In April 2010, a 56-year-old pregnant woman gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses in a hospital in Beijing.
When the children were 4 years old and attended kindergarten, the mother Guo Min and the children were crammed into a 10-square-meter rental house.
Guo Min has gray hair and a thin body, and every day she gets up, she has to dress her children.
The eldest is the older brother, named Ren Jiabin, and the younger is the younger sister, named Ren Jiayi,
Since her husband had a sudden brain infarction in 2013, Guo Min has taken on the heavy responsibility of taking the child alone.
Every morning, the children will eat a loving breakfast prepared by their mother, eggs and milk and ham sausages.
And Guo Min himself casually ate yesterday's leftovers.
According to Guo Min, their daily food expenses were only 20 yuan at that time, and the three people were 600 yuan a month.
Although she looks relatively poor to outsiders, she feels that her children are very healthy.
And the living habits are also very good, since the brother accidentally broke his head, Guo Min quickly moved away from the original place with the child.
At that time, the rent of their house was 400 yuan per month,
Every morning, Guo Min held the hands of the two children tightly and sent them to the kindergarten.
The child is studying in a private kindergarten, and it is only 400 yuan per person to take care of it.
After sending off the children, Guo Min hurried to start her own work, and she worked as a part-time accountant in a company.
In 1992, with the development of the market economy, China set off a wave of going to the sea, Guo Min also joined the wave, Guo Min's hometown in Jiangxi, after continuous travel, she finally came to Beijing, this stay is decades.
Although Guo Min and her children both have Beijing hukou, this exhaustive life has not made them feel any different.
As a part-time accountant, Guo Min can get 300 yuan per month, although the salary is not high, but in addition to paying wages, most of the work Guo Min can be completed at home, and the independence of time gives her full freedom, so she has done a total of 6 such jobs.
After settling the salary in the company, Guo Min and the boss can say hello and leave, and after her boss knows Guo Min's situation, he will always help her from time to time.
Because of her limited salary, Guo Min's every penny is meticulous, she never takes her children to restaurants to eat, and every meal is made by herself.
Under the media reports at that time, nearby residents almost all knew Guo Min, so they could also bring her some benefits. Go to the supermarket to buy things, sometimes the boss will not want money directly if the money is less.
She sometimes wanted to buy fish for her children to supplement nutrition, but at that time, four or five pounds of grass carp would make her feel very expensive.
Guo Min through 6 part-time jobs, the actual monthly income of 3925 yuan, in addition to the rent, water and electricity living expenses tuition, etc., she can save 900 yuan per month, of course, the premise is that she and the child can not get sick, this meager 900 yuan, at that time can almost be said to be Guo Min and the child's future life of all the hope.
Because life is not easy, so she is eager to break every penny into two halves, she rarely buys herself anything, a pair of shoes she can wear for 5 years.
The clothes she wears are almost all given by others, in her sixties, her peers may have been full of children and grandchildren, but Guo Min is still running for life all day, and at the age when she should be a grandmother, Guo Min has just become a mother.
At that time, whenever she thought of this, she would sigh heavily in her heart,
In fact, it turned out that Guo Min had also been a mother very early, and her daughter's photos had been well preserved by her.
However, because he chose to go to the sea at that time and did not care too much about his children, his daughter unfortunately died in a car accident, and as his only child, his daughter's departure brought a heavy blow to Guo Min. After all kinds of thinking, Guo Min finally chose to regenerate the child through embryo transfer.
Guo Min thought that he only had a daughter, but he did not expect that God would give her a son, a person in her sixties, who after the birth of two new lives, once again ignited the hope of life.
Although the operation cost her a full 80,000 yuan and the pension money of her 80-year-old mother, Guo Min still felt that it was worth it.
Treating these two hard-won children, Guo Min's heart is incomparably loving, she rarely scolds children, and every time she is soft after the child admits her mistake,
The only time to do it, or because the child picked up the sugar on the ground to eat, because Guo Min never bought snacks for the child, one is to let the child develop good habits, and the other is because she is not rich, so she sees the child picking up the candy to eat and feels very angry, so she hit him, hit the child, and hurts in the mother's heart.
