There are many things that do not come to their turn, and they feel very relaxed, so they stand on the moral high ground and talk nonsense. When things take their turn, they really understand the taste of it, and only then do they know that what seems easy is not necessarily easy to do.
It is a matter of course for those who are children to support their parents, and it is also clearly stipulated by law. If the elderly are healthy and healthy, and their lives can take care of themselves, it is not very difficult to take care of. But if the elderly are sick and bedridden for many years, the work of caring for the elderly is not easy.
Some people have not taken care of the elderly themselves, thinking that taking care of the elderly is very easy, and casually accuse others of not taking good care of them. This kind of person is standing and talking without waist pain, only playing with his mouth, but there is no actual action.
In families with many children, brothers and sisters must help each other when they encounter difficulties. If the parents need to be taken care of, the brothers and sisters should work together to take care of the parents, so that the elderly can be taken care of better.
The brother-in-law took care of her father for three years, and the younger sister always felt that they were not well taken care of
Kangxin's parents arranged the marriage of their children according to the old tradition, that is, the son stayed at home to inherit the family's property, and the daughter married to the in-laws with the dowry. The son gives the parents a pension to the end, and the daughter does not need to give the parents a pension to the end, so the parents give all the property to the son.
Fast forward a few decades, Kangxin's mother has died, and her 68-year-old father has lung cancer. The eldest brother immediately took his father to the hospital, but it is not an easy task to cure a cancer, and the eldest brother has to work, take care of the family, and take care of the old father, every day is busy on all fours.
The eldest sister-in-law was distressed by the eldest brother, so she helped the eldest brother to take care of her father-in-law together. In order to facilitate the care of her father-in-law, the sister-in-law also quit her original job and changed to a job close to home. The couple accompanied their father to the hospital almost every day, and after nearly a year of tossing and turning, their father's condition stabilized.
Kangxin is the daughter who marries out, and she just sometimes goes back to see her father and does nothing else. The brother-in-law did not say anything about this, because the in-laws had clearly defined the rights and obligations of the two children early on, so the brothers-in-law knew that it was their task to send the in-laws to the elderly.
It is reasonable to say that Kangxin herself did not do anything, so she should not accuse her brother-in-law of anything. But she is good, every time she goes to see her father, she always feels that her brother and sister-in-law are not well taken care of, and if she picks this and that fault, the brother and sister-in-law are of course not happy.
After taking care of her father for three years, my brother-in-law went to the hospital for a review one day, and it turned out that my father's illness rebounded. The brother-in-law began to accompany her father to deal with the hospital every day, and after Kangxin knew about this matter, she thought that her brother-in-law would not take good care of her.
Kangxin was very resentful of her brother-in-law, and accused her brother-in-law very unceremoniously in person, and her brother-in-law was also very angry and had a big fight with Kangxin. After the quarrel, the eldest brother insisted that Kangxin take care of his father, and the old house left to him by his father, he did not want it, anyway, the old house was not worth a few dollars.
Kangxin didn't expect her brother and sister-in-law to do this, and she was dumbfounded. Next, Kangxin can only take care of her father, busy in the hospital every day, and she understands what it is like to take care of a cancer patient.
Because of the physical pain, my father was in a very bad mood, so he took the carnation out of the air every day. Sometimes, the father also deliberately overturned the meal, or threw away the medicine, etc., and Kangxin was tortured to the bone. Treating his father's illness, his father's retirement salary is a complete drop in the bucket, and Kangxin has to pay for it out of his own pocket.
Because of taking care of her father, Kangxin couldn't work at all, and she couldn't even take care of the family's affairs. The husband was very dissatisfied, and quarreled with Kangxin at both ends for three days, and the son also had a very good opinion on Kangxin.
Kangxin finally deeply realized that it was not easy for her brother and sister-in-law, they took care of their father for three years, and they only took care of them for two months, and they felt that they could not continue. She called her brothers and sisters-in-law, apologized to them, and begged them to forgive herself.
The eldest brother said that Kangxin did not want to take care of her father and wanted her brother and sister-in-law to take over again, so she pretended to apologize. The eldest brother insisted that Kang Xin continue to take care of her father, although the daughter was married, she should also take care of her sick father.
Later, not long after her father died, Kangxin felt sad on the one hand, and on the other hand, she felt that she was finally liberated. When her father left, Kangxin returned her father's old house to her brother-in-law and once again solemnly apologized to her brother-in-law.
For the death of his father, his brother-in-law's heart was also very sad, and he did not bother with Kangxin anymore. The two brothers and sisters handled their father's affairs together, handled it decently, and the two families finally reconciled.
People should learn to think in empathy, and they should be more considerate and tolerant of others
There are many people like Kangxin in life, and when it comes to taking care of the elderly, they do nothing themselves, but they are very demanding of others. This kind of person is to see people take on the burden of hard work, point out what to ask others, but when it is actually their turn to do it, they are far less good than others.
Long-term care for the elderly is not an easy task, let alone the elderly with cancer? It is really not easy to help him heal, to serve his diet and living, and to endure his bad mood due to illness.
People must learn to think in a different position, not only from their own standpoint to see the problem, but also for the sake of others. When brothers and sisters take care of the elderly, they should work together to take care of the elderly. Brothers and sisters should also learn to think in a different position, be more tolerant of each other, and be less calculating.
According to the old tradition, daughters are married, and parents are sent to the end by their sons. But now the law stipulates that both sons and daughters have the right to inherit and have the obligation to support their parents. In the matter of taking care of parents, every child has an obligation and should do his or her best to take care of his parents, which is the duty of a human child.
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