In 2010, at the age of 56, Guo Min gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses.
The birth of two children has rekindled Guo Min's hope for life.
But 3 years later, Guo Min's husband bluntly said that he wanted to give away one of his children.
3 years after giving birth to a baby, the 60-year-old woman was unable to do it
In 2014, 60-year-old Guo Min asked the media for help, hoping that someone could help her.
Guo Min and a couple of children live in a small 20-square-meter house in Changping, Beijing, which is close to the children's kindergarten and only takes more than ten minutes to walk.
The room was almost all clutter except for a large bed.
Guo Min is an old accountant, her current job is to do part-time accounting, a company charges 200 yuan, Guo Min concurrently accounted for eight companies, seeing the arrival of reporters, she did not stop the work in hand.
Guo Min's work and rest time is completely different from normal people:
Every night at ten o'clock, she coaxed the two children to bed, got up at twelve o'clock at night to make accounts, at one o'clock in the morning, the children would go to the toilet on time, did not officially go to bed until three o'clock in the morning, and sent two children to kindergarten at seven o'clock in the morning.
At the end of the day, she could only sleep five or six hours a day.
Guo Min is helpless, both children are still young, if she does not work hard, the children will not be able to live.
In July 2013, Guo Min's husband, Ren Dahua, suffered a cerebral thrombosis and has been living in his eldest son's house ever since.
Since then, the couple has lived separately, ren Dahua can not continue to work because of illness, relying on Guo Min alone to support and raise two young children.
Guo Min, who was just 60 years old, looked ten years older than his actual age.
At the age of 51, he lost his only daughter
Guo Min, a native of Ganzhou, Jiangxi Province, took her college degree when she was young and entered a small state-owned enterprise as an accountant.
After joining the work, Guo Min and his colleagues fell in love and married, and gave birth to a daughter in 1981.
In order to catch up with the tide of the times, but also to give her daughter a better material condition, in 1992, Guo Min left the state-owned enterprise where he had worked for many years and went south and north alone.
It turned out that her decision was correct, and with her own ability, Guo Min's salary was several times higher than when she was in a state-owned enterprise, and almost all the money she earned was spent on her only daughter.
In 1997, Guo Min came to Beijing, where her income was higher.
Guo Min's husband could not stand the days when the husband and wife gathered less and left more, and he persuaded his wife many times, hoping that she could return to Jiangxi and live an ordinary and stable life.
But Guo Min, who has a strong and stubborn personality, always puts her daughter first, and once she leaves Beijing, she does not have a high enough salary, which means that her daughter cannot enjoy a better life and education.
Guo Min refused her husband's request, and at the same time, she also exchanged her husband for a divorce agreement, and in 1998, the two divorced.
Since then, her daughter has become Guo Min's only spiritual pillar.
In 2001, Guo Min and Ren Dahua, a worker in Shougang, were introduced to marry.
Ren Dahua has a son, Guo Min has a daughter, and in the first few years of marriage, the two never thought of having children again.
In 2002, her daughter came to Beijing after graduating from college and found a job as a cashier with the help of Guo Min.
Guo Min is very happy, she finally has the opportunity to make up for the emotional debt to her daughter over the years.
Her daughter's time in Beijing was the happiest moment of her life, and her daughter bought Guo Min her favorite dried sweet potatoes and accompanied her to work and leave work.
At that time, Guo Min thought that his life was perfect, with a filial daughter to rely on and a wife to accompany for the rest of his life.
In 2003, my daughter, who had worked for a year, felt that her college degree had limited development and was struggling in a big city like Beijing.
After discussing with Guo Min, the daughter decided to return to Jiangxi for undergraduate studies and then return to Beijing to work.
Every time she thought of this, Guo Min regretted it, if she could foresee the future, she would rather her daughter's life be more difficult than let her return to Jiangxi.
On November 22, 2015, Guo Min, who was walking on the way to work, suddenly received a message from her daughter's aunt: her daughter died in a car accident last night!
The death of her daughter dealt Guo Min a heavy blow, she had white hair overnight, and in the following months, she was also immersed in grief:
"No one can live, their heads are exploding, they cry every day, they cry every day, and I'm all doomed."
At the age of 56, he gave birth to a dragon and phoenix fetus
About half a year later, Guo Min suddenly felt:
"You can't always live in grief, you have to find a way to get out of it."
How do you get out of grief?
Guo Min thought: Another girl!
Someone advised Guo Min to adopt a daughter, but she refused:
"I don't want to hug one, I'm so old that it's hard to hold one, and when she grows up, she runs away, she ignores me, and she goes to find mom and dad again, I can't stand it!"
"Or his own daughter kiss!"
Guo Min feels that the girl she adopts is always not close to her, even if she does not say it, when she grows up, the neighbors will tell her the truth, and when the time comes, she is likely to face the pain of losing her daughter again.
Her husband, Ren Dahua, also supported her choice in order to let her get out of the pain of bereavement as soon as possible.