Therefore, although the child has no snacks to eat and no comfortable big house, Guo Min still uses his thin body to give the child as much love as possible.
Originally life was already very difficult, and later because the kindergarten where the child was located was operated without a license, it was ordered to be closed by the superior, so Guo Min had to find another one for the child, because she had to work a lot of jobs, so the child needed full care. But the first problem of full care is expensive, Guo Min's jurisdiction has a total of 61 kindergartens, including 14 public and 47 private, these are registered regular kindergartens, although the two children's previous kindergartens do not have licenses, there are many safety hazards, but the monthly custody fee of 400 yuan, or Let Guo Min choose it without hesitation.
In order to solve the child's problem, even if sitting on the bus, Guo Min holds a bunch of enthusiastic people to help sort out the information, some 4000 per month, some 3000, looking at this one than a high custody fee, Guo Min's heart is even heavier. One child wants so much, where can she afford two children, although Guo Min still has the last straw in her hand, she is still unwilling to move.
In 2014, many well-wishers helped her raise more than 100,000 yuan after learning about Guo Min's incident, which has been placed in the China Social Aid Foundation, Guo Min planned to keep the money as the child's education expenses, although the child now needs this money, but Guo Min does not want to move it, because she has more to consider, in Guo Min's view, this money is for the child's education expenses.
But the child has just entered kindergarten, and there will be elementary school, junior high school, high school, and even college in the future, and she hopes to keep it for her children to use later.
Guo Min, who was entangled repeatedly, still inspected more kindergartens, and under her unremitting efforts, she finally found a kindergarten that she was slightly satisfied with, and the dean also warmly received her, and promised to waive the children's food and education fees, so that Guo Min only needed to pay 2,000 yuan per child every month.
Although the dean understands the difficulty of Guo Min's life, she does not agree with her approach, not to mention that two children, even one child will make adults feel that they do not have enough energy, not to mention that she is already so old, at that time, some netizens also felt that she was begging for food.
However, Guo Min herself does not see it this way, she deeply understands the mood of a mother who has lost her independence, and she has also felt the pain of losing her child, so she does not care what others think of her.
Later, Guo Min still felt that the child's tuition fees could not afford it, and had to use the donation, and the use of donations needed to be invoiced, but other kindergartens could not be opened, so she chose a kindergarten with hundreds of expensive, although in the end she had to pay 2820 yuan per person per month, which was not the full daycare she wanted, but it was already the choice she thought about it again and again.
In view of Guo Min's situation, some people have proposed the idea of adopting a child, but Guo Min has strongly refused, no matter how bitter, she will not consider giving the child away. And because he has been living with his mother, the child is not close to his father who does not raise himself.
When asked how often they saw Dad, they just talked quietly for a long, long time, as if Dad didn't have much to do with them.
Once, Ms. Liang from Guangzhou came to Beijing to see Guo Min, and like Guo Min, she was also a mother who had lost her independence, and Guo Min enthusiastically ran to the intersection to pick them up.
The two sat in Guo Min's home to promote a long conversation, for the mother's experience, Guo Min expressed great understanding, but also very sympathetic, so for Ms. Liang's every question, she seriously answered, not only enthusiastically shared experience with her, but also actively encouraged her, before leaving, in order to express gratitude, Ms. Liang specially gave Guo Min a few hundred yuan.
As an elderly mother who has lost her independence, but can bravely regenerate her children without fear of rumors, Guo Min's existence has brought hope to countless families who have lost their independence.
According to statistics, in 2013, There were more than 10 million families in China, and most of them were more than 50 years old, and after experiencing the grief of losing their children in old age, few people would choose to have children again.
Therefore, some people think that Guo Min is great because she has the courage to re-raise her life, however, more people think that she is cruel, because, maybe the child is not yet an adult, the parents are long gone, how unfair is this for the child, then, after reading the story, what do you think?