The survey found that children after the age of 10 do not like to have a younger brother or sister because their various habits have long been fixed, and it is difficult to adapt to the life of multiple families.
The two-child families around everyone, how many years are their children separated?
Sugar mother has seen most two-child families, the age difference between the two children is about 3 years old, whether it is a brother and sister combination or a brother and sister combination, their relationship can be said to be "love and kill each other".
However, the feelings between children are different from those seen by parents. When encountering special circumstances, the intimacy brought about by blood relations can be reflected.
The difference of 20 years old brother and sister is "isolated" together, and the details of life are very warm
Recently, a pair of siblings encountered some minor difficulties, because of the epidemic, they need to be isolated for a period of time. Instead of being with her mother, my sister chose to be in the same room as my brother.
This means that a 25-year-old brother with no experience with a baby will spend 14 days in the same room with his 5-year-old sister.
With a special experience in the special period, the brother thought of shooting a video to record his life, and it can be seen that at first he was still a little surprised and worried, not knowing what his sister would do in the next few days.
Unexpectedly, the isolation life of the brothers and sisters was unexpectedly very warm, and when the brother uploaded the picture of the brothers and sisters getting along to the Internet, it quickly became popular.
At first, the younger sister was a little anxious because of her mother's separation, and after the brother found that his sister was not in good shape, he began to take care of his sister more carefully.
The brother will help his sister wash and comb her hair, although the movements are a little clumsy, but you can see that the brother is very hard and careful.
Soon, the younger sister was no longer anxious and adapted to the life of being alone with her brother, and while the brother became more mature, he found that his sister also had a "big change in temperament".
I thought that brothers and sisters would "chicken fly and dog jump" when they got along, but I didn't expect my sister's temperament to change dramatically
At first, my brother was a little worried about being isolated from his sister because his sister was usually very disobedient at home. It was a surprise when my sister chose to isolate with herself. Presumably, he already flashed a lot of pictures of "chicken flying dog jumping" when taking the baby.
But after a few days, the situation did not seem so bad, he thought that his sister would continue to disobey, but his sister's temperament changed dramatically. No longer as willful as he used to be at home, and he cares about his brother.
Although she needs her brother's help when eating, her sister will remind her brother to eat more vegetables and then eat well herself. If it were not for this experience, my brother might not know at home that my sister still has such a well-behaved side.
"Sister, brother, although not as gentle and thoughtful as my mother, my love for you is like a dropped pen cap, always showing the horse's feet in the subtleties." 」
The brother's words truly narrated the feelings between the two children, there are various second-child families around the sugar mother, and I have two babies myself, and I know the feelings between the children very well.
Blood is thicker than water, the second child may be jealous of each other, and there are quarrels during the growth process. But in an unfamiliar environment, they are the people who trust and rely on each other the most.
Of course, the feelings of the two children of the second child also have a lot to do with the education of the parents. Parents usually pay attention to the following things, the relationship between the second child, more loving and harmonious.
Second-child families are not necessarily "chicken flying dog jumping", and parents do this to make children feel better
When it comes to the second child, it is inevitable to think of the word "bias", in fact, the problem to be solved between the second child is not only eccentric.
The age difference between the second child is not key
In the past, everyone said that the age difference between the second child is 3 years old, so that the child has no generation gap and is easy to get along with, in fact, the relationship between children is not necessarily determined by age.
Sugar Mom has a high school classmate, in the second year of high school, learned that her mother was pregnant with a second child, angrily said that leaving this child will give up the college entrance examination.
But when the second child was born, she found that the attention she received did not decrease, and the dissatisfaction in her heart gradually disappeared, and she became very fond of her sister.
Later, on the day of the college entrance examination, the mother who was still confinement insisted on holding her sister to send her into the examination room, and the sugar mother was very impressed, which was the warmest scene in the whole examination room.
The relationship between the sisters, who are now 17 years apart, is particularly good, which has a lot to do with the parents' practice of "not reducing love".
Don't let the second child become the burden of the boss
There is also a phenomenon in two-child families, where the age difference between two children is large, and the difference between more than 20 years is also common. It is reasonable to say that around the age of 20 is already very independent and does not care about someone to share the love of their parents, but there is another problem behind it.
Many such families cannot escape an ending - the second child is equivalent to a baby born to the eldest.
Because the parents were older when they gave birth to their second child, and had to temporarily give up work to take the child, the family's financial pressure increased. Slowly, the task of raising a second child was also transferred to the boss.
What is even more difficult to accept is that many parents believe that older siblings should have a second child. Invisibly increasing the economic pressure and psychological pressure on the boss in the family, and even in the process of love and blind date, he was rejected.
Therefore, the premise of having a second child should also take into account the actual conditions at home. Otherwise, the boss's life will be affected, and the growth of Erbao will not be guaranteed.
Candy Mother's Heart:
There are many reasons to have a second child, but the phrase "having a companion" for Dabao is often untenable. Whether Dabao is a boy or a girl, couples who are ready to have a second child when the child is old must remember the above principles.
【Today's topic】Everyone around, is there a combination of two children with a relatively large age difference?