But in the next two years, Guo Min's body never moved.
Just when she was disheartened, a news story rekindled her hope.
Guo Min read in a newspaper that a 60-year-old Japanese woman gave birth to a baby through test tube surgery:
"I'm six years younger than her, and I'm sure I can!"
Ren Dahua was a little worried: If his wife is so old and tossed so much, will it be dangerous to the body?
Guo Min was full of confidence:
"I'm sure it's okay, because I don't have high blood pressure, no heart disease, nothing!"
Guo Min called a doctor at a hospital, and the doctor learned of her age and hesitated:
"You are so old, it is not easy to get pregnant!"
"You want so much money, do you have it at home?"
"There is danger in having a baby!"
……
The doctor put all the problems in front of Guo Min, but Guo Min was not frightened by these problems.
The next day, she came to the hospital early in the morning, hung up the doctor's first number, and as soon as she entered, she knelt down for the doctor and prostrated her head three times:
"Please help me, be sure to help me, I must be a little girl!"
Seeing that Guo Min's attitude was so firm, the doctor agreed to her request.
Fortunately, after the examination, it was found that Guo Min's health was not bad and he had the conditions to become a mother.
After that, Guo Min has been following the doctor's instructions to adjust her body, and ten months later, she had her first surgery.
Unfortunately, the child was not saved:
Shortly after the operation, Ren Dahua rode a bicycle to take Guo Min to get an injection, and the child was gone on the way back.
Guo Min was not discouraged, and she decided to do it again.
One more surgery means paying an extra operation.
The cost of the second operation was 60,000 yuan in total, and Guo Min took out all his savings, and there was a difference of 30,000 yuan.
Guo Min borrowed money from her mother, and the old mother understood her daughter's mood:
"Forget it, don't borrow it, you can't afford it, give it to you!"
Only a month after the first failure, Guo Min was lying in the operating room again.
After the second operation, Guo Min was more cautious, she rented a house opposite the hospital, while protecting the fetus, while working, until a month after the operation, she was sure that there was no problem before she went home.
This time, Guo Min was pregnant with triplets, but unfortunately shed one.
But Ren Dahua still felt that the pressure on the two children was too great:
"Hurry up and get one, better get rid of the boy!"
"No money to buy a house!"
"If you two girls have to take one out, you don't have that much money, you can't raise twins!"
But Guo Min's ideas are different from her husband's, she and her husband are very old, have two children, let them be a companion for each other, and raising children for Guo Min, is just an extra pair of chopsticks.
She insisted on keeping her two children, and the couple argued about it every day, and after three months, as the month grew, the dispute between the two finally ended.
On April 6, 2010, 56-year-old Guo Min underwent a caesarean section at a hospital in Beijing and successfully delivered a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses.
For the sake of children, strive to live to the age of 100
Two test tube surgeries and one caesarean section almost cost Guo Min all of his savings.
How to raise this pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses has become a difficult problem in front of Guo Min.
She made up her mind to work until she was 70 and save enough for her children's tuition:
"I always think I'm only 50 years old, when I was 76, my child was 20 years old, I tried to live to be 90 years old, anyway, 80 years old is definitely no problem!" 」
But this is all Guo Min's wishful thinking, she forgot that she and her husband have entered old age, and there will be problems in the body at any time.
In July 2013, 65-year-old Ren Dahua suffered a sudden cerebral infarction and was admitted to the hospital.
A few months later, Ren Dahua was discharged from the hospital with a limp, and he was very pessimistic about his future life:
"You are so difficult, it is not easy to take two children, what should you do in the future?"
Before this, Ren Dahua did not seem to have any problems with his body, and he thought that he could at least see a pair of children going to college, and now, he sighed:
"I'm afraid it's hard now!"
In 2014, when a reporter came to interview, Ren Dahua showed some remorse.
He understood the knots in Guo Min's heart:
"After all, my eldest son is not her own, and she will have a companion in Beijing alone in the future."
But no one expected that the illness would come like a mountain, and a brain infarction would completely destroy his health.
After a period of recuperation, Ren Dahua's health improved, but he could no longer move as freely as before.
Before getting sick, the two took care of the children together, sent the children to and from kindergarten together, and the economic pressure and life pressure were not so great.
But now that the two live separately, Guo Min alone bears the burden of raising two children, and Ren Dahua himself needs his son to take care of him.
Ren Dahua has been a worker all his life, the economy is not rich, and raising two children is very stressful.
The only real estate, Ren Dahua has long been transferred to the eldest son, and now the eldest son is 36 years old, not yet married, the economy is also very poor, can only take care of the sick Ren Dahua, guo min mother and son three have a weak heart.
When the reporter asked him: What are your plans for the future of the two children?
Ren Dahua shook his head busily:
"I don't dare think about it now, I can't think so far, I can't live that long!"
Ren Dahua even proposed to the kindergarten teacher that he wanted to send away a child.
