The three most painful things in life are: the loss of a father in a teenager, a widow in middle age, and the loss of a son in old age. Compared with the first two cases, the degree of pain of "old age and loss of children" is more profound.
What people should enjoy most in their old age is the happiness and happiness of their children and grandchildren around their knees, and feel the liveliness and joy of family gathering together, at this time the sudden death of their children is undoubtedly a heavy blow to the elderly.
In this situation, some elderly people gradually come out of the shadows by adjusting their mentality; some elderly people are pessimistic and desperate, and lose confidence in life; and some elderly people do not admit their fate and do a series of inexplicable things.
The sixty-year-old woman could not bear the pain of losing her daughter and gave birth to a dragon and phoenix fetus, her wife was paralyzed in bed, she worked seven jobs to raise children, and her life was poor. Even so, she's optimistic, admitting, "Everything I did was worth it!" ”
Guo Min is 61 years old, is an ordinary old lady, she picks up two children on time every day to go to school and school, many people think that Guo Min is the child's grandmother, in fact, Guo Min is the child's mother.
The age difference between Guo Min and the child is 56 years, and she should have been raising her children when she was close to the age of huajia, but she chose to have children, why did she do this?
At the age of 27, Guo Min gave birth to the eldest daughter, and the couple had high hopes in the eldest daughter, and they provided superior living conditions and educational conditions for the daughter. The daughter is also very angry, and after graduating from college, the daughter found a good job in Beijing.
The daughter is young and beautiful, stable in work, self-motivated, and the future is bright. Guo Min originally thought that her daughter would live happily according to her plan, and a change made everything a disaster.
In 2005, her daughter died in a car accident, and after getting the news, Guo Min collapsed, she could not accept such a sad fact, she was heartbroken, her liver and intestines were broken, and she turned white overnight.
During that time, Guo Min suffered from the torture and suffering of "white-haired people sending black-haired people", she hated the injustice of heaven, she hated the impermanence of the world, and in the next six months she could not get out of the pain of losing her daughter.
When Everything was gray, Guo Min saw in the newspaper that a 60-year-old lady in Japan had given birth to a healthy baby, and this news suddenly made Guo Min see hope. Guo Min plans to follow the example of the Japanese old lady to have a child, and Guo Min feels that as long as she gives birth to a child, she will have spiritual sustenance.
At that time, Guo Min was 54 years old, and she consulted at a large local hospital, and the doctor said that it was quite difficult for her to get pregnant naturally, and she could consider ivory surgery. According to the hospital's previous experience, the oldest age of a woman doing IVF is forty-eight or nine years old, and Guo Min's age is too old, and the doctor refuses to operate on her.
This encounter did not discourage Guo Min from having a child, and Guo Min asked for help from another hospital. After the examination, Guo Min's physical condition is quite good, and he has the conditions for IVF, and Guo Min is overjoyed.
In the following 10 months, Guo Min cooperated with the doctor to carefully adjust her body, and she looked forward to giving birth to a healthy and cute baby as soon as possible.
Guo Min was careful everywhere, unfortunately the operation failed. Not only that, guo min and his wife almost spent most of their savings, at this time Guo Min faced a difficult choice: should she continue to do surgery or give up?
Guo Min's desire to have a child is quite strong, and she has made great efforts and sacrifices, even if she pays a big price. Guo Min borrowed 30,000 yuan from her mother, and she desperately tried to do the operation again.
The doctor implanted three embryos in Guo Min's body, and Guo Min reasonably arranged diet and exercise in strict accordance with the doctor's instructions, but even so, one embryo was not saved. The husband proposed to keep only one embryo, Guo Min insisted on leaving the two embryos, and the husband compromised.
After being pregnant in October, Guo Min successfully gave birth to two children, and it was a dragon and phoenix fetus, and Guo Min and his wife were quite happy. It is no wonder that after two years of hard work, Guo Min and his wife have paid a lot of energy, hard work and money, they have finally realized their desire to have children in old age, how can they not be happy?
