Did your child suddenly get so bored with school at some point that he refused to go to school?
You ask him why, he can't say, anyway, he just doesn't want to go to school.
Do you think your child is reluctant to talk to you? Not really! I have come into contact with many of these children, and when I talk to them calmly as an outsider, they still can't say why they don't want to go to school, but they are very resistant.
However, through chatting with these children, you can still find some clues, such as:
First, academic pressure
This situation generally occurs in the third stage of junior high school, because to face the middle school entrance examination, there are too many homework that needs to be reviewed, and there are unfinished homework every day. Schools and teachers, on the other hand, put pressure on students in various ways every day, some really for the good of their children, and some for the sake of further education. Some children are poorly stressed, and when they reach their own limits, they will collapse and choose to drop out of school to escape.
Second, there are contradictions between classmates
Every class is a small "society", in this class, there are rulers, there are abusers, everyone will be divided into different "gangs", once someone is "kicked out", he will be excluded in this class. Especially in a dormitory, if you isolate a person, then this person will live a very miserable life, which can only be understood after experience.
Third, the pressure given by parents
Some parents will invisibly exert pressure on their children in order to "hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes", for example, some parents will chant every day: You can study hard and go to a good school, otherwise I am really sorry for my parents' efforts over the years... Alexander is felt when a child feels that his or her abilities are unable to meet the goals set by his parents. At this time, the child is likely to break the jar and break it, and directly choose to withdraw from school, saving the need to face these pressures again.
Fourth, I don't know why I learn
Children themselves are stressed, if there is no goal in their hearts, do not know why and learn, it is easy to be affected by some information on the Internet. For example, he saw that some people can make tens of thousands of dollars a day as Internet celebrities, and he thinks this is too simple and he can do it himself. Or see the chicken soup text of "the uselessness of academic qualifications" and feel that going to school is a waste of time, so they will go down a crooked path.
The most terrible thing is that some parents can get a good diploma for their children, which is really painstaking, ruined, and uses all kinds of tricks, forcing their children to have no way out.
In fact, the school teaches only some knowledge, and what really affects our lives is often what we learn after the age of 20, and people after the age of 30 can understand. More important than school knowledge, such as the warmth of the family, the understanding of parents, the care of parents, the stability of parental relations, good communication, if these are available, your child will not be bored with school, he will not rebel, will not play with the phone every day.
What if the child has now dropped out of school and is at home, not going out and not communicating?
First, give the child "recuperation" time, not fever and cough to call sick, psychological diseases are more serious than physiological, children have psychological problems, you have to give him time to slowly recuperate, this matter can not be anxious. He wanted to play with his mobile phone, so he let him play, in fact, the child was also anxious, he just didn't say it.
Second, replace all the past communication and education methods, whether you are nagging, accusing, abusing, or directly beating, you have to completely replace, the faster you adjust your communication and education methods, the faster your child will recover. Especially strong parents, quickly put away your strength, otherwise your family happiness will be destroyed because of you.
Third, chat with children, but do not talk about learning, only talk about things when they were young, can be happy or sad, the purpose is to let children recall those childhoods without stress. Narrow the distance between the child and the child, let the child feel the love of the parents, and the child's heart disease can be cured quickly.
If your child is now in a period of boredom, or has been at home for a long time, you can leave a message in the comment area, I will help you out of the trick, think of a solution!
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