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Children's tiredness of learning has always been a headache for parents. The main manifestations of boredom with learning are unwillingness to learn, avoidance of learning, listless attendance, and failure to do homework. Talking about computers, TV series, games, talking about learning is depressed, silent, they think learning is a painful thing.
The cause of the child's boredom
1. Mistakes and deficiencies in family education
Including parents, blindly compare their children with other families, discourage affirmations, often beat, scold, insult their children, or ignore them, play games, drink, and play mahjong at home.
The rude education of parents and the family environment with bad habits, can children learn well?
2. Affected by bad social atmosphere
Do not expose children to negative words and deeds and places, close to Zhu is red, near ink is black, such as those theories that are useless to read.
3. The child's own reasons
(1) The child's physiological causes, including the child's ADHD caused by inattention; the child's poor talent, poor receptivity; the phenomenon of school aversion is caused by the child's rebellious personality and growth problems.
(2) Children's psychological reasons, including the increase in learning intensity and difficulty and psychological withdrawal; the transfer of children's interests and hobbies, playing games and playing mobile phones are more exciting, which strengthens the sense of boredom of learning.
What are the psychological manifestations of adolescents who are bored with school?
1. Due to the immature physical and mental development of adolescents and children, the pressure on schools and parents is too great, which will change children's emotions and behaviors. In today's serious exam-oriented education, adolescent students have less room for freedom, leading to insufficient communication, inhibiting all aspects of psychological difficulties, leading to introversion, attention deficits, and learning fatigue.
2. Depression is a prominent emotional problem in adolescence. Depression is the first peak of depression from childhood to adulthood, and many children have negative and relaxed thoughts. Children feel pessimistic, hopeless and inferior about their personal future. Now parents and teachers do not pay attention to changes in children's temperament, resulting in reduced communication between children, extreme psychological conflicts, depression and mild births, let alone tired of learning.
3. Adolescent sexual and psychological conflict: The survey found that the occurrence of school fatigue is related to some children who have entered puberty. When girls have menarche and boys have their first spermatogenesis, their vigilance is heightened due to neurological and endocrine effects. They worry that the school is actually a diversion defense mechanism that inhibits its potential psychological stress of "not being discovered" and "I don't know what to do."
4. Students do not know the purpose of learning. If you don't seek progress or inappropriate learning methods, you will get tired of studying because you fail the exam.
5. Obsessive-compulsive disorder can easily occur in extreme anxiety situations. If you can't help thinking and doing something, you know there's no need to think, but you can't control yourself, you can't get rid of it, you can't concentrate. Sometimes they do things without their own ideas, like being controlled by the mind, dizziness and confusion, and this obsessive-compulsive disorder does not depend on learning.
In summary, the emotional psychology of adolescents who are tired of learning is introduced in detail. Getting tired of learning is the most common thing. It is recommended that parents pay attention to providing psychological counseling for adolescents in a timely manner to better develop adolescents. I hope that the above psychological knowledge can give you some necessary help to help young people solve fatigue.
Children who are tired of learning and addicted to games not only delay learning, but also have the following harms:
1. Health damage
For children in the physical development period, playing games on computers or mobile phones for a long time will break the rules of daily life, including abnormal diet, poor sleep quality, weight loss, etc., and in severe cases, sudden death.
2. Decreased cognitive level
If children play games for too long, their abstract thinking skills, logical skills, memory, and attention will become worse and worse, resulting in a rapid decline in academic performance and then losing interest in learning.
3. Depressed mood
While proper play is good for the brain, long-term addiction to play can cause children to be depressed, lose confidence in everything, have fewer and fewer friends, and strained relationships.
4. There will be psychological dependence
In the game, their nerves are excited, and unconsciously they will develop psychological dependence on them. If they don't play for a day, they feel uneasy and itchy.
5. Learn about setbacks
As a student, they should focus on learning, but because they are addicted to games and play games for too long, they cannot focus on learning, resulting in poor learning; when they encounter setbacks in learning, children will collapse. It is understood that every year there are bored children, 80% of whom fail the exam because they are addicted to online games and eventually drop out of school.
In the face of children's boredom, what are the ways to guide them?
First, the combination of work and rest. If you are tired of learning, you may have a strong resistance or disgust to learning, and then you can't make your child too tired and tired, but appropriate rest, such as traveling, watching scenery, breathing fresh air, playing games, etc., let the child have enough rest time to learn more energy and face the difficulty of learning.
Second, give more encouragement and tolerance. Because fatigue is likely to encounter setbacks and failures in the learning process, such as declining academic performance, tension with classmates, teachers are particularly unfair to themselves, etc., what children lack most at this time is the encouragement and support of their parents, whether the encouragement, tolerance, understanding and support of parents is the biggest driving force for children's growth.
Third, there are many ways to motivate children to stimulate interest in learning and encouragement in various ways, such as rewards, which can appropriately extend the play time or reward pocket money; as for stimulating interest in learning, children can read world names or participate in exhibition halls, museums, zoos, aquariums, etc. , let the child have a strong curiosity about the world, so as to solve the problem of boredom.
In short, it is normal for children to be bored with school. Parents should not panic too much and correct their child's behavior in an extreme way, which will only lead to the child's rebellion. Parents should understand the reasons for their children's boredom with school, encourage their children to adapt to the rhythm of school, help children get out of school boredom, and guide children to fall in love with learning.
The above is the article brought to you today, if parents feel that it can be helpful in the process of educating their children, please share it with friends who are also in need, and we will escort the growth of their children together.
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