Just as they were immersed in the joy of the birth of a newborn, a series of real-world problems followed, the old two were busy and tired, and their lives were chaotic.
Guo Min and his wife are very old, and they have no physical strength or energy to take care of their two children. During the day, it is good to say, at night to feed the child to change the diaper, the old two are overwhelmed and miserable.
Physical torture was secondary, and the financial burden overwhelmed them. Guo Min's pension is only more than 1,000 yuan, his wife's income is not high, they do not have much savings, these money can not maintain normal living expenses, Guo Min can only return to the old business to do part-time work.
Guo Min works part-time as an accountant for two small companies, she uses the time when the children sleep to work, she has to take the children and make money, at the end of the day she is exhausted, the whole person is not good.
When the child was 3 years old, Guo Min's wife suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage, his wife was paralyzed in bed and could not take care of himself, and he needed someone to take care of him all year round, at this time, all the burdens of the family suddenly fell on Guo Min, and Guo Min faced unprecedented pressure and challenges.
Guo Min did not give in to life, she used all her time to make money desperately, and at most she worked 7 jobs.
Guo Min usually has to take care of the child, after the child sleeps, she has time to do part-time work, she is often busy until the middle of the night, which she has long been accustomed to. In addition to her part-time job, she also picks up scraps and mineral water bottles, and as long as she can make money, she is willing to do anything.
After the child goes to school, tuition and counseling fees are a considerable expense, and Guo Min reasonably arranges daily living expenses to eliminate all unnecessary expenses. Guo Min has a wet market downstairs, and she has to go to the market a few kilometers away every day to buy vegetables, with the aim of cheaper vegetables there. Guo Min supported this family alone, how could he live without careful calculation?
Over the years, Guo Min has been thrifty and desperate to make money, she is not willing to spend money on herself, she has never saved the money she should spend on her children's education, and she has only one purpose, that is, to cultivate her two children into talents.
Neighbors think that Guo Min alone pulls two children too hard, Guo Min smiled lightly, she said: "With these two children, I am indeed difficult to be tired, but compared to the pain of the eldest daughter's death, I feel very happy and happy, everything I have done is worth it!" ”
Guo Min is very unfortunate, when she was in her 50s, she lost her daughter bitterly, she suffered from the pain and torment of "losing her son in old age", and for a long time she was passive and depressed, depressed, and lost confidence in life. Guo Min was also very lucky, when she was nearly sixty years old, she gave birth to a dragon and phoenix fetus, and with the company of two children, her life became colorful and flavorful.
Guo Min has experienced a series of life tribulations, she has become stronger and more optimistic, she hopes to create a better future for her children through her own efforts and hard work, for this goal she has been working hard.
Guo Min has put considerable effort into the two children, she is stressed, physically and mentally exhausted, does not dare to slack off, her strength and hard work are obvious to all. However, many people have this question: is it really worth it for her to do this?
Guo Min is more than 60 years old, and the elderly people of the same age as her are either dancing square dance, or playing mahjong, or sightseeing in the mountains, how to be happy. After all, they have been busy for most of their lives, and it is time to enjoy life and realize the things they wanted to do before but did not have time to do one by one, leaving no regrets in life.
But what did Guo Min do? Guo Min should have chosen to have children when she should have spent her old age, she carried a heavy burden on her back, she did not have time to sing and dance and play mahjong, nor did she have money to go shopping and watch movies to enjoy life, her time and money were spent on children, and it is no exaggeration to say that she became a "slave" to two children.
Guo Min said on her lips, "Everything I do is worth it", isn't it hard for her to take care of her children when she eats and drinks Lazar? Isn't she wronged when people are quietly beating mental work in the middle of the night? Doesn't she regret seeing her peers happy? How should she face a more difficult life in the future? Many people pinched a handful of sweat for her.
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