will squeeze you, so that you have to become entangled and angry.
You don't care about being a person, but you still need to be involved in endless competition, still painful; you want to live naturally, but the environment is still impetuous, then you can only forget your pursuit.
What is "people in the jianghu, involuntarily"? It is that you want to live for yourself, but the result is that you do not even have the ability to choose your own "heart".
Taking the point of "contention", how should we deal with the problem of "contention"?
The practice of 80% of people is to "fight" for everything, regardless of whether it belongs to people and things that do not belong to them, they must "fight" to come and say it again. In the end, they will all live a depressed life.
The practice of 20% of people is to "fight" for what belongs to them, and give up everything that does not belong to them. Happy and contented, contented and happy for a lifetime.
In these few things, no matter how much people fight, they will not be able to fight for the sky.
02
It does not belong to your "fate", and it is useless to fight.
Dependent arising comes to you, and dependent arising returns with you. The fate that affects our whole lives is the real fate. And the rest of the fate is just someone else's fate.
At this point, we only need to think about the "find the object" thing to understand.
Some people don't belong to you in the first place, but you still fight for it, and in the end, both sides can't even be friends. And some people belong to you, so even if you are calm, he will come to your side, marry you, and spend your life together.
This is what we often say: "There is a reason to meet thousands of miles, and there is no reason not to meet on the other side." ”
Some men are southerners and could not have married a northern wife, but he ended up marrying. This is the fate of the mountains and the sea.
Some men are locals, but he can't marry the daughter of the next door neighbor, so what good result can he have in pleading?
Reaping one's own fate and letting go of one's own iniquity that does not belong to oneself is great wisdom.
03
It is useless to fight for your "wealth" that does not belong to you.
When it comes to "money", the vast majority of people hope to earn as much as possible, it is best to be rich and noble, and to be famous and glorious for a lifetime.
But are there really so many people who can get rich? If everyone can be rich and expensive, then isn't it normal to be rich and expensive?
No matter how the world changes, a small number of people are rich and wealthy, while the majority of people live an ordinary life, which is a reality that cannot be changed. To put it nicely, it's called luck. And to put it mildly, it is fatal.
Some people earn a lot of money while walking, and they have achieved a class leap. And some people walk and go bankrupt, or are cheated and embarrassed.
Just like winning the lottery, you and he both bought 100 yuan, why did you buy it for more than ten years, or didn't win the lottery, and he bought it once, you can win a few million? It's a matter of luck.
Some wealth belongs to you, and you inadvertently encounter it. Some wealth does not belong to you, even if you see it, you can't grasp it. This is not something that can be changed by "fighting".
04
The "life span" of a person's life is useless.
In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang lit the Seven Star Lantern in Wuzhangyuan to continue his life and wanted to save the Han Room. However, the result was that Wei Yan entered the tent and kicked down the Seven Star Lantern, and Zhuge Liang's soul returned to Wuzhangyuan.
This is the saddest scene in the novel, but it is also written very realistically.
In terms of "life span", it is not something that our "human resources" can change. It is true that medicine can make people live longer on average, but it does not guarantee that everyone will live to be a hundred years old.
Just like some billionaires, who have left in their fifties, can't they afford to use cutting-edge drugs? It is not that it cannot be used, but in the face of the exhaustion of life, everyone can only return to the sky and lack of skills.
The so-called "Yama King wants you to die three times, who dares to keep you until five more?" ”
It's like a car accident, it's all people sitting in the same car, why did he leave and the other person was slightly injured? This is the problem of "fate".
For the matter of life expectancy, we can be indifferent, there is no need to dwell too much.
05
The "blessings" and curses of this life are useless.
Since ancient times, we have placed special emphasis on blessings and misfortunes. Everyone loves blessings in particular, and no one likes evils. In everyday life, however, scourges account for the majority.
In a large factory layoff, Xiao Wang, who graduated from 985, was laid off, while Xiao Li of 211 remained. In this regard, Xiao Wang sighed, is this fair?
In fact, there is no unfairness, we only know that the people who are laid off are either incompetent, or have insufficient background, or have bad luck, and what can they demand?
Some people's lives are a little more suffering. And some people's lives are a little more blessed. This is not something that is useful for us to "fight."
To put it simply, two brothers bought a stock at the same time, and in the end the eldest brother earned a car, while the younger brother lost a house. Who can say this clearly?
You and I can only "fight" for everything that belongs to us. And those who can't "fight" it, just put it down. That's all.
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