May the fireworks be peaceful and happy.
I really want to live another five hundred years!
With the well-made "Kangxi Dynasty" spread throughout the country, a majestic and exciting "Borrowing Five Hundred Years from Heaven" has also become a classic. Death is something that even emperors will fear and regret, and there are many kings who want to "live for another five hundred years" throughout the dynasties, but life, old age, illness and death are the norm of life, and no one can get rid of them.
Compared with kangxi, who wanted to borrow another five hundred years from heaven, the mother in Beijing wanted to live to be a hundred years old and watch her sons and daughters grow up healthy and start a family. In the era of late marriage and late childbearing, even if a child is born at the age of forty, the child in his sixties has grown into adulthood.
The woman was 68 years old, but her two children were only 12 years old, which meant that she gave birth to them at the age of 56. It can be said that a super-elderly mother, although she has retired, but the energy it takes to give birth to a child and raise a child, young people will feel that they cannot afford such a sweet burden, not to mention the middle-aged and elderly people whose physical functions are gradually deteriorating and their energy is poor.
But she still resolutely gave birth to them, or borrowed money to make IVF, why should she be so persistent?
She is Guo Min, she married earlier, and her ex-husband has a daughter, in order to create better living conditions for her daughter, she drifted north alone, and later because of the separation of different places, the husband and wife feelings rifted, divorced. The child was also awarded to her ex-husband, but she and her daughter remained in close contact.
At the age of 47, she met her second husband, Ren Mou, both of whom had a formal work unit, lived a good life, knew and loved each other, and finally entered the palace of marriage. Before marrying Ren, she bought a school district house in Chaoyang District, prepared to pick up her daughter to live, and imagined the future, when her daughter had a child, she would help take care of the child and enjoy the joy of the world.
But the accident is so unexpected, in 2005 when the daughter returned to her hometown to visit her father, there was a car accident, could not be rescued, saw the daughter's death certificate, she was in a trance, did not want to believe this fact.
After that, whenever I saw the house carefully prepared for my daughter, I was in pain, so I hid the key so as not to touch the scene. But even if the pain of losing her daughter is still difficult to soothe. Seeing the photos of my daughter when she was a child, I had a thought: I want to have another daughter.
This idea grew like crazy grass, occupied her brain, she traveled to many hospitals, and finally found a doctor who was willing to help her do IVF, but for a fee of 60,000 yuan, her savings were used to buy a house, no one supported her approach, only her mother could empathize, lent her 30,000 yuan, and then she borrowed a little bit and made up the money.
After many setbacks at the age of 56, she gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses. The arrival of the child made her heart empty for several years, and it was suddenly stuffed to the brim, ren also loved these two biological children from the bottom of his heart, but he had his eldest son before, who was 28 years old at the time, and also reached the age of starting a family.
Although there has been no object, but every day early out and late return, busy work, coupled with the relationship with Guo Min is general, can not stand the noise of children, Ren Mou in the city of the old house area is smaller, the two children joined, it is more crowded. So Guo Min and Ren moved to Changping District and rented a small house in the suburbs for 600 yuan.
Guo Min and Ren's retirement salaries add up to 4,000 yuan, barely able to afford their lives, but there are unexpected storms, when the child was three years old, Ren suddenly had a cerebral infarction, lived in the hospital for several months, and had to take care of her husband, and had to take care of the children, Guo Min was exhausted and collapsed.
After Ren was discharged from the hospital, she was really unable to take care of the patient, and could only let him return to her son, and his retirement salary was all invested in his medical expenses and follow-up treatment. The living expenses of Guo Min's mother and son have dropped sharply, leaving only 1700 yuan in January, rent, water and electricity, plus the food and drink of the two children, and the money is simply not enough.
She has to take care of children, can not work normally, can only desperately take over part-time, she has been engaged in the accounting industry, although retired for several years, but the professional technology has not completely fallen, on the side of some small companies to make ledgers, can be completed at home, she received 7 part-time jobs a month, plus retirement salary, at most only 3500 yuan.
And renting a house costs 600 yuan, a child in a kindergarten costs 600 yuan, milk powder costs 400 yuan... Every penny is spent on the blade, Guo Min can save four or five hundred yuan a month, but she can't move this money, afraid that the child has a headache and brain fever, and can't come up with money.
It is difficult for ordinary people to imagine that in the capital Beijing 9 years ago, this economic and political center, there was even a family, even one egg a day can not afford to eat, a fish to be divided into four parts, eat once a week, meat is even more so, but this situation happened in Guo Min's family.
However, poverty did not bring Guo Min to the point that she was still full of love for life, even if she could only sleep four or five hours a day, she would let the child's food not repeat for a week, and the nutritional combination was balanced, so that they could fully feel the beauty and surprise of life, although they were all ordinary dishes, such as dumplings, scrambled eggs with tomatoes, tangyuan, egg fried rice, etc.
Both children were tall, chubby and not malnourished. She does not require her children to have excellent grades and stand out, and even only hopes that they will go to technical school after junior high school, not because she is tired, but because she does not know how long she can accompany them, only hope that in her lifetime, they can have the ability to survive independently as soon as possible.
After her story appeared in the public eye, some media interviewed her and asked her whether the arrival of her two children offset the pain of losing her eldest daughter, she knew that it was not, the scar was still there, but the busyness of taking care of the child made her have no time to think about anything else, which was one of the reasons why she insisted on giving birth.
So it wasn't until the children were in elementary school, and in order to get a better education, she opened the school district room that had been dusty for many years and re-lived in it. Guo Min's maternal love is undoubtedly great, and the two children are well-behaved and sensible under her education.
In fact, raising children is not only a moral responsibility of parents, but also an obligation entrusted by law. Article 1068 of the Civil Code stipulates that parents have the right and obligation to educate and protect minor children. I hope that Guo Min can always be healthy, for the child, but also for herself.
(Involving privacy, the names in this case are pseudonyms, and some of the pictures are from the Internet, which only matches the narrative.) Warm reminder: respect the original, please do not plagiarize and reprint Oh. ）