But as soon as he heard this, Guo Min's face immediately became difficult to see, and he pulled the children away from the stepson's house.
In order to raise a baby, a penny is broken into blossoms
Today's Ren Dahua, although he has a heart, he can't give a penny to Guo Min, because his monthly drug costs need more than a thousand yuan, and Guo Min can only support his two children on his own.
After sending her children to kindergarten every morning, Guo Min began a full day's work.
At noon, a pack of instant noodles was her lunch, and she continued to work after eating.
Sometimes being too busy, or going to various companies to collect accounts, will delay the pick-up of children.
The kindergarten teacher said that other children would be at home on weekends and accompanied by their parents, but Guo Min's children were in kindergarten almost every day, and only Chinese New Year's Eve and the first day of the Chinese New Year were at home.
Economically, Guo Min is even more able to save the province.
Guo Min's monthly pension of 1700 yuan, part-time work 1800 yuan, these money, must be carefully calculated:
She controlled the monthly food expenses of herself and her two children to less than 600 yuan, and the ten yuan pork belly was eaten twice, once a week;
More than ten yuan to buy a fish of less than three pounds to eat for a month: eat head and tail for a week, the meat in the middle is divided into three sections, and eat one paragraph every week;
In order to save money, she sent her children to a kindergarten dedicated to receiving the children of migrant workers, and rented a house nearby, renting 600 yuan per month...
In this way, Guo Min has a balance of 500 yuan per month, but she does not dare to move this money, and she has to deal with unexpected situations at any time.
Guo Min also no longer expects her two children to go to college:
"The university's living fees, study fees, where there is so much (money) ah, you simply can't (afford), tens of thousands!" Two children, I can't afford it! ”
After Ren Dahua fell ill, Guo Min had already planned the future for his two children:
"After graduating from junior high school, go directly to technical school, and then graduate and look for a job!"
On the other hand, Ren Dahua did not consider the future of his children at all, he could not even take care of himself, and he only had four words for his children:
"Resign yourself to fate!"
The stubborn Guo Min never considered the problems he would face in the future before giving birth
Ren Dahua said that Guo Min has a firm personality, works decisively, and must be done with determination, and is very stubborn, originally bent on giving birth to a child, and never considered the problems after giving birth to a child.
Zhang Yue, the host of the Central Television Station, also asked Guo Min a few questions.
Zhang Yue: "When you first wanted these two children, did you consider the problems you might face in the future?" ”
Guo Min: "No. ”
Zhang Yue: "If you want a child, you must be able to afford to raise it, and the financial difficulties are difficult, did you think about it at the beginning?" ”
Zhang Yue: "Physically?" Because of the age, raising a child is very tiring, especially when you know that it is twins, with two children, young people are choking enough, you are so old, physically can't stand it, did you think about it at the time? ”
Zhang Yue: "Because the age difference is too large, young parents can accompany their children to grow up and communicate with their children, and it may be difficult for you to accompany them. ”
Zhang Yue: "The children are a little older, they are in kindergarten, other people's parents are very young, their parents (in age) are very similar to grandparents, other children will feel that they are different, they may be uncomfortable or inferior, have you thought about this?" ”
Zhang Yue: "You are so old that when you have to give up, you may have a minor child, did you think about it at that time (before giving birth)?" ”
Zhang Yue: "Now the children are still young, they still listen to you, when the children are thirteen or fourteen years old, it is the age of rebellion, and when you are seventy, how do you cope?" How do I communicate with them? ”
Guo Min: "I didn't think about it." ”
Zhang Yue: "If it is true that if the child is underage at that time, is there anyone who can be entrusted to your relatives, friends, and interpersonal relationships?" ”
Guo Min said that she was bent on having another daughter, all the problems did not think about, she just kept stressing that she worked for another ten years, we must rely on her own ability to give her children a good future.
Zhang Yue asked again, "How do you want these two children to grow up well?" ”
Guo Min said:
"I want to raise my children on my own, but I most hope that well-wishers and schools can sponsor my children to go to school, from elementary school, junior high school, high school to live in school, and solve all their learning expenses, that is the best and best." 」
In 2017, Guo Min suffered from a lacunar cerebral infarction due to overwork and irregular work and rest.
The following year, Guo Min's husband died of a previous cerebral infarction.
Guo Min had to let go of her previous stubbornness and reconsider her child's future, and she even asked the child if she would like to live in a rich man's home.
On the other hand, Guo Min no longer insists on the idea of working for ten years and saving enough money for her children to go to school, she quit her part-time job, paying more attention to her body, hoping to spend more time with her children.
As an old man who has lost his independence, Guo Min's urgent desire for a child is understandable.
Guo Min does love her two children, but before that, she has never carefully considered the future of her children, nor has she ever considered what her children need most.
The questions Zhang Yue asked Guo Min, although they would be uncomfortable, hoped that every parent who planned to have a child at an older age would see it and then make a final